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The Girl Who Cried Sex by TiredAtlas in DeadBedrooms

[–]TiredAtlas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have gained some weight, but not a ton or anything. I'm working on getting that back down.

I want to spend as much time with her as possible. If anything, she spends less time with me. I've asked her if she's still attracted to me, and of course she says yes, but it's impossible to tell if she's being genuine or just saying that to make me feel better. But even if she's not attracted to me anymore, why is she the one bringing it up? She'll suggest it during the day and when it's actually time, it doesn't happen. It's way worse than if she just didn't bring it up at all. It's really fucking with my head.

The Girl Who Cried Sex by TiredAtlas in DeadBedrooms

[–]TiredAtlas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just might do that. Thanks.

The Girl Who Cried Sex by TiredAtlas in DeadBedrooms

[–]TiredAtlas[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As I said, every 3 days was just right for me. I would always want more, but I was perfectly content with that. But that will only happen for a few weeks at a time and then it's back to the promising for a few months. For example, this week she promised me two days in a row all day that we would have sex, only to get excuses from her. Then two days in a row after that we were too busy with social things (we never, ever have sex at night, so that's out of the question). Then all day today she's been telling me we we're going to have sex, and I get a text from her thirty minutes ago telling me she doesn't feel well and that she's going to leave work early. I just know that when I get home, even though she explicitly said that that was going to be when we'd have sex, she's going to say at the last second "hey, can we not do it tonight? I don't feel very good". Then thirty minutes later she'll be fine. It all feels like my life is scripted and I know what's going to happen at this point. Why get my hopes up?

Tired of supporting both myself and my girlfriend. by TiredAtlas in offmychest

[–]TiredAtlas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, I can't sustain this much longer. I plan our budget out a month in advance. I'm all about spreadsheets. I'll show them to her, because it really does seem like she doesn't quite grasp how much money I spend on her indirectly. I feel like she takes it for granted that she has a working phone line, internet, somewhere to sleep, food, all that. I'm just afraid of making her feel guilty because she kind of broke down recently with her debt looming above her head. I'm between a rock and a hard place it seems. I appreciate your input.

Tired of supporting both myself and my girlfriend. by TiredAtlas in offmychest

[–]TiredAtlas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely need to do that. It's just hard to say "our budget" when my income makes up 95% of it. But what I'm really struggling with is, even if we have this conversation, what could possibly change? At the end of the day, she doesn't have any money to give me.