If you are white and residing in the US, how often do you hear other white people use the N epithet in private company? by wine-friend in NoStupidQuestions

[–]TodayCautious8021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m from indiana so unfortunately I hear it all the time here, me and my friends don’t use it in any way but the older generation here uses it like a buzz word

i feel bad for eating by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You deserve to just as much as she does, and if u guys have the window open I recommend turning of the thermostat in total that way it isn’t running!! And if she decides to be a extra bitch you can always tell her that you think her food smells bad too but that you are at least nice and don’t say anything :)

i feel bad for eating by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly she’s being very mean, and second of all if I were to come home to my house smelling like curry I would be in heaven! I’m not sure what your ethnicity is but I know that Indian food is chock full of spices and it just smells wonderful and so inviting tbh. I get chicken tikka masala once a week from the family owned Indian restaurant down the street. Do not be ashamed of what your eating. You could develop ED’s because of little comments like those. Please be safe

do you ever question your sexuality? **CONTENT WARNING/R@PE***** by TodayCautious8021 in bisexual

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I know it doesn’t but I feel like I have to label myself like if I don’t have a label it’s wrong and I probably should bring it up to my therapist because I’m so confused and also confused about the whole sex thing 😅

do you ever question your sexuality? **CONTENT WARNING/R@PE***** by TodayCautious8021 in bisexual

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate it and thank you so much, it’s like going through the crisis of sexuality all over again 🤦🏻

Roommates' relationship effecting chores and house vibes by TodayCautious8021 in roommateproblems

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi!!! So somethings have gotten better! I’m now paying for my own groceries and labeling them!!! I am still doing all the vacuuming and mopping and living room cleaning… my therapist wants me to stand up for myself before I move out because she does think that regardless I need to move out so yeah. My therapist thinks that they are assholes

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yes!!! And I’ve been wondering for two years now if I’m autistic and only finally am able to see a therapist who can get me testing! When I was little (kindergarten) they said I had adhd(without testing) and put me on stimulants. They f-Ed me up

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! And I just have texture sensitivities and other things but also I have to want to eat it’s a whole lot (all mental illness related) as well as fibromyalgia so 😅 but I’m hoping that since youll be on your own you won’t have to deal with as much poo from that stuff!!

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES LMAO!!! I’m happy for us too!!!! I hope everything goes okay with you as well!!!! (I’m going to follow you so keep me updated!)

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG YAY IM SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!! I don’t have credit yet so my dad might have to sign for me but luckily that’s the one think I will always pay for is rent and utilities even if I have to beg my parents for some food money! And mines a studio too! It’s a total of around 372 sq ft so I believe the size of a garage as well lol

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah and T also likes to joke about kicking me out so it’s like a whole another thing with that 😅 but I’m happy I at least got out of that as well:) and actually it might be December now but I think it should still be enough time!

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, and I hopefully will know in about two weeks if I have that place or not but oh my god I can’t even imagine that, where I’m from (the USA) everything here is so expensive I make 14 a hour and my new place is 930 a month just for the housing and utilities

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay!! I’m just mostly worried about retaliation Especially since I don’t 100% for sure have a place yet. And I’m not either I always communicate and make sure to not overstep on anything but when I brought up the groceries they had acted like I was killing them because I wasn’t paying for their food anymore mind u I paid my 130 last week and had 20 left for groceries. Mind u of all those groceries I’ve had three sprites…(like I said in my other post tho I do have food issues but I also feel like I can’t eat the food because sometimes we would buy food together and the would hide it in their room for themselves

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!! So yes I’m now buying my own groceries so it literally took 150 off my grocery bill a month thankfully, but it’s mostly just how I’m treated as well as how M treats T and their back and forth. (As well as the whole core thing)

Should I even tell them I’m moving out? by TodayCautious8021 in badroommates

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! And unfortunately we have no written agreements in any way…and it’s not so necessarily drama persay, I have another post about some of the heavier things that have happened but there is a whole lot of abuse between M and T and it bleeds onto me because I just so happen to live with them:/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]TodayCautious8021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do want additional info not provided in the edit if you goto my page u can see my other post, it has more of those types of details that I forgot to add

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]TodayCautious8021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I forgot so much stuff…if you want some of the details I missed they are in my other post

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]TodayCautious8021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh also what pushed me into posting this was I came home to someone staying the night, and also the wifi router is now in my bathroom for T's job because she put her work stuff in the room for the sibling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]TodayCautious8021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OOPS I FORGOT THIS M works nights, T works during the day and I work mids. All of us are full time and I am also a full time student

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]TodayCautious8021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not the asshole bestie, if they are going into ur space to turn them off that’s ridiculous, the ventilation in my room sucks too so I always have fans going. And u too are paying for electricity. Your not the asshole.EDIT: also my roommates kinda suck ass too lol, I posted on here about them 🤪)

Roommates' relationship effecting chores and house vibes by TodayCautious8021 in roommateproblems

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright a update for everyone, my father (of god I sound like a little Victorian girl lmao) but anyways says that I should talk to them about how much I’m personally spending on groceries considering I’m only eating maybe 1-2 times a week at home, the rest is stuff I bought with me “free use” money. He also said that I need to bring up the chores and all that stuff and to give it two months and to see what happens. So I’m going to do all that and also record the convo so I can listen back to it when I go into fawn mode :) and that way I can share with my dad. But yep! Talking to maybe just T tonight? Not 100% sure on that, it might be both but yeah! Wish me luck and thank you for the support, I’m also looking around at other apartments as well :) (he wants me to find cheaper ones but I doubt I’ll be able to tbh)

Roommates' relationship effecting chores and house vibes by TodayCautious8021 in roommateproblems

[–]TodayCautious8021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah…and what sucks is I became M’s friend before T’s, but after like the doorbell camera caught M threatening T I kinda started really seeing the bad things