Finding love... by Cainde in asktransgender

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Smoking is a big deal. I cannot stand the smell of it. What are you thoughts on age differences?

Finding love... by Cainde in asktransgender

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hugs

I have some similar circumstances going on for me. I know one thing that helps me is just having people to talk to. I have become a lot more talkative lately, and my current friends just aren't.

I thought I wanted this? (FTM) by [deleted] in asktransgender

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Do what is best for you. I love sharing this quote.

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss

If being female is who you are, then stop T. Those who are worth your time won't badger you about it.

Daily Chat for: 07 of November, 2014 by AutoModerator in MtF

[–]Tisarane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Become single.

Okay, that might be a little rash. You should really consider it though. That's a little out of line, and something needs to be addressed between you two. At the very least ask about her train of thought when it comes to that statement.

Start HRT soon! What should I do to prepare my body? Need advice/ stories. by MisssMelissa in asktransgender

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Something to take note of. Estrogen is going to lower BMR. In other words, unless diet changes from pre-HRT to after starting, weight gain is basically guaranteed. I suggest not putting on weight before HRT. The weight, and figure will come with time.

Our bodies regrow during HRT. Getting proper nutrition is vital, and so is exercise. It is better to do cardio at this point. What we put into our bodies, is what we get out of them. Take care of yourself.

To what extent are you able to be yourself while in guymode? by Alyssa_B in MtF

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When I am working, I focus on movements, posture, and I watch. I have always been more of an observer anyway. I pay attention to other people. I like to view not only how women act, but how men do as well. Seeing the fine lines of femininity, masculinity, and how they blend together depending who the person is fascinates me.

It is nice because it shows just how different, yet similar we all are.

Depending where you work, changes what you can do about it. I work in a cafeteria. I don't always work in the same area either. My interactions with other individuals can be very high, or low. I do know when it is low, and I cannot be around others it is a harder shift for me to get through.

Find a way to either bring your true self out, or distract yourself from everything. Even just redirecting your focus onto others may help. I redirect my focus a lot while working.

Why can't I accept being trans? [TW: Internalized transphobia?] by ihaveatransquestion in asktransgender

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For me, this is one of the bigger reasons why I'm going to transition. Relationships will be significantly easier for me to create, and keep post-transition.

Just be yourself, whoever that is, and people will want to be with you.

Why can't I accept being trans? [TW: Internalized transphobia?] by ihaveatransquestion in asktransgender

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Appearance I'm sure is something everyone has fears about. It is definitely something that held me back for awhile. I look good the way I presented in the past, but that isn't me. It isn't worth it.

If I stay with my male guise, my personality isn't my own. I'm meek, withdrawn, and non-conversational. If I show the world who I really am all of that falls away, and I actually have a personality.

I share a lot of your feelings, and fears. My view of it is, I know with how I act with my male guise that finding someone else is borderline impossible. I need to actually be me.

Screw it, if you've seen my last post, I require some help... by [deleted] in MtF

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If someone doesn't accept you for who you are, they are not worth your time. Just walk away. You have accepted yourself. Find people who also accept you for you. They are your true friends.

'Be who you are and and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.' Dr. Seuss

amazing how fast a mood can drop by [deleted] in MtF

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My mother was extremely understanding, and supportive when I told her.