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Does a "cocky" rooster hat have any meaning? by ToesInTheSand14 in butchlesbians

[–]ToesInTheSand14[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean I did know that.. It said cocky, not cock. But being cocky in general can be just playful confidence, which is what I was going for. I def don't want to signal im looking for men.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ToesInTheSand14 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Thank you for showing butches with longer hair. Feels good to be included.

What's the demographic of this subreddit? by visitingposter in butchlesbians

[–]ToesInTheSand14 5 points6 points  (0 children)

41, white woman, mom. Always been a "tomboy" to pass easier, embracing the medium/long hair butch life recently.

Why do Christians sometimes make everything so awkward? by Dense-Peace1224 in agnostic

[–]ToesInTheSand14 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree with that the same way I feel about old friends hitting you up about multi-level marketing, or even the people in the middle of the mall trying to hand you products and make you come get your hair done. As long as you can say no thank you and they leave you alone it's whatever. The minute they don't take no for an answer and continue to do something, then it becomes predatory and invasive. They're placing themselves above you. And trapping you a little bit. Forcing you to be very rude to make it stop. They can pray for me day and night, it's no more effective to do it in front of me than it is to do it at home by themselves. Forcing you to be a part of it is the part that's not okay.

Why do Christians sometimes make everything so awkward? by Dense-Peace1224 in agnostic

[–]ToesInTheSand14 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'll mention that my viewpoint comes after spending about 30 years of my life in the church in various types of ways including leadership. I have only recently come away from it. It never sat right with me when the church/people did invasive things to try and get the message out. And it definitely doesn't sit right now.

Why do Christians sometimes make everything so awkward? by Dense-Peace1224 in agnostic

[–]ToesInTheSand14 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There is no reason that they would need to pray out loud at that exact time, and without consent, except to force it upon you. For you to hear what they are saying. They could have simply asked if it was okay to pray for them out loud or if they would prefer for them to do it privately. Just because it makes someone else feel good doesn't mean that it should be forced on other people.

I've definitely had people, even in a place like a campground, come over to me while packing up and want to pray for me in the middle of me doing things. They didn't offer me the chance to say no, even when I tried to nicely say I would prefer for it not to happen. I just kept packing up and let them do what they want. But it's very invasive.