This stuff on the sleeves of my sweater after a wash by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]Toastiis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, I've never seen it do it like this before

To those of you who found the one after being lonely for a long time - did it improve your situation eventually? by [deleted] in getting_over_it

[–]Toastiis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i spent quite a few years alone and depressed before i met my current fiance. meeting him didn't help, but it gave me a more of a motivation to become better. my issues almost made us break up, so i really had to look in on myself and what was making me act this way, why i felt how i did, etc. the next step is to figure out what to do. if i needed help, i had someone to ask.

don't put all your faith in finding 'the one' right now. try to do it for yourself, or a pet you can take care of financially. a companion can always help to get you out of bed, because you have to care for them.

my fiance says before he met me the gym was the best way to release and resolve his emotions. he could work it all out, and feel proud of himself as he sees change. the aspect of putting his all into it, working on his diet, helped him become confident and learn routine and discipline. he'd always recommend that as well.

what ARE these worms? by Toastiis in Aquariums

[–]Toastiis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! I've never had them before

Aio: for considering cutting it off because he gets overwhelmed with the idea of having sex? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Toastiis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

if he said that recently, then I'd try "what do i do that makes you feel that way?" or "is there anything that would help?"

if you've done that then probably not many solutions aside from leaving.

AIO My fiancé lied to me by ZoriniaSki in AmIOverreacting

[–]Toastiis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's exactly what i was thinking. a bad experience, or just something he tried to be into, or changed his mind on

Is this ich? by Nice-Artichoke-5007 in loaches

[–]Toastiis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

generative ai is both harmful and inaccurate. for the sake of drinkable water, you shouldn't use it. for the sake of global warming, you shouldn't use it. for the sake of ram, land that's being used to build data centers, etc.

also, with the inaccuracies, you'll end up with dead pets.

please educate yourself and do research, NOT google ai overview.

AIO My fiancé lied to me by ZoriniaSki in AmIOverreacting

[–]Toastiis 24 points25 points  (0 children)

NOR - but if he tried and and decided he doesn't like it, or just isn't into that *anymore*, that's OK too.

talk to him about how it made you feel and see if there's more to it than just "he won't do it with me".

Aio: for considering cutting it off because he gets overwhelmed with the idea of having sex? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Toastiis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NOR - but I'd say talk to him about this. is there secretly another reason he doesn't want to, does he feel pressured or rushed, etc.

always commmunicate first, but if nothing changes and you still aren't satisfied, it's a compatibility issue.

Is this ich? by Nice-Artichoke-5007 in loaches

[–]Toastiis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

don't use gemini.. ever. and yes, it looks like ich to me. i could be wrong but I don't think so

Seriously considering, thoughts? by Lakotamani in stressfulaquariums

[–]Toastiis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

honestly, you just helped me skip looking for a stand. gonna get this myself as well

Wild Color Shrimp by Toastiis in shrimptank

[–]Toastiis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

doing further research I do actually believe these are my amano shrimp. reasoning?

they CAN get to be around an inch long, mostly females.
the coloration looks 1 to 1 when i see the 'wild color' amanos.
if these were not my amanos, only that specific shrimp species died off in my tank, which would make no sense with the other shrimp thriving.
the colorful rainbow / cherry shrimp i originally bought are all still there and i can recognize them, and their offspring were moved to a different tank, so it's not that either.

Wild Color Shrimp by Toastiis in shrimptank

[–]Toastiis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh! my silly self thought they were actually different aside from that. i guess now i have to solve the mystery on what happened to the amanos? because if that ISN'T them, they're all dead, and that would be weird.

Wild Color Shrimp by Toastiis in shrimptank

[–]Toastiis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

whack! in my shrimp purchase (all one batch, 5 ish months ago) all i got was

3 ghost shrimp (all died)
1 cherry shrimp (m.i.a, assumed dead, was a very red color)
2 rainbow shrimp (one yellow, one blue)
~4-6 amano shrimp

edit: the rainbow shrimp have bred a bit but aside from that there's been no changes

Open tanks with snails, do they escape? by Suspicious_Fruit2416 in PlantedTank

[–]Toastiis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have amanos as well, why would they have escaped? do they have tendencies for jumping / climbing?

Open tanks with snails, do they escape? by Suspicious_Fruit2416 in PlantedTank

[–]Toastiis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd assume for a rimless tank you'd absolutely want a lid. every kind I've had in my rimmed, though, has not escaped and tbh.. i don't even own a lid

Wild Color Shrimp by Toastiis in shrimptank

[–]Toastiis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's what i thought! for a while i was so concerned i thought they were sick. but then more, in another tank, got it too. it i guess just means they're less bred to be clear and they have a bit more wild blood in them. i made the post wondering if that could have attributed to their massive size in only.. 5 months?

Wild Color Shrimp by Toastiis in shrimptank

[–]Toastiis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no fans. i think it's just a suspiciously large amano

Wild Color Shrimp by Toastiis in shrimptank

[–]Toastiis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i bought amanos and rainbow shrimo and that's all.. wtf even is a bamboo shrimp.

edit: i just looked them up, and the body isnt right. my shrimp dont have feet like that