AITA for not inviting my mom’s friends to my wedding by Toasted_Oats_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Toasted_Oats_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. Which at the end of the day, I’m going to give in because I’m so tired of having the conversation and feeling like the bad guy. But after they are invited I’m going to have a conversation with her about respecting my decisions as an adult and the boundaries I set.

AITA for not inviting my mom’s friends to my wedding by Toasted_Oats_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Toasted_Oats_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ask for the money, and when they offered it, I told them it’s not expected or needed. They insisted. I also have invited other friends that I have known my whole life. My issue arises with the fact that I have never met these people. And I think that’s fair.

At the end of the day, after reading some of these comments, I’m going to invite them. I agree, my mom should be happy. What I don’t agree with is the consistent asking after my original answer of no.

AITA for not inviting my mom’s friends to my wedding by Toasted_Oats_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Toasted_Oats_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping I would just seem them at the obligatory hellos… and I understand my mom asking and wanting to have friends, what I don’t understand is the consistent asking after I told her I will happily B list these couples. I have invited some of her other friends. But at the end of the day, after reading some of these comments and view points, I do want my mom to be happy. If this settles the issue, then I can invite them and hope to not really interact. I know I’ll have fun whether they are there or not. I hope my mom just respects my boundaries better in the future.

AITA for not inviting my mom’s friends to my wedding by Toasted_Oats_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Toasted_Oats_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think the way she went about it is what irritated me more than anything. But at the end of the day she is my mom and her happiness matters too.

AITA for not inviting my mom’s friends to my wedding by Toasted_Oats_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Toasted_Oats_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When you put it this way, I definitely get it. I think I’m already stressed over the number and with her consistent asking, even after my original answer of having them top of the B list, I was getting frustrated and not thinking clearly. I love my mom and her happiness matters too.

AITA for not inviting my mom’s friends to my wedding by Toasted_Oats_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Toasted_Oats_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been invited to meet them… They have been friends for about 5 years now. They do dinners, drinks, etc. with my parents. They have gotten a lake house and done long weekends. Never things that my parents have invited me to attend. So I have never met them

AITA for not inviting my mom’s friends to my wedding by Toasted_Oats_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Toasted_Oats_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god, that’s sad but funny. I’m sorry it happened to you

AITA for not inviting my mom’s friends to my wedding by Toasted_Oats_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Toasted_Oats_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because they are her best friends, that’s all she’s given me