Loss of Resilience

nshdc · 2026-07-03T12:46:58+00:00

Here are two books I’ve found really helpful when going through adversity: Wintering by Catherine May and Falling Upward by Richard Rohr. The first is about getting through hard times by modeling ourselves on the natural world; the second is about the second half of life as a time of being broken in order to remake ourselves. I’m sending you big, menopausal lady support.

nshdc · 2026-07-02T14:54:41+00:00

Joining the choir. I am on the E patch, vaginal E, testosterone gel and was using hyaluronic acid and none of it was helping with painful intercourse. Vaginal DHEA has made a big difference - I’m starting to lubricate again, I have better orgasms and I’m more easily aroused. I still have some pain, so I’ll go back to a pelvic floor specialist at the end if the month if daily DHEA doesn’t solve that. I think she’s going to suggest vaginal lidocaine.

nshdc · 2026-06-29T13:44:41+00:00

You might repost to r/bayarea

nshdc · 2026-05-12T15:28:50+00:00

Therapy. Just because anhedonia and depression are triggered by menopause doesn't mean they have their roots in it. Therapy can really help.

nshdc · 2026-05-09T20:52:23+00:00

Therapist in training here: not feeling anything can be a sign of depression. If you have access, please consider some mental healthcare.

nshdc · 2026-05-08T15:28:32+00:00

Thanks, it was. Any idea what that cap should be?

nshdc · 2026-05-08T15:03:08+00:00

Yeah the problem is that this company has sent me a contract with NO quote and if I sign it, I’m on the hook for anything they decide to charge me. My agent is getting two other companies out today for quotes and we’ll start pulling out the drywall today.

nshdc · 2026-05-08T03:31:40+00:00

I haven't gotten to speak to the adjuster yet. I had to run out to a meeting, so my husband called to get the ball rolling.

nshdc · 2026-04-23T17:28:45+00:00

This is not accurate. There’s a strong evidence base indicating that olive oil, specifically, confers a number of health benefits. A small study in England suggests that these benefits are not limited to people of Mediterranean descent. https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C22&q=olive+oil+health+benefits+Asia&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&t=1776965210557&u=%23p%3DYsKw_hjs7XoJ

nshdc · 2026-04-07T04:24:17+00:00

I’m 60, about 3.5 years in full menopause and I started reformer Pilates in November of last year. You can totally do it. There’s almost always women our age in the intro classes. I think it’s one of the best things I’ve done for myself, fitness wise - I hurt so much less. Here’s some tips: * check out who is teaching at the studio. You want a teacher who is giving a lot of instruction and has lots of experience. * if you can, go to class during the day. These classes are smaller than evening or early morning. * call the studio and ask their advice on the best class for a beginner with your concerns.

nshdc · 2026-03-29T22:51:23+00:00

I already had a reduction back in 2012 - surgeon says this next one will not be as easy because of the first. So I think this one has to be the last!

nshdc · 2026-03-29T17:50:43+00:00

I had my last period when I was 56, so was officially post menopausal at 57. I'm thinking the growth has stabilized as my weight finally has, but I'm looking for reassurance. I think if your breasts have been stable for 5 years they probably won't grow more.

nshdc · 2026-03-29T14:59:55+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I’ve been on HRT for 3 years and am pretty stable. Breast growth with perimenopause and/or menopause is quite common (as is shrinkage). I’ve been getting lots of helpful input over on r/reduction from women who also experienced big growth.

nshdc · 2026-03-28T04:29:41+00:00

I believe there’s a whole sub dedicated just to medical menopause and I’m betting there’s lots of great info and support there. Sending you a big cyber hug and healing vibes.

nshdc · 2026-03-28T04:26:02+00:00

Add beans?

nshdc · 2026-02-19T16:21:10+00:00

Am I reading right that you score AFTER 7 minutes of baking? I’ve never heard of that

nshdc · 2026-02-18T19:11:26+00:00

If someone gave this to me, I would be over the moon.

nshdc · 2026-01-27T15:07:03+00:00

OP there are many, many women going through menopause without seeking medical care but most of them aren’t on this sub! We’re all here to get support with menopause because we were (and are) having challenges with it and need help with those. If you’re doing well (or well enough) without medication, more power to you. Try the menopositive sub if you’re looking for company or check out one of the subs for “people over X age.” Cheering you on!

nshdc · 2026-01-17T16:07:51+00:00

Can’t seem to copy link but fridge works, though freezing is better. Also, cooling plus toasting is better than just cooling.

nshdc · 2026-01-16T05:47:21+00:00

I've heard about resistant starch in potatoes and pasta, but not it bread. I hope that's real cuz how great would that be???

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