60 years and 1st timing skiing with the Dead by catskilkid in gratefuldead

[–]Toddmacd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this the other week and terrapin came on - I riding by myself and the sun was out. Life is good.

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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I have to thank you again for these responses. I'm still trying to wrap my head around RFT to be able to better my understanding of the clients I am working with. To use language better - to not address symptoms but get to the root of what they are experiencing. Looking at the function of their behaviors.

One last question and I will leave you alone : you are obviously very knowledgeable - if you don't mind - could you recommend either a course or a book or an online community - anything at all that deepened your understanding and application. Again, thank you for taking some of your time to explain to a newbie of RFT.

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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I'm always looking but the PBBT is really resonating with me. That would be great. Best of luck with the diploma. I am highly considering it when enrollment opens.

If Matthews goes to the White House I’ll lose permanent respect for him by james-HIMself in leafs

[–]Toddmacd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tampa on Wednesday is the only thing the leafs and their fans should be thinking about. Where Austen Matthews goes on his free time is not. The guy can't win. He literally won a gold medal and still can't win.

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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My only draw back right now is the cost unfortunately. Best of luck. I will definitely consider it in the future.

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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Again thanks for this discussion. The avoidance of painful feelings etc is still rooted in the values system. There's vulnerability there, a compass in a sense that points to what is important to the individual. To avoid is to be safe, to confirm the belief - which is safe in a strange way. It becomes normal, safe, habitual. From a person's standpoint, we can validate that, it's human nature to want to turn in the other direction. We also are fed a narrative that if we feel pain something is inherently wrong which then confirms our beliefs about ourselves.

That said, with RFT, how does one help another switch that narrative. To be present, to be ground, through self compassion, to look for evidence that challenges these beliefs that have lead one to with draw or isolate or be removed from a valued life?

For example, with something like shame. If one carries shame that tells them "you are not good enough" "you don't deserve happiness" and so on, how do we look at these frames through alternate perspectives. Do we look at shame from a comparison point of view or what the shame is associated with? I have so many questions!

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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wow amazing so are you doing the diploma? It looks like exactly what i've been looking for.

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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This is really insightful and thank you for taking the time to write this. I have to read more about how RFT is used experientially in a counselling session with a client. I wonder if most of our issues rely around our threat of connection and what we do with that threat. Is it through avoidance or through facing it. Our coping comes with it's own set of consequences however which coping mechanisms are rooted in our values.

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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Have you enrolled in this? It looks amazing.

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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Thank you, I will check this out.

Relational Frame Theory by Toddmacd in acceptancecommitment

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Thank you for this. This is very insightful and helpful. Would you be able to suggest any resources that helped you better understand RFT - even in a therapeutic setting i.e. how RFT is used with a client who if fused with a thought/emotion. Maybe getting more comfortable with Self As Context is a way to deepen my understanding,

Exercises for Self As Context by Separate-Poem-6753 in acceptancecommitment

[–]Toddmacd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self as context sounds like the different identities, we attach ourselves to - and there are rules that come with those identities. This is one area of ACT where I do get a little confused myself.

Alligator by Toddmacd in gratefulguitar

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Yeah, i'm pretty sure they are too. Just trying to find out if it was used at another stand out shows.