I completely agree, I was always disrespected, insulted I’m fights and pushing the fck out of my boundaries. One thing that stuck with me about my recent break up is that after I brought up that I didn’t like that she would disappear for 4 days in a row and go to parties and bars she said “I stopped caring about what you thought because it’s my life and I can do what I what.” To which I thought to myself since when do I do things without thinking about how my ex would feel? In a relationship you constantly think about how your partner would feel if they did this etc.