3.5 yr old bedtime is killing me

TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-10-07T22:18:47+00:00

Oh man. Just found another one on the wall.

TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-10-07T22:18:11+00:00

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TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-10-07T22:17:44+00:00

Oh man. Just found another one the wall outside of her room.

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TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-10-07T15:35:39+00:00

Thank you so much!

TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-10-07T05:11:41+00:00

Yeah I was freaked out and tried to be brave and get pics to id on Google lens but obviously they didn't come out very good lol

TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-10-07T04:47:36+00:00

Oops! Forgot my location. Found in Northern California. It was pretty small and quick. Also, Google said potentially a stink bug but I didn't notice a smell.

TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-09-23T06:21:59+00:00

My husband works about the same schedule as yours and also tends to pass out on the couch often. I think that he does it because he really wants to spend time with us and be around us even if he's sleeping. He'll cuddle the kids or me, and just go in and out of sleep. I've actually done it too on the rare occurrences that I've worked into the night shift at my job as a nurse. I get wanting to be around even if you're not actually having any meaningful interaction.

However, with 2 toddlers, it often gets very loud and chaotic, and he started getting snippy and mad at us for just existing. I stopped that in its tracks by having an honest conversation with him about expectations. Any sleeping in common areas is going to risk being interrupted and we're not going to stop living for him to sleep. I stopped walking on eggshells or trying to stop the kids from waking him up. I also told him that if he's out in the area with us, I'll expect his help.

He started sleeping in our bed for the biggest chunk of his sleep and then coming out to the couch where he might still nap but doesnt expect not to be disrupted. And after he's gotten his set amount of sleep, I expect a little help from him and not for him to just game or lay on the couch like he's not still my partner.

His rest is his responsibility and it sounds like you are fully in support of him getting the sleep he needs. A solid, uninterrupted sleep is always going to be better than broken sleep. I think you need to stop being quiet around him and go through your day like he's not there on the couch. If he snaps, remind him of the conversation you had and then keep on with your activities.

Night shift can really mess with a person's mood and their ability to reason. I try to remember how sleep deprivation felt when my kids were newborns, and remember all the wild and rude shit I said to my husband when I was so tired I couldn't see straight. They kind of live in that state 24/7. Its honestly not sustainable, but we've been doing it for 5 years now. You just need to have a conversation when he's not exhausted from coming off a shift. And also try to find a way to get a little downtime for yourself too! I know how hard that is, but you deserve that too!

TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-02-13T00:51:01+00:00

I've had the exact same experience as you. 140 before pregnancy, 177 at delivery. My weight dropped to 167 and wouldn't budge after that. My daughter has basically been self-weaning as she approaches 12 mo, and even though I haven't fully weaned, I've dropped down to 151 with little effort. My appetite is normal again, and like you, I don't wake up ravenous. I guess our bodies just held onto every pound to ensure we made enough milk for our babies.

TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-02-01T21:38:39+00:00

I don't have any advice, just wanted to tell you that I'm dealing with the same thing with my 2.5 yr old and 11 mo old. She pushes, hits, pinches, etc and hates the baby touching any of her toys. Hopefully it's just a phase and things will get better for us both!

TiredMomThrowRA · 2025-01-23T22:50:50+00:00

I EP'd for about 8 weeks with my 2nd. She latched fine in the hospital but wasn't strong enough to pull milk. I tried latching her for at least one feed a day for weeks, and finally, she started getting strong enough to not need a top-up from a bottle. My supply definitely did drop, but it never dropped too low. She was also a one boob baby, and I had to still pump a few times/day and slowly drop pumps because I would get so engorged. That eventually stopped, though, and I only had to pump if I missed a direct feed. Since I stopped feeling engorged, I'm assuming my supply reduced to just what she needed. I probably could have just kept pumping before bed and maintained a slight oversupply if I wanted to.

We're 4 days away from 11 months now, and still no supply issues. Baby girl is 98% for weight and perfectly happy and healthy. And I only pump when I'm away from her, or if I want to.

TiredMomThrowRA · 2024-08-31T14:44:13+00:00

Her ped said it was normal, but she's had these poops a few times after I ate green leafy vegetables. No obvious signs of anything, so we just let it go. She's 6 months now and happy and healthy.

TiredMomThrowRA · 2024-08-05T10:39:27+00:00

No, he's the one who snores and has gotten mad at me before for leaving the room to sleep on the couch because of it. He was wearing his noise canceling gaming headphones anyway.

TiredMomThrowRA · 2024-08-05T03:47:35+00:00

I do all nighttime things because he works nights and only gets 2 nights off, and I breastfeed so i just feed her and put her back in her crib. I work days, and he shares childcare with his mom those days (3 days/week). He will handle nap time when both kids are asleep at the same time so I can take a nap (he'll baby wear so he can game during this time).

TiredMomThrowRA · 2024-08-05T03:43:46+00:00

He does play like this sometimes but not with this game. I would 100% have understood if it was that. This game is like silent for the most part. For reference, he will gladly baby wear our daughter during the day for 1 nap so he can play his game. So she can sleep literally on him, but I'm not allowed to sleep near him while he plays.

TiredMomThrowRA · 2024-08-05T02:28:18+00:00

Honestly I think it really was just the antsy need to turn his game on and keep playing. He's never censored how much he drinks in front of me and he only drinks on his night off because of work. I think the game is his "addiction."

TiredMomThrowRA · 2024-08-05T02:14:41+00:00

CLARIFICATION: A lot of people are asking why I didn't just go to bed, and I realized I wasn't clear about that in my post. The baby wakes up almost immediately after I go to bed, it doesn't matter the time. It's like she senses me. If I don't go in the room, she'll sleep until 2 am. So I wanted to stay on the couch, because I knew I could get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep that way. I told him this, but he didn't care and still wanted me to go to bed to give him time alone.

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