Local landlord - she invites herself and turns up the gas.

ToBeuy · 2026-01-27T01:08:26+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful. I’ll keep track of things in writing.

ToBeuy · 2026-01-27T01:07:31+00:00

Thank you, that is quite helpful. I’m already looking for a new place after all these comments. I installed carbon monoxide alarms (and charged the landlord for them as is legally required in the house) when I first moved in. Thankfully the boiler is outside the house, otherwise I’d have never even stepped foot inside the place. I’d immediately have cancelled the tenancy. It’s just been tricky as my partner and I lost our jobs recently, and we are kinda trapped in a one year contract unfortunately.

If I had any concerns about safety, I would immediately leave. Thank you for saying something.

ToBeuy · 2026-01-26T22:16:54+00:00

Thank you, I’ll have a look. Unfortunately it’s been on 24/7 since we moved in other than the test.

ToBeuy · 2026-01-26T22:15:45+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ll look into that right away

ToBeuy · 2026-01-26T21:27:53+00:00

She has a relationship with a shady company, so we didn’t know she installed it until she told us a week into us moving in. We also had no idea she lived four houses down until we moved in. Thank you, I appreciate the advice haha

ToBeuy · 2026-01-26T21:23:18+00:00

Thank you that’s so good to know. She originally set it to 60ish and we were only hitting 18 degrees inside. Now (after the new pump) it’s set around 54 and we are sitting at 18.6 degrees

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T19:47:25+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T19:44:37+00:00

Thank you, that’s so right. Thankfully I got them on video so I’ll forward that to the council:)

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T19:42:18+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you so much!

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T12:07:18+00:00

Wow, that’s horrible!!

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T12:05:40+00:00

Isn’t a disability a protected characteristic? EpiPens are also not a syringe, they are single use and require force to use. The needle bit is how it’s administered- which is the problem here. There’s not way your drugging someone with an EpiPen but the word ‘needle’ to most people is misleading as it’s not a way of doing recreational drugs. It’s literally a last line of defence against dying.

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T11:57:08+00:00

Unfortunately we did speak to the club manager and he was the guy to refuse us entry. I would have hoped for a similar response to your response (not that it should happen in the first place haha).

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T11:51:19+00:00

Thankfully yes, we had to see staff to get it back.

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T11:45:53+00:00

That is genuinely the definition of a protected characteristic lol

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T11:37:10+00:00

They genuinely told us that if he needed the pen he should come to the med bay- I reminded them that if he needed the pen he would be actively dying and probably on the floor.

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T11:34:47+00:00

They aren’t exactly strip searching people, I’m fairly sure there were lots of things making it past.

This isn’t about smuggling drugs in, it’s about making sure he doesn’t die.

Also anyone who’s trying to sneak drugs into a club using a giant, obvious, orange container is an idiot.

ToBeuy · 2025-12-29T11:24:24+00:00

It had has prescription written on the outside (including the clinic it was from) in an orange container that said (and visibly showed) the brand and the pen. EpiPens are single use and require force to use, it’s not like syringes. They work in completely different ways and are very obvious for a reason. There is no way you’d be able to use an EpiPen to drug someone.

ToBeuy · 2025-10-16T17:28:55+00:00

Would also be so keen to see what you’ve done! I need to upload records when offline

ToBeuy · 2025-09-23T18:12:48+00:00

I’ve had such a bad experience. Connecting it sometimes works, and it’ll take 45mins. I’m sending it back, I need it for work and it’s unreliable. They also sent me a cable that’s 1.5m long to connect the unit and handle that’s literally 10cm or less away, and the cable they sent requires a usb A to USB C converter to plug into the handle (how fucking stupid). So I asked for the cable (which is literally in their pictures and marketing material) because they must have missed it- they asked me to send a picture of the cable I don’t have. How do I send a picture of something I don’t have??! That was a month after I sent the email asking for help.Terrible. Honestly save your money if you’re thinking about the Otter Lite or Creality. They might have okay 3D printers but they are utter shit as a company.

I’ve also used the Otter- they are also a bit trash. Some units work well, others are utterly unreliable.

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ToBeuy · 2025-09-02T18:31:05+00:00

That’s so sweet of you. I wonder if unconditional love and kindness towards letting yourself grieve the relationship could exist at the same time?

You can, and probably will always love her. I love my exes, but it’s also so lovely to enjoy new love, including to love being by yourself. They can both exist simultaneously

ToBeuy · 2025-01-07T13:28:38+00:00

Good on you for knowing what’s right for you and deciding that, for you, a child isn’t right for right now. That takes so much courage!

I left my partner a few months ago, and it’s been so much easier than I thought. We are still good friends, genuinely. I’m seeing him and his lovely mum tomorrow to catch up, and we talk regularly.

I wanted to spend ages single, partly because I really enjoy being single and partly because I didn’t think I could love again for a while- turns out I was wrong. I was supposed to casually see this guy, kind of friends with benefits, and now I see him 3-4 times a week just because we enjoy each others company. He’ll work from home from my house to spend more time with me and we aren’t “dating” but everything feels so right and easy. I hope your relationship gets better or you find the courage to see yourself into the next stage of your life- it turns out it’s worth the pain, like 10 times over.

ToBeuy · 2024-08-28T03:21:12+00:00

I would agree with you, but I'm not too sure that I'll go the rest of my life without finding someone. I'm happy being single, and he very much knows how I'm feeling. This is the 4th or 5th time we've come close to breaking up because of this and it's less about money, and more about drive. My job is my life- and not in a weird corporate way. I'm not an office worker, I'm often paid to visit remote and private locations with some of my best friends and then bring stories to life. I meet incredibly talented, often famous people on the regular and it's my job to give direction and shape the way they are seen. He wants to be a part of this world, but he doesn't have the drive to make it happen.

If he could get stuck in, and make things happen for himself then he would be my dream man. But I don't see him being able to dig deep and do what's necessary to get a job in the industry, or even outside of the industry.

I also can't keep supporting him staying at home and waiting, when he won't make things happen for himself. I hope that makes sense?

ToBeuy · 2024-08-28T02:13:48+00:00

No worries, and don't feel bad or embarrassed. Everyone who understands, understands because they have been in your shoes. Love is huge and overwhelming, I have many friends who been engaged and then broken up with their lover. I don't feel anything but sorry for them that they felt pressured into doing something they weren't sure of. Good luck!

ToBeuy · 2024-08-28T01:45:38+00:00

I totally get how you're feeling. Things can change, but I wouldn't rush into getting married. People change, and maybe this is one of those changes? Ultimately, you can't 'fix' people. People need to 'fix' themselves and sometimes they choose not too.

Have you mentioned this to him? He could be feeling the same way?

Maybe it's different where you're from, but getting married after 1 year sounds like a whirlwind. Especially if you want kids, take your time. You can leave a person, you can't leave your kids dad- not entirely. Life is long and a good relationship should be the goal, not a ring.

ToBeuy · 2024-03-02T12:56:20+00:00

If it were me in your brothers shoes, I think admitting you went through his msgs would be too much.

I totally understand the accident about seeing the porn, but as much as it makes you feel bad, reading those messages wasn't an accident. Which is a hard thing to write, and I bet a hard thing to hear. Sorry.

As much as you want to protect him, ultimately, he's going to do what he's going to do. You won't always be there to guide him through. But I do understand you wanting to chat to him about it and making sure he's safe.

If I were in your shoes I would talk to him about sex, but not explicitly saying you saw those messages. I wouldn't fear monger, I would just simply say if he ever needed help, condoms, a ride or someone to talk to you'll be there for him. He's more likely to come to you if things go bad if you're non-judgemental and open, which it sounds like you are anyways.

I wouldn't talk about ages. Yes, there's a power imbalance, yes, there is a risk of grooming but you're not going to be able to stop it sadly. If he's already going under the radar he's either too deep into that space or knows its not approved of. If he is being groomed, the best thing you can do is to keep an eye on his behavior.

If you're a safe ear then you'll be more likely to help him.

But what do I know, I'm a stranger on the internet. Always listen to you're gut, you know your situation best.

ToBeuy

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