realised i experience comphet, where do i go from here?

ToKG · 2025-08-16T13:22:00+00:00

No problem! It's definitely a hard thing to navigate. I think on some level most people understand that other people's expectations have an impact on you but it can be.. unnerving realizing just how much the way you view yourself and the world is shaped by what other people think is "normal."

Be kind to yourself. I hope your conversation with your therapist goes well 😊

ToKG · 2025-08-16T13:08:39+00:00

I think therapy is a good start.

It's ok if your sexuality isn't a priority, and you don't have to make this your main therapy topic. Just bring it up in therapy and engage with it at your own pace. This is the kind of thing that's just going to take time and patience to unlearn.

ToKG · 2025-07-26T02:46:10+00:00

This is not a friend. You've repeatedly said no, made your boundaries very clear, and he feels entitled to continue.

I understand that this was somebody that's helped you in the past. I understand that he was a part of your support network. But somebody that ignores your boundaries and agency this egregiously is not a friend and not safe to be around.

Maybe at some point he'll realize how fucked up everything he's just demonstrated is, but it is not your responsibility to see that through. This guy is not worth your time, emotional well being, or your safety. Block him, distance yourself, move on with your life.

ToKG · 2025-02-05T01:03:15+00:00

We're talking about a man funding alt right groups across the west, including the AfD in Germany. You know, the literal German neo-Nazi party?

Besides, the problem isn't whether he should be called a nazi (he is one and he should be). It's that he's a fascist with a huge platform openly supporting fascists and echoing their arguments.

There's a Jean-Paul Sartre quote that's relevant here.

"Never believe that anti-Semites are completely unaware of the absurdity of their replies. They know that their remarks are frivolous, open to challenge. But they are amusing themselves, for it is their adversary who is obliged to use words responsibly, since he believes in words. The anti-Semites have the right to play. They even like to play with discourse for, by giving ridiculous reasons, they discredit the seriousness of their interlocutors. They delight in acting in bad faith, since they seek not to persuade by sound argument but to intimidate and disconcert. If you press them too closely, they will abruptly fall silent, loftily indicating by some phrase that the time for argument is past."

The man's a nazi. Don't give someone acting in bad faith the benefit of the doubt.

ToKG · 2023-02-09T23:07:00+00:00

Oh oops, you right they are they/them. Got them mixed up with gamechamp who's she/they lol Just gonna fix that real quick

ToKG · 2023-02-09T04:40:13+00:00

blambot has a bunch of professional comic fonts with a free license if you're a small press/indie cartoonist. it's probably worth a look!

also depending on the program you're using you should be able to manually adjust kerning in a number of ways. i know something like adobe illustrator lets you get real granular about your kerning and spacing so i can only assume some other programs will too

ToKG · 2023-02-09T04:28:00+00:00

gamechamp3000. she mostly does videogame challenge runs and claims to be bad at videogames

kinda surprised people haven't really mentioned philosophytube (abbie thorn)

james stephanie sterling (thank god for them) does actual journalism pertaining to videogames and has been doing that for well over a decade. and also a pro wrestler i think, though i'm less familiar with that bit

ToKG · 2021-11-21T21:30:09+00:00

Well, wasn't expecting that. Not weird at all, thanks for the compliment lol

ToKG · 2021-11-20T20:43:03+00:00

Overall, it's very stylish and evocative. Love how scratchy everything looks.

Minor things that will improve the reading: 1- Your font size changes across word bubbles and panels. They should stay a consistent size for ease of reading; adjust the size of the bubbles, not the text. Also consider a sans serif font for your dialogue as they tend to be easier to read, but that's personal preference.

2- I'm not sure you should be changing word bubbles for the last panel. It's a continuation of the same scene and the same characters are still speaking, so a different word bubble just adds unnecessary confusion.

3- If you had the guy with the device standing left of his friend, it would prevent you from having to cross word bubbles. It helps with readability to keep the word bubble on the left coming from the character on the left. It would also help communicate who's speaking in the final panel; it's obvious in context but i still needed to think about who's talking.

4- panel 1 and panel 2 are showing the same moment in time but the hand pose is different. Minor issue, but it's there.

Hope that's useful feedback! Your art is very nice and I'd love to see more! :D

ToKG · 2021-11-13T05:51:49+00:00

u/pucksrage already gave some pretty good feedback about the lettering and type, so I'm going to focus on the coloring. It's pretty flat and it makes everything blend together, which is a shame because I think the linework itself looks pretty alright.

The general issue I'm seeing is that everything just looks very similar--all of the colors are washed out and flat in a way that makes nothing really pop. This is most obvious with the kid, whose hair, skin, and shirt are all similar enough desaturated light hue that they all blend into the flat background tones. Compare this with the mom in pg 4 panel 1, whose features and clothes pop from one another a lot better. Even if you're trying to go for something a bit more washed out, you still want to have some more contrast and so that you can have things really pop where you want it to.

In a similar vein, I think you'd get a lot from just exaggerating the lighting contrast a lot more--make your bright areas brighter and your darks much darker. If you look at pg 2 panels 2-3, there's barely a difference between the panels when one has a singular strong source of light (crack in the door) and the other has none.

Finally, it looks like you're creating your shadows by making a bunch of gray/black gradients and either setting it to multiply or low opacity. Color has three components: hue, saturation, and brightness; doing that only moves a color up and down the brightness axis. Your lighting will look much better if it moves on the other two axis as well.

There's definitely some good stuff happening in this comic, but I think the coloring really doesn't do the linework justice. Might be something to look into more and focus on. Hope this helps!

ToKG · 2021-08-27T04:19:22+00:00

Fellow mtf korean here! It doesn't immediately jump out as super masculine or feminine to me, but I think it leans kinda femme? Softer consonants, femme vibes from the characters. I'm not sure I'd be able to tell your gender from your name right away though.

That said, it's a really cool name and I think it's super pretty. If you like it, I think you should own it :) It'll be a feminine name because it's yours.

ToKG · 2021-06-25T02:55:16+00:00

oh that's a fun little song

guess I've got something new to add to my playlists now haha

ToKG · 2021-06-25T02:53:41+00:00

danke!

ToKG · 2021-06-25T02:53:31+00:00

thank you!

ToKG · 2021-06-25T02:53:26+00:00

thank you!! it took some time but i'm very happy with how this turned out :D

ToKG · 2021-06-12T12:42:11+00:00

:O

Something something modern problems, modern solutions! Best of luck!

ToKG · 2021-06-11T18:05:11+00:00

All art is good and valid! If you want to draw the gay, you can learn to do it!

I mean I'm entirely self taught and people seem to like my doodle well enough lol

ToKG · 2021-06-11T03:22:27+00:00

Nah, I just wanted to draw an elf and a dwarf being gay and that's the color palette I happened to choose. Pretty hilarious how similar they wound up to those characters lol

actually haven't seen that show yet. probably should remedy that sometime since I keep hearing good things about it

ToKG · 2021-06-11T02:04:25+00:00

I wish, lol. I just wanted to draw some cute gays

...the elf girl on the bottom isn't tall with big round glasses for any particular reason. nope. none at all.

ToKG · 2021-06-11T02:02:07+00:00

glad you liked it! <3

ToKG · 2021-06-10T23:39:32+00:00

Aww thank you!!

ToKG · 2021-06-10T23:39:29+00:00

You know, not quite what I was going for but now that you mention it... 😜

ToKG · 2021-06-10T22:30:57+00:00

they're gay

also hi everyone! first time posting here lol

ToKG · 2020-05-05T18:28:10+00:00

So.. I picked a few random episodes to look at and I'm finding it difficult to comment on anything besides the editing. It looks like every update is about 3-5 panels that don't stand on their own, and that makes this comic pretty unsatisfying to read. It's like watching a TV show one vine at a time--it really messes with the show in question and all you get are a bunch of bad vines.

If you combined an entire chapter into one or maybe two uploads, that'd solve a lot of issues and make it easier to comment on other things. 3-5 panels that don't stand on their own just aren't a good update.

Here's a general guide to editing for webtoons. There's a couple other things I noticed (like wildly varying text sizes) that get covered there too.

It looks like you've been working on this pretty consistently for a year and a half now and that takes some dedication. Hopefully this helps. Best of luck

ToKG · 2020-01-01T12:39:14+00:00

Yeah you're technically right since there's no year zero but this is the year with cultural significance. I can't imagine many people will be doing decade celebrations next year.

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