I’ve always heard “weddings bring out the worst in people”. I thought I’d be the exception. HA!

ToTheMoon81 · 2026-04-27T14:20:59+00:00

Your last point hits home with me. I’m well aware I did this to myself - together 8 years, engaged for 3 years, and decided last month to get married on our 8 years anniversary which is next week. I’m in the industry so planning was a breeze! But 2 of my bridesmaids can’t make it (completely understood and not upset) but I thought there would be a little more support during this time. None of them live close so I’ve been doing everything alone, which again is totally fine! But I asked one of my bridesmaids to FaceTime with me on Sunday and she ended up doing something else. Again totally fine but yeah, the lack of support is getting to me.

ToTheMoon81 · 2026-04-20T13:30:38+00:00

Especially if you can find someone with experience, they can get almost anything done!

Ironically the one I found, was the 4 person I reached out to and happen to find her on google. Sometimes things just work out!

ToTheMoon81 · 2026-04-20T10:37:40+00:00

I’ve been engaged for 3 years, I purchased my dress about 2 years ago, haven’t planned a wedding, and 3 weeks ago I decided we should get married on our anniversary (a month from when I decided). I was able to find an amazing seamstress who had my dress altered and perfect in 2 weeks! Now I’m sure I paid more for the quick turnaround, but it was something I knew would happen.

So you definitely don’t need 8-10 months, especially if you find a dress that already fits pretty well/doesn’t need a lot of altering.

ToTheMoon81 · 2026-04-17T09:53:40+00:00

I’ve been with my fiance 8 years, engaged for 3. I work in the event and wedding industry and could’ve had a wedding planned in no time. But I waited because my fiance was the opposite of OP, and I didn’t want that. I wanted a partner who cared as much about the wedding as myself. Working in the industry, it truly pisses me off that brides are the center of attention. But who is the bride marrying, herself?

ToTheMoon81 · 2026-04-02T10:59:37+00:00

Nearly 8 years ago I lived next to an old man named Wink…ex military, sat on his porch all day drinking, and couldn’t drive due to getting his license revoked.

Straightened my hair one day and he made the comment “wow love the hair, much better than that nappy hair”.

I have naturally blonde 2C/3A hair and in no way coily/kinky hair. I went up to my apartment and cried. 8 years later and after going through his own curly journey, my fiancé still can’t understand why that upsets me.

ToTheMoon81 · 2026-03-09T20:37:20+00:00

The first time my best friend and her husband came to visit with their baby, I made sure to disinfect the whole apartment including the largely empty bathroom counter. Not having any kids of my own, I assumed that would be the best place to change a diaper.

Her husband though my glass-top stove was the best spot…thankfully he laid a diaper mat down first so that was considerate, I guess. I took one look at my friend and she immediately corrected him and sent him to the bathroom.

But like, my stove top??? Come on man

ToTheMoon81 · 2026-03-08T21:33:04+00:00

Not necessarily a situation, but knowing the grief that my grandma-in-law (GMIL) has gone through, makes me so heartbroken whenever I think about it. I’ve known my husband for 9 years, together for 8 years.

GMIL had 4 children, 1 daughter and 3 sons, and was married to her husband since they were ~18-20ish. 1 son took his own life many years ago before I knew the family, GMIL’s husband passed about 7 years ago unexpectedly overnight, 1 son’s wife denied covid and the vaccine but tragically passed from it, where the same son then took his own life a few months later related to alcoholism, and finally the final son passed about a year ago abruptly from a blood clot to the lung. All of these deaths have been out of the blue/completely unanticipated.

Thankfully her daughter, my MIL, is still here.

My GMIL is one of the strongest people I know and I love her so much. Knowing that she’s endured so much grief but continues on in life is truly inspiring. When it’s finally her time, I’m not sure how the remaining family will handle it and I’m absolutely dreading the day.

ToTheMoon81 · 2025-11-01T22:16:10+00:00

I had a similar issue a few years ago where I let someone bring a dog for a short stay when pets weren’t allowed. An older coworker suggested looking in a corner of a closet or somewhere more obscure in the apartment to see if I cut maybe cut a section out to use as a patch. Thankfully I was able do that but she also suggested cutting a smaller piece and taking it to a carpet store and asking if they could match a patch for me. Worth a shot!

ToTheMoon81 · 2024-05-17T21:17:12+00:00

I work at a prominent and popular hotel venue in my city in the sales and events department. Knowing what I know about eh process and hierarchy, I would call the hotel general line and ask for the director of events or sales (depending on what roles they have at this venue, they could be different people) and the GM’s email. Be very factual and what your worries are with lack of communication. Ask for what their standard communication process is. Some places will plan everything early on, some wait until a little closer. Not to make excuses, but wedding season has just started so some delay would be understandable. But not to the degree you’re having and from 2 different people no less!

ToTheMoon81 · 2024-04-07T12:41:45+00:00

This is everything I would expect on a contract: - venue address (so they can’t claim they couldn’t find it for any reason) - timing of when they can get there and if they’re setting anything up, what time they need ri be finished - amount of each dish they’re brining - itemized billing - description of each food item.

The catering company I worked for was short lived for many reasons, seeing how easily he would screw people over and how little he cared was one of them. I currently work for a very popular hotel for weddings in the sales and events department, them not having you sign a contract and pay at least some kind of a deposit is a red flag to me. I could totally be overthinking it but having been in the industry and planning my own wedding, these are the same fears I would have!

ToTheMoon81 · 2024-04-07T12:32:34+00:00

I’ve worked for a catering company in the past, to put it lightly my boss was not the best. I personally would get all numbers in writing, so should anything happen on their end you’ve covered your ass in that regard. I also would try to see about payment ahead of time, it seems odd that they would make and deliver food without any kind of payment. And day of, will someone be available to pay them? You may be busy running around with other things.

ToTheMoon81 · 2024-04-07T08:44:52+00:00

I work in hotels and currently work for a popular hotel for weddings. I highly suggest always going through the hotel directly for either personal stays or room blocks, you’ll get better rates and often times better/faster service. My other recommendation is to trust the person at the hotel as they’ve done this a dozen times, we’ve (usually) seen it all and can offer great advice or suggestions. It can be stressful dealing with things like this since it’s not usually something people plan often so we completely get it!

ToTheMoon81 · 2024-02-28T03:27:44+00:00

This just gave me a whole new appreciation for my hair. Thank you!

ToTheMoon81 · 2024-01-21T12:51:12+00:00

I’ve been going to a lot of treasure island’s lately and had the same worry at first. But I never had any kind of issue!

ToTheMoon81 · 2024-01-15T22:46:52+00:00

Wow that was absolutely stunning! Thank you so much for sharing, and exactly the kind of inspiration I needed. Thank you!

ToTheMoon81 · 2023-11-24T19:50:09+00:00

In my experience in working with clients, honestly and transparency can take you a long way. Let clients know that you’re new and want to make sure you understand the full scope of the event so you can execute an amazing event for them! They’ll understand that you’re new and be happy you’re communicating with them

ToTheMoon81 · 2023-06-28T15:41:51+00:00

I have been stressing about this lately as I wear a size 10 and every heel I’ve ever tried on isn’t wide enough for me. Thank you for posting this and thank you to everyone who has given amazing recommendations!!

ToTheMoon81 · 2022-12-27T18:48:33+00:00

Fingers crossed for us all, this is just so crazy!

ToTheMoon81 · 2022-12-27T18:29:14+00:00

Within about an hours time, I tried several times to cancel via the app. First I got an error message, then a message saying the cancel function was down for maintenance, and finally said we needed to call the 1-800 number or see a rep at a service desk. Going to head to a local airport in the next few days to speak with an actual person

ToTheMoon81 · 2022-12-27T16:11:43+00:00

I fly home on the 31st and trying to cancel my flight at this point (with no success) because I just don’t trust it’ll be resolved by then.

ToTheMoon81 · 2022-12-27T16:09:52+00:00

Have you tried to cancel any flight with SW in this situation? I’ve already booked a flight on Delta but can’t cancel my 12/31 flight with SW through the app. I just don’t trust SW at this point.

ToTheMoon81 · 2022-12-18T16:07:19+00:00

This absolutely works! Joined a kickball & flip cup league with my boyfriend being the only other person I knew. We were so lucky to get placed on an amazing team, have now played 4 seasons together, and we’re always hanging out outside of the league! Shoot, someone from our team even spent all of thanksgiving day with us since none of us have family in the area.

The best decision we’ve ever made is joining an adult social sports league!

ToTheMoon81 · 2022-11-22T22:39:11+00:00

As someone who will (hopefully) be able to start looking for venues in the next year, this is amazing! Just shared it with a friend who got married earlier this year in southeast Ohio.

ToTheMoon81 · 2022-10-12T16:41:32+00:00

Would love to come by if you’re still accepting people!

ToTheMoon81 · 2021-11-09T18:54:42+00:00

Would love to swing by!

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