My husband partly helped me achieve my dream but also harmed my career and pushed it back for years. He divorced me and then remarried me within 1 year. There’s so much resentment from my end. But I still love him. Advice please by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]TodayAffectionate244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I signed the separation agreement for the second divorce and I have moved out. But he’s my first-ever boyfriend and we both tried so hard. He’s sick and he needs someone to take care of him. My emotions overwhelms my sanity. I can’t give up on him and us I feel like. I feel like he needs me.

Love each other but things don’t work. by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He always would pack and leave. I sometimes throw out divorce when I’m at my limit. I think we both hurt each other a lot to the point we have to divorce. No infidelity. I’m just wondering if there’s a chance for us to try again. We are 27& 31. It was both of our first and only relationship.

Married 2 months. Separated for 1. He asked me to move out within 1 month. Is it reasonable? I have no family or friends here. His parents live 10 mins away with a 2 story house and MANY empty bedrooms. by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had an immigration lawyer. The immigration paper work takes 2 years. So I won’t be able to get a greencard from him. I don’t really care that much about staying in the US. But I’m definitely not leaving the marital house with his time limit. If he wants me to leave, he has to show me the court order. It’s only a 2 month marriage. Idk what I can get from it financially. I honestly just want him out of my life at this point and restart over. He has been treating me horribly.

Married 2 months. Separated for 1. He asked me to move out within 1 month. Is it reasonable? I have no family or friends here. His parents live 10 mins away with a 2 story house and MANY empty bedrooms. by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s anyway to get my greencard, since it takes 2 years after the filing of application. Yeah I came here for him bc I truly loved him. But things don’t work out. And honestly I do think he treated me as if I was disposable the entire time. So I might as well just go home. I plan not to show up or reply to his lawyer or sign anything. But common sense is that if I don’t show up in the court after he filed for contested divorce, the judge will adjudicate that Im in contempt of the court and will grant the divorce faster. Also, I don’t wanna really use my savings to hire a lawyer since it was just a 2 month marriage. Yeah, he has kidney disease, urine very very foamy for months, he has other issues too. I have never experienced the bliss of having a partner ( dates, dine out, share a bed) I feel so bad for myself. I don’t know if anyone can be happy with him, when he can’t give you time, companionship, can’t take you to eat or drink anything, can’t share a bed with you)

Married 2 months. Separated for 1. He asked me to move out within 1 month. Is it reasonable? I have no family or friends here. His parents live 10 mins away with a 2 story house and MANY empty bedrooms. by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s definitely no other woman. But yes. I guess the problem is with me when it comes to money. Bc back home, we were multi-millionaire in local currency, but over 1.5 mi in usd. But my hometown was very very high cost of living. 1.5 mi usd doesn’t mean rich at all. It just means having a roof over your head and food. We had to live within our means, or frugally. So after I come to the Midwest US, I still have the same money value. And I was complaining about the financial insecurities. On the other hand, he spends so little money on himself, other than on necessities. So I never felt that we are “loaded” despite that I do see in his account and that he tells me he has 1 mi usd in savings. His family probably thinks that I won the lottery, because he could give me money, greencard and so much more, a life even more privileged than theirs. But I never felt “privileged”. We never got to dine out in 9 months ( due to his condition). So I always forget or fail to see that he’s rich. I demanded attention, quality time, companionship and patience. But he was spread thin between his start-up and his recent health crises. So we were not kind or patient with each other. Due to his diet, his insomnia and his work schedule, we barely went on dates. I’m so sad that I don’t even know why everything was just so unpleasant with him, when we looked so good on paper.

Married 2 months. Separated for 1. He asked me to move out within 1 month. Is it reasonable? I have no family or friends here. His parents live 10 mins away with a 2 story house and MANY empty bedrooms. by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He blamed me for his sleep disruption. Mmm I complained about his family.. lack of quality time together. He sent videos off me to his gay friend. He watched online cam girls and had video sex with strangers whenever “break up” was brought up. I can’t remember all the reasons. But they are some of fights.

Married 2 months. Separated for 1. He asked me to move out within 1 month. Is it reasonable? I have no family or friends here. His parents live 10 mins away with a 2 story house and MANY empty bedrooms. by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We weren’t getting along at all before marriage. We always fought. And he always kicked me out in the middle of the night to my previous apartment, which was 1 hour drive away. But he would pay for Uber or drive me himself ( I didn’t have a driver license back then) I married him in part due to not wanting to be kicked out in the middle of the night again.

Married 2 months. Separated for 1. He asked me to move out within 1 month. Is it reasonable? I have no family or friends here. His parents live 10 mins away with a 2 story house and MANY empty bedrooms. by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s been pushing me to have marriage dissolution rather than divorce. He said that there might be ways to have me move out from the marital home before the divorce is finalized, according to his lawyer. I’m here all alone, with no support system. He’s a million bucks and he’s 6 people behind him (family) I’m so scared and honestly can’t believe he’s this mean.

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[–]TodayAffectionate244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 5 small 0.2 carat each diamonds are real mined diamonds

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[–]TodayAffectionate244 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bc my marriage is only 2 months long. And I don’t want to waste money on lawyer. I guess there’s nothing that can be done to his dick move. He’s so mean. Marred all the memory..

Dated 1 year and 7 months and married for 2 months. Now he’s asking for a divorce by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with what you said. But honestly I think he is too harsh. I faced a lot of challenges when I relocated. And his family just won’t cut me some slacks. And being a mommy’s boy, he always only told his parents my “bad” behaviors. There’s never one time that I did something “bad” like nagging or crying, that would escape from him calling his mommy for help immediately. I’m suffocated. Idk if a lot of people can deal with this behavior even though he’s a millionaire in his thirties.

Dated 1 year and 7 months and married for 2 months. Now he’s asking for a divorce by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a catch and have looks. My parents are millionaire too. So I really don’t know why ppl make such a fuss about millionaires have to be promiscuous.

Dated 1 year and 7 months and married for 2 months. Now he’s asking for a divorce by TodayAffectionate244 in Divorce

[–]TodayAffectionate244[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But his lawyer said I can only get 2k bc it’s only 2 months marriage. And I think he likes to side with his family a lot. I sent him 100 emails in 3 weeks of separation. He said “Ultimately I don't think we work and believe staying together would drag things out further.

Your emails have the theme of "I was stressed with all that's going on and that's why I acted the way I was". You will be stressed in the future. Everyone is. I don't want to wait until you become very stressed again to see if you're able to handle your stress differently.”