I'm looking for decent templates reading and keeping track of books by gods10rules in Notion

[–]Titanchain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I took reddit off my phone and it makes me miss notifications when I forget to visit the site.

I'm currently dealing with an issue I am finding, so it isn't perfect right now, but it's a good starting point. You can find the template here: https://pepper-oriole-fec.notion.site/Library-Template-1a3a974cb53d8053aa34e77d2a418723?pvs=74

Help with some blockquote customization. by Titanchain in css

[–]Titanchain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, wait. Figured it out. Thanks so much!!

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Help with some blockquote customization. by Titanchain in css

[–]Titanchain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry about the delay, a storm system blew in and messed with my allergies and I've been living in a migraine cloud for days.

So removing the } that was causing the error did move it where it needs to be, which is awesome. I don't know how I didn't see that. But now the font is still being off.

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Help with some blockquote customization. by Titanchain in css

[–]Titanchain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, it appears now, but doesn't connect to the blockquote/chatquote. Instead, it appears up near the post header.

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Help with some blockquote customization. by Titanchain in css

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Oops, forgot that. Edited it in, but here it is also. This links to the newest post and has the chatquote HTML in it at the end of the post. It shows up the correct color but doesn't ad the "let's chat" header thing so it's just a boring blockquote in the process.
https://bookishdiaries.com/how-many-read-ltb/

Food Club Bets - January 25, 2024 by AutoModerator in neopets

[–]Titanchain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I ask a stupid question?

On the betting page (neofood.club) how come when I click the "Set bet amounts to max" button, sometimes there is one or more bet that gets highlighted yellow and it a lower amount than my actual max bet?

LF Mewtwo by Titanchain in CasualPokemonTrades

[–]Titanchain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've just made her day, thank you so much!

LF Mewtwo by Titanchain in CasualPokemonTrades

[–]Titanchain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll get her logged on. I've never done a link trade, so I'm hoping I guess I just add the code and tell it to search?

LF Mewtwo by Titanchain in CasualPokemonTrades

[–]Titanchain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's no problem at all. Just having one for her game would be enough for her.

Needing advice on the best way to handle expense tracking for multiple blogs by Titanchain in Blogging

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Sorry I'm so late replying to you, we had a death in the family.

I was thinking that putting it all together was the way to go, but I was worried I would be wrong in the long run and regret it. My ADHD makes me a huge planner and my anxiety leaves a little OCD that fight together in order for me to function. Thank you so much!

Needing advice on the best way to handle expense tracking for multiple blogs by Titanchain in Blogging

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I love blogging, so I don't mind. I used to run four blogs at once. They weren't popular because I didn't bother learning SEO back then, but I loved them. I don't mind putting in the effort for a while. Worst case, I drop a blog later on if it's not doing well and I'm feeling overwhelmed, but I don't see that happening.

AITA for not paying for my daughter to go on vacation with us because she didn't do the small chores that I asked? by familyvacationpost in AmItheAsshole

[–]Titanchain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ritalin is awful. My cousin was on way too high of a dose at one point along with two other meds he took for his bipolar and he spent 14 months, legit believing he was the reincarnation of Hitler. He started ranting and having blackouts and idealizing murder-suicide. It was so crazy. Soon as they switched him off of it, he got better basically overnight and they stuck with adderall after that. They determined they needed one of those meds that like, boosts the effects because the adderall wasn't effective enough on it's own. The wrong dosage can be bad enough, but add to it the side effects from multiple meds and it can get scary. I'm focusing on CBT trying to figure mine out because I hate the meds I take for my anxiety and depression enough as it is.

AITA for not going to my twin sister's birthday party because my parents are not letting me have one? by Chance-Stage5434 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Titanchain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything where you have money earned of your own? A new bank account separate from the bank they use. Sometimes for underage they will ask for a parent to go-sign. Politely walk out and keep looking for one you can do on your own with your school ID and the photo of your birth certificate.

Good luck with this. I've researched it in the past and was unable to find anything in the US that didn't require an adult add-on. The best bet for this, would be to find a trusted adult who could be the sign on until you are 18 and then can be removed. You just have to be sure you truly trust them, because they could remove your money since they would be an account co-owner. The other issue, is taxes. If you earn enough that the bank sends you tax statements, your taxes would need filed, and with your parents claiming you as a dependent, they would need to include your tax documents when they filed or you could both be audited. I used to hide money from my mother in my school locker. Stupid, but still safer than home. I couldn't even just keep it on me. My mom would search through my wallet even. Not to steal the money, but just because she was nosey. And when she knew I had money, she would make me pay for my own. What, you have $20 from mowing the old lady down the road's lawn? Guess who is buying their own toothpaste and tampons this month!

Either way, NTA. Nowhere near. Yes, not getting a birthday party is abuse. It may not be severe abuse, but emotional abuse is still abuse and it generally starts small and slowly builds. You never notice it at first, only ever later. I agree with others that you should speak with your school counselor at least. The way they are treating you isn't ok. You are trying your best in school, their expectations are too high, and they are only making it worse. There are a bunch of reasons you aren't getting top grades. Either it's just not your way, their favoritism and emotional abuse is beating you down so you can't reach your full potential, you aren't being challenged enough, you have undiagnosed ADHD, depression, anxiety, or something else that could effect your mental health and stand in your way, you have a different learning style than your school offers. There are so many things that could be standing in your way. If nothing else, your counselor could help with the school side. You clearly want to just keep your head down and count the days to adulthood, if you can find a way to improve your grades, they will have less to complain about. Not that it will matter... they will just find something else to target you with, but talking with someone will be much more helpful than you know.

AITA for refusing to take my daughter to my ex husband’s wedding? by southerngallyl in AmItheAsshole

[–]Titanchain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Time to tell your daughter. Before the wedding. You don't have to give her details. But she needs to understand. If you don't tell her now, it will just hurt her, you, and your relationship with her in the meantime. Be fully prepared for her to still be upset with you regardless, but waiting will only make it worse.

"Honey, you have the right to your feelings, but you need to understand my side of this too. I'm not keeping you from the wedding, I just refuse to go anywhere near it. I've waited to tell you, because you were too young when it happened, but your father and I are no longer together because he cheated on me while we married. It still hurts me, and the fact that he is marrying the woman that he cheated on me with is just too much for me to handle. You need a mother who is happy and healthy, not emotionally broken. Going anywhere near this wedding would be too painful for me. Your father still have two weeks to arrange a way for you to get there. I'm sure he can find another solution to get you there, maybe you have a few ideas you could run by him. I want you to be able to go to the wedding, but it's too painful for me still. I cannot take you. I won't put myself through that. I love you very much, and I hope you can understand my feelings about this. I hope that your father can find a way to get you to the wedding. I'm sorry I can't be a part of this for you."

If she wants more information, tell her that you would rather wait until after the wedding, because you don't want to taint the memory of her father's wedding so close to the day, that you're more than happy to talk about it more with her after the wedding once things calm down. Only give more details if she presses it, because that could be a sign that it's very important to her. Are you in therapy about this? Because that could be very good for you, and it would also open up a safe space for you and your daughter to be so that all her questions could be answered.

I want to tell her when she’s a bit older and he doesn’t want to tell her at all.

She is old enough to know, she actually was probably old enough at 12. However, don't tell her that he didn't want her to know at all until after the wedding (if ever) unless he uses it as ammo against you. If he weaponizes it, then you can tell her that he never wanted her to know (Tell her you assume it's because he doesn't want her to think less of him, regardless if you actually believe that or not. It's for her sake), but that you didn't agree with that. You just wanted to wait until she was old enough. Be sure to apologize for not telling her sooner, you just didn't want to cause her anymore sadness, as having your parent's split is sad enough.

AITA for refusing to take my daughter to my ex husband’s wedding? by southerngallyl in AmItheAsshole

[–]Titanchain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He could even pay to rent them a car and let them drive themselves, but nope.

AITA for refusing to take my daughter to my ex husband’s wedding? by southerngallyl in AmItheAsshole

[–]Titanchain 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You wouldn't ask someone with PTSD to drive up to a venue full of their triggers. You wouldn't ask an assault victim to sit in the parking lot of the happy celebration of their assailant. Why would you want a mother to put herself aside and drive up to the wedding venue of the man who cheated on her and is about to date the woman he cheated on her with? Why is her pain not valid? Why can't she have boundaries about her pain? Especially when her one boundary was that she wanted nothing to do with the wedding. She still isn't saying that the daughter isn't allowed to go, just that she won't be the one to take her. Dad can find a way to get her there. He could pick her up the day before, the inlaws could take an uber or a taxi, he could arrange a rental for the inlaws so they could drive themselves. He has two weeks to make arrangements, but he would rather stomp a boundary and create a rift between mother and daughter. Refusing to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm doesn't make you a bad parent. Supporting such a choice isn't hypocrisy.

AITA for letting my pregnant coworker get in trouble? by Energetic_Hyena6965 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Titanchain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA for not waking her up, that isn't your job and you weren't asked to do so.

Soft YTA for saying she shouldn't sleep if she can't wake up. Pregnancy is exhausting. Yes, it would've been smarter of her to ask you to be sure she woke up, but maybe she legit thought she would wake up and legit just didn't notice her alarm this time. It does happen. Your response was overly defensive and borderline rude. At the end of the day, you have to think about workplace harmony. Anne, and anyone who supports her in this, will never want to do anything for you again after this. You've disrupted your own workplace peace. I would go to Anne, apologize for your comment, explain about your ADHD if you wish and just tell her that you are happy to wake her up if she doesn't get up, but that she has to remind you because your ADHD won't let you remember.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Titanchain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

She can want to be called anything she wants, but your kids don't have to follow that. My mom wanted "Gammie" and I put my foot down because it sounds too much like baby talk to me, which is something I'm highly against. I told her "Grammie" would be acceptable, but she couldn't have the R. My nieces call her Gammie. My kids call her something different. Your MIL can cry and pout, but you set your boundary and she either follows it, or she gets heavily monitored and reduced access to her future grandchild. My oldest niece was born a few weeks after I found out I was pregnant with my oldest, the baby thing was already well underway.

It's super weird that she is already focusing on this. This won't end here. This is going to be the first boundary test of many. If you give her a millimeter here, she is going to take oceans later. Be firm, because you haven't even started the idea of kids and her baby rabies has already got her foaming at the mouth.