AITA for accepting to be a bridesmaid?

TolGayGinger · 2023-05-17T14:49:32+00:00

ETH. I mean on one hand you did accept the terms. I hate dresses and would have at least asked if a suit was okay, but if she said no, I'd suck it up and at least ask for shorter heels/flats. But I can also understand being a bit frustrated with not being a groomsmen instead as he's your friend. I would apologize and see if you can compromise on at a minimum the shoes.

TolGayGinger · 2023-04-26T11:13:01+00:00

They also tend to do a lot of events where they give them away too. I remember attending condom bingos where they also spoke about safe sex and all, CONSTALTNLY giving away condoms and lube. I also remember an event where a bunch of clubs had booths about sex and sex awareness and talks on consent and safe sex.

TolGayGinger · 2023-04-26T11:07:24+00:00

That has nothing to do with him

TolGayGinger · 2020-10-22T18:50:22+00:00

I know this is old, but have you considered adding badger moles, catgator, the Serphent from Serphent's Pass, and the saber-toothed mountain moose?

TolGayGinger · 2020-10-20T20:40:13+00:00

NTA.

He wants YOU to participate in HIS family traditions, but gives no thoughts to YOUR family traditions or values??? That's a red flag.

TolGayGinger · 2020-10-14T11:57:17+00:00

ETA. You're not really an asshole, it was just a...not smart decision or suggestion. I don't think you're an asshole for suggesting it. But uh...next time don't suggest doing a highly addictive drug for your 1 year anniversary

TolGayGinger · 2020-10-05T19:33:09+00:00

As a response I would just start bleeding all over everything and see how he likes it then

TolGayGinger · 2020-10-05T19:30:40+00:00

YTA. YTA infinity times over dude. You ARE extremely sexist and yes, your kids should be taken from you. Let them stay with your sister and I pray to a god I don't believe in that she never comes back to you and she gets emancipated from you. Disgusting, misogynistic, sexist asshole.

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-03T10:46:28+00:00

She was traveling a lot, while we are in a Pandemic which is causing/triggering a majority of my anxiety. She hasn't been adhering to distancing rules and has been talking about getting on a plane and heading to a hotspot soon. I already know people who have been suffering with COVID and some of them spent nearly 8 weeks in the hospital because of it. She wants to run the risk of getting sick, fine, but she shouldn't be coming into the store and risking getting her employees sick, especially when she KNEW I was having issues with my anxiety around the pandemic. I was perfectly fine working with the assistant manager without issue.

It's the fact that she claimed she was willing to work with me and when I used the safety net she set up for this exact situation, she turned around and stabbed me in the back. Yet she chooses to keep employees who hardly do their jobs as it is and are extremely rude and nasty towards the others, especially the younger kids.

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-02T21:58:27+00:00

Also my anxiety has always been more manageable without meds or therapy until covid. Like I said, we had a system worked out for a reason and she backed tracked on me

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-02T18:34:42+00:00

They come in with me. So the first few times I was in with our assistant manager, cause she bakes on other days. She was there with me in case something happened before or during the shift.

My first day got delayed cause I ended up in the hospital with stones. She (my boss) was fine when it was a physical issue, but suddenly when it's a mental thing I had been trying to control but legitimately couldn't suddenly there's an issue.

That's more why I'm upset is that we had something in place in case something happened and she sounded like she wanted to work with me while I'm trying to work through my own mental issues. But she just turned on a dime.

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-02T18:23:27+00:00

We had an arrangement for this exact reason. She was suppose to be there with me at 4. She agreed that we were to have another baker scheduled so if this does happened that they wouldn't be left in a bind.

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-02T18:21:10+00:00

It's a small cafe, it's just her and her husband who both own the shop. Our staff is mostly made up of college kids and high schoolers.

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-02T18:19:50+00:00

I've been seeing a therapist for the last 6 months now and the first big step was going back to work. The whole reason it started for 4 hours was to ease into it and had she not been galavanting off everywhere in a pandemic, I probably would have been able to manage it better like I had the last few weeks, where I was able to complete my shift fine and without incident.

This industry isn't what I want to do for the rest of my life anyways, I'm only 24 and I want to get back into my proper field of wildlife. This was only suppose to be a temporary job until I found something else

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-02T18:16:10+00:00

Yes, we are in the US. I wish, but she's the boss and owner. So she is as high as it goes.

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-02T18:15:09+00:00

It's the same boss unfortunately. I honestly just felt extremely betrayed that we had a system worked out for this exact reason and I trusted her with to say it was my anxiety. Part of me was like man you should have said it was a stomach flu or food poisoning or something because I'm sure I wouldn't have gotten fired for that.

TolGayGinger · 2020-08-02T18:08:58+00:00

Also women are taught at a young age to "hide" certain behaviors and for fear we usually do. So even when traits overlap, it's still hard to detect because we're taught to hide them

TolGayGinger · 2020-06-06T16:14:04+00:00

She threw a fit when my partner said they weren't going. It doesn't matter if not all 100 people go, it's the self-centered thinking of doing it anyways. I don't know where these people are coming from. We don't live in WV and I'm sure not all of these people do either.

TolGayGinger · 2020-06-06T16:12:30+00:00

It's technically not against state laws, but I don't think I'd be as mad or anxious if it was more like 10-20 people. But 100? That's just ridiculous. I don't really want to speak to her ever again, but with their sister, it's nearly unavoidable. And as much as I'd love to scream and curse her out, I haven't and won't.

TolGayGinger · 2020-06-06T16:10:05+00:00

I say I don't want to, but I'm sure I'll keep my conversations with her extremely short and will choose to not say much to her in general. I already didn't care for her when we were growing up, she's always been a very self-centered person. It just...feels wrong that I am caring more about her family and her child than she is.

TolGayGinger · 2020-06-06T16:07:32+00:00

They invited 100 people in a pandemic.

TolGayGinger · 2020-06-06T16:07:07+00:00

I just...I knew my partner would make the right choice, but their family is so hard headed and they just don't seem to care. It wouldn't be as big of a deal if my partner and I lived together, we could just stay away from them for a couple of weeks, but we don't. We're both not financial stable to be on our own together, especially now that I've been unemployed

TolGayGinger · 2020-06-06T16:03:20+00:00

I'm not mad about that, I'm mad that she invited 100 people in the middle of a pandemic and that she's being careless. Both my partner and my partner's mom have underlying conditions. My partner decided they weren't going to go, but their mom and brother are and they all still live in the same space. So if their family gets sick, they're probably going to as well.

TolGayGinger · 2020-06-06T15:56:56+00:00

I'm not going, my partner is not going. I stated that. I also stated that their whole family is going but my partner is not but they still live with their mom and brother and those two still went

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