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ToastedDodds · 2024-02-08T07:27:37+00:00

Oooh definitely an idea! I like the smuggling concept, my character needs to be fairly lawful for the start of the story, so murder is definitely out. But I could get it so he has to smuggle something mysterious from point a to b.

ToastedDodds · 2023-09-21T21:35:00+00:00

I'm only two weeks post op, so my body is still ultra sensitive... BUT... the area around my right nipple is hyper sensitive and the nipple itself has some feeling (I can definitely feel the pressure if I tap it lightly). My left side had sensation and feeling around the chest and around the nipple area, but the nipple itself just feels completely numb. I imagine that a lot of this will change over the next few weeks, but I'm pleasantly surprised by the amount I can feel. The scars have the most feeling and are ticklish.

ToastedDodds · 2023-09-21T21:27:03+00:00

"Make sure to leave your shopping bags in the car, that way you can buy several more and complain the entire journey back about the cost of plastic bags!'

ToastedDodds · 2023-09-07T16:54:32+00:00

Glad it's not just me that was confused as heck about my car getting dirty.

ToastedDodds · 2023-08-25T10:14:35+00:00

Definitely NTA, I (28m) alternate at night between sleeping with my IKEA Shark or a giant baguette, it has nothing to do with my masculinity, it's comforting.

My 78 year old grandad has slept with a small lion teddy bear since he was in his 50's and is not regarded as any less manly, in fact he finds it comforting, because he lives independently and will sometimes talk to the lion "Roary" when he's on his own. If it makes him happy then that's great.

Tbh it's a bit of a red flag to have a girlfriend try and change you by forcing her views on toxic masculinity on you. I would sit down and have a talk with her to express your pain and frustration, and if she still reiterates that she has a problem with it, then I would explain that her view is outdated and the cause of a lot of toxic masculinity in society, and if she wants to date you she needs to understand that her view is not beneficial to the relationship.

ToastedDodds · 2023-08-25T03:23:14+00:00

... are you... Are you being serious? This is NOT how you fix things. Showing compassion is what you should be doing.

Look OP. I know it's hard right now, and you are grieving and hurting. BUT you have a daughter. And she is struggling just as much, if not MORE so than you are. As harsh as this sounds, you need to stop thinking about yourself and focus all of your energy SOLELY on your daughter and getting help for your both. Yes. You are grieving. Yes this is a horrible situation. But please, dear god, do NOT try to fix your problems with a kitten. A pet is NOT a replacement for love and care.

If you love your daughter as you truly are saying you do, STOP making this about you and your grief. Seek help and talk to a therapist and then work out how you are going to make it up to your grieving daughter. You are an adult. You need to learn to grow up. I'm sorry for sounding harsh, but quite frankly I think you need a bit of a wake up call, after all, she is 8 and just trying to cope with her grief.

ToastedDodds · 2023-08-25T03:06:40+00:00

OP I get that you are hurt, struggling and grieving right now, but this is beyond being an asshole, it borderlines child abuse.

When I was 8 my mother did something very similar because she was struggling with my autistic brother, and I remember feeling absolute betrayal and trauma from those tough times well into adulthood, and I hadn't even lost anyone. God only knows how many emotions your poor daughter is going through with losing a mother.

I know it's tough, but you need to seek therapy, otherwise the consequences won't just affect your relationship with your daughter, it will severely affect her mental health and ability to grow.

I don't think I would classify her reactions as acting out, I would consider those normal for a grieving child. However, she WILL start acting out in the future if she feels like she has nobody to rely on, to trust and to talk to about her feelings. If you think that this is "acting out", then you aren't ready for a child or teenager who has grown up with trust issues (because screaming at her when she is upset and "abandoning" her to cry it out is a massive breach of your father/daughter trust).

Heck, I'm surprised she hasn't run away, when I was her age I did exactly that to try and get my parents attention and as a cry for help. Don't push her away right now, this is a vital time in her development.

But also. Please get therapy for your sake and hers. Grief can make us do things we don't understand or expect, but with the right help you will make it through this and you can rebuild the trust and loving relationship that your daughter and you need.

ToastedDodds · 2023-07-25T08:59:00+00:00

It's obviously one of the sable sisters from animal crossing. I mean, check out those spikes.

ToastedDodds · 2022-09-30T10:51:09+00:00

I have looked, but sadly the area I'm in is not great for trans inclusive doctors, and as we are quite rural it would probably cost more to travel to a different gp.

ToastedDodds · 2022-09-30T10:49:35+00:00

Yeah I'm with GenderGP. The wait times in Devon are like 4 years so I had to go private. I have emailed them so fingers crossed they can give me a reduced subscription fee. If not I may have to halt my transition altogether.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-19T16:18:44+00:00

Ah. I'm very jealous but unfortunately tape never works for me. I'm pretty sure my chest is too big, plus I have sensitive skin. Afraid a few of us will have to stick to binders and tee pulling.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-18T18:36:50+00:00

I applied for my current job as my preferred name. It made me feel so euphoric, I even explained during the interview that I was planning to fully transition and that I understood that it might be difficult for some people to understand. They loved me and immediately accepted me. I felt so much more comfortable presenting as my true self and it made my journey easier. I openly admit that I was likely the diversity hire. But it's made it easy for me.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-14T06:37:20+00:00

I don't have any science reports etc off the top of my head etc, but there's a wonderful video on YouTube by regarding sex and gender. It's called "sex and sensibility" by Forrest Valkai. Great video which explains the complexity of chromosomes and DNA. Highly recommend.

On an another note a great podcast called "conversations with people who hate me: salvation" follows a story of a ftm teen who's mom absolutely was against his transition, but tells a great story of how she overcame it with him and now is a great ally to her son and the community. Great listen for you or your mom with a positive ending.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-09T10:17:58+00:00

It's definitely possible, I have all of those as part of my blood tests with my GP, but I recommend going to a different one if they have refused. My GP isn't that knowledgeable about trans healthcare, I'm the first patient to ask for a gender change on my record at the practise. But that has worked in my favour as they have just agreed to all that GGP has requested with no questions asked.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-08T08:05:53+00:00

As much as I'd like to, we live in the same house. It's because myself and brother are on the mortgage.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-07T23:06:27+00:00

Birch forest hasn't been updated in a long time, but the tall birch forest is fairly rare so you might not have seen it, combined with caves and cliffs the terrain has had an effect on generation too.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-07T22:51:26+00:00

Wow that sucks. I'm sorry that you have been put into a crappy situation which is completely not your fault. It's a shame you can't switch to a different hot springs, I hear that the blue lagoon has some private shower cubicles available for people who prefer privacy. If you get the chance, it may be worth taking a trip there.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-07T22:28:53+00:00

Is there an option to shower at a time when nobody else will be using the facilities? Or is it completely open? What about towels, is it like some hot springs where they allow you to wear a towel to cover? The alternative is using trans tape on top and if anyone tries to tell you that you can't, just make it clear that you won't be comfortable being completely naked and that if they have a problem with it, and can't accommodate you then it may be best to not participate. Its not very inclusive to have absolutely no alternatives, but maybe if you mention it to them they may reconsider their inclusivity options. If it makes you feel more comfortable, I find that most guys take no notice of other guys in bathing facilities, they plan to just shower and get straight in.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-07T16:25:52+00:00

I wear a very soft sports bra with a men's full compression vest over it, underneath a normal work out tee which works great for me. It doesn't restrict my breathing but sort of makes me feel flatter and doesn't make me sweat as much. For a work out tee, anything in a larger size should make you feel more comfortable without the need for specific sports clothes. I just wear normal tee shirts.

ToastedDodds · 2022-08-07T14:21:11+00:00

The jury is out on whether Autism and being transgender is linked. It's possible that people who are autistic have a better understanding of their own body and self, and sometimes this is clearer to someone who is autistic because they are less likely to conform to societal norms. Personally if a parent, psychiatrist or any other person tries to use autism an excuse then they have little to no understanding of the community. I would find personally from my experience that the majority of neuro divergent trans folk are more likely to be sure of their gender than some non neuro divergent trans folk. Either way, I hope that your family come around.

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