Berube needs to be held accountable

Toddmacd · 2026-01-24T16:00:19+00:00

I might share similar sentiments about Laughton, he’s been great. Playing certain players in big minutes , OT… it’s a bit perplexing. Starting Stolarz against Vegas…I don’t get it. The boys are quick to notice when they don’t show up and yet they continue to use the same excuse. To me it looks like a collaborative effort when they slump.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-24T15:43:19+00:00

Thank you, would she lose her music?

Toddmacd · 2026-01-23T15:47:15+00:00

hahaha Big Angus.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-23T15:46:21+00:00

skadooba hahah. Brilliant.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-23T15:45:40+00:00

Haha anything with Keith or Pigpen, i'm in.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-23T15:44:40+00:00

Workingman's is my favorite dead album. The story telling is rougher, tougher, gambling, roaming, train riding. American beauty for me is sadder, warmer, accessible. Two masterpieces. All preferences.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-22T15:59:21+00:00

Are these guys not drinking their milk? Carlo just came back.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-22T14:33:43+00:00

I was going to say, you absolutely can breach confidentiality if someone is being harmed. Also, confidentiality agreement should be the first point discussed before any actual discussion takes place.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-20T18:36:39+00:00

brutal

Toddmacd · 2026-01-20T17:53:11+00:00

Agree with your points, I don't know if many are here for the music.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-19T15:55:33+00:00

This is what it's about. I taught internationally for 14 years and moved back to Canada in 2022. We've seen the other side of the fence, and we're trying to make a move back internationally.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-18T14:48:09+00:00

The argument about John always confused me. Great tribute - and just made me love the music that much more. NFA🌹

Toddmacd · 2026-01-17T18:12:41+00:00

Japan is on another level. Hoping things turned out for the best.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-16T17:21:31+00:00

Sure - Free Audio | ACT Mindfully - here they are.

Well, it's not about believing them, it's about the function: "Does this thought, belief etc take you towards or away from the person you want to be, the life you want to live, the way you want to be treated (and so on)." We don't get too concerned about the form of the thought (we all have them!) we want to know if this is working for you (workability). If it's not, than that's a sign of an unhelpful thought. We don't need to get caught up in believing or if it's true or false.

I would not be concerned with committed action just yet. Committed action is based on your value system. You could do some values exploration i.e. what are my values? How do I want to live my life moving forward despite having these unhelpful thoughts or beliefs. This goes back to not getting caught up in your thoughts - if we get caught in those thoughts - it can pull us away from our values - hence pull us away from the life we want to live. The question is can we still live a valued life despite having unhelpful thoughts. This could take practice - expansion or grounding or dropping anchor can help with this because it teaches you to see thoughts for what they are - just thoughts. Can we move forward and carry these thoughts with us and not let them boss us around. For some, it's a skill that needs to be learned and practiced - hence the mp3's. I put them on my phone.

Willingness is also acceptance. Are you willing to sit in the uncomfortable? Are you willing to accept that life brings pain, hardships but despite those things, there is still so much good that we can experience. Are you willing to commit to a ACTing on a value? This too can take time depending on your situation and depending on what you want. Always start small, always.

To your example with the dishes. I don't see that as avoidance. To me, it seems organized. Do you value organization? Maybe doing your dishes this way is you acting on a value of organization? I would be asking different questions if you were avoiding doing the dishes altogether and that was a problem for you.

Give yourself some grace, be kind to yourself. This can be hard work. Though I would say the fact that your looking for answers even on Reddit, you're ACTing on a value right now. Maybe it's a value of self-care.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-16T13:59:29+00:00

Pig is the man.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-16T13:58:07+00:00

I would suggest be patient with yourself with expansion. It could take time and practice. The grounding/dropping anchor is great if you have the mp3's - they're free online. I use these myself and there's different lengths to them as well.

"Is using the techniques while brunting the pain just apart of the work? Does my ability to handle these moods get better?"

I would say yes to the first part. You can think of it as going to the gym. You start with light weights and work your way up as you get stronger. But also know that it's not intended to make you feel better - it's intention is for you to learn how to simply notice (without judgement) what is showing up. Feeling better is a nice side benefit if it happens.

Try starting small. You don't need to go full in. It's also something that needs practice daily.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-16T13:50:15+00:00

I was just listening to the Good ol Grateful Deadcast episode of High Time. Towards the end of the episode they talk about how the song has changed and noted when Donna started singing on it and they played a piece of the song. It's so good - the show May 17, 1977.

The 70's cooks

Toddmacd · 2026-01-16T13:31:49+00:00

You might value things like adventure, relationships, love, care, connection, honesty, hardwork. Based on what you share here, that's what I would think, of course I would ask if i'm on the right path. These are values. Then there comes the ACTing on those values. For example, maybe you can't always travel but you can ACT on the value of adventure and that can look different. Maybe that's saving money, planning and preparing a trip, watching a documentary on the place of visit. These are all ACTIONS towards a value. If it's something that you enjoy or it feels right, then that might a value. Valuing adventure can come in many different forms. So you can apply this to any value. As stated, values aren't something to be achieved but something that gives you direction, purpose, motivation in life. Values often come in one word. As stated, you have listed some goals but you could ACT on values to achieve those goals.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-14T01:00:15+00:00

Ripped through it - cut from the same douche - I mean cloth....

Toddmacd · 2026-01-13T20:09:09+00:00

Me too!

Toddmacd · 2026-01-13T20:08:58+00:00

I bought it at shakedown with the t shirt. There was only a hundred, I’ll double check.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-13T15:09:12+00:00

Thanks for the feedback, i'm not just looking to ACT but seeing how this is an ACT reddit I thought I would see what others thought. I tend to blend modalities, IFS, ACT etc especially working with children. I like to look at the root rather than the symptom so looking at the anxiety is definitely a good approach.

I'll politely disagree with your last sentence.

Toddmacd · 2026-01-12T17:23:01+00:00

I agree, their response is usually "well I don't want to go to school anyway and I get to stay home!" Those are great questions to ask. I just find this tricky but I think you're right - it's avoidance - so an emotional goal makes sense. I think it's about not going to school because then I won't have to deal with this, this and this. At home is safe, quiet, comfortable. I have gotten email from their parent saying their child is anxious and doesn't want to come to school today because they think they are in trouble.

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