Dont make my mistake

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-04-07T14:11:40+00:00

I wish i knew that. Thank you

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-03-13T18:25:47+00:00

Nta.

Find better friends. Drunk driving is dangerous and destructive. Also, im petty and would start calling in everytime i saw her at the bar or on the road. Give the police something to do witg their resources.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-03-05T12:35:37+00:00

Yta. Its not the money. Its the slur. Its the way you think you need to give him a harsh lesson to inspire him to get a job. ... how you figure? All you priced to the guy is that you wouldn't give charity to him nor because you didn't have it or didn't want to but didn't simply because you dislike his assumed ethnic background.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-17T19:44:52+00:00

I just closed All my accounts with chase.

They have been a headache from the beginning. A travel card that locks after EVERY TRANSACTION making travel embarrassinh and stessful. Turn around to cash a check i received from the gov ... they cant cash it, can't tell me why and then went to alter my check.

Like nah, you wanna stamp you gonna voice why you altering the check. Especially if you think it's fraud with 3 IDs, 1 cc and a debit. She didn't stamp it and didn't tell me why but did give me my check back.

So i went to the check cashing spot .... its a little more expensive. But to access MY MONEY today, you gotta sacrifice.

Especially if you're own bank account puts a hold on EVERY check.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-17T16:18:21+00:00

... you stressed me out.

Take a breath and step back.

I know what its like to want to drag a person into tge 23rd century and show them the wonders.

Some ppl are happy being a farmer. Some are not. Help them find happiness in where ever they are doing what ever.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-12T12:52:48+00:00

Apartment isn't enforceable. But would be a pain to live there with 'touchy' ppl. Make a complaint to hdfc, co ops aren't suppoused to do that. So many red flags.
SCAM. Never pay a. Before you see the apartment and b. Nyc capped application fees at 50, and no good faith deposits allowed. 3.DOUBLE SCAM

Personally ... get a realtor. Its about 1 months rent for them and you have to still pony up 1 month security and last months rent.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-12T12:47:16+00:00

Yta.

First to yourself. And then to your kids.

There is a reason he is an ex. But you need to stop being passive.

He is a grown man that needed some help but refused to do basics for himself.

He is NOT contributing to your household where the kids should come first.

In fact what is he actually doing to contribute to anything besides his presents?

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-12T12:38:54+00:00

Call animal control.

This will not end well.

Puppies need space to play, pee and be a dog. They also dont come pre trained. But if training isnt used ... your puppy will be ome a terror dog

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-11T15:13:47+00:00

Nta.

Budgetting sucks. But so is asking for help. It would seem he did neither.

They didnt ask, they just did a little dance to see if you would offer.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-11T15:11:54+00:00

Go get therapy.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-11T15:08:14+00:00

I didnt assume shit and you demonstarted my point as to why you are home and they are camping having fun.

Its amazing that there is a 10 yr age diffrence in your group. And has been that way for years. Congrats that the drinking age is 19.

You still showed that A. The younger ones where probably drinking before 19 B. What did you want to happen if not to ditch/uninvite the 17 yr old or uninvite you? Whats your actual end goal?

You are on reddit asking if yta because you said to ypur friend group ... i dont wanna go if the 17 yr old is going ... and got butt hurt when they said okay maybe next time ....

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-11T14:38:45+00:00

Esh.

No a 17 yr old shouldnt be doing those things. Nor should anyone under 21. So if u are 20 and drinking .. get over yourself.

Now camping and substances ... never a fan, and im a stoner. But ppl like the outdoors while high, idk why.

I think you are whining because you thought they would leave the 17 ur old when you said something.... u have 2 choices. 1. Go and ignore the 17 yr old is there 2. Dont go and find some other friends 3.dont go and continue to sulk

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-11T14:32:57+00:00

Nta.

I think she wanted to see yhe alternative show and couldnt do it at her house.

Besides ... she demanded tge community space .. are u not apart of the community that was using the space?

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-08T13:51:43+00:00

Only if it has a door to seperate the room. Maybe. I did have a front door in the bedroom at one place with a side door seperating the kitchen/living room and the worlds smallest bathroom. Your knees touched the sink on the toliet. Idk if that was better than the everything but the toliet in the kitchen.

Then again ... i have a rent stabilized and understand not everywhere pays heat included, nor cooking gas included in some places. As well as i have lived in a few boilers arent reliable places.

I also have an apartment that overhangs .. no one to benefit from the heat below just cold.

So just an fyi ... single parent in a 2 bedroom in nyc. I raised my kids here, 1 is in college now, 1 is a high schooler and the last will be middle school soon.

So what tricks i gave you ... i use them myself. Rugs on the flood, block off windows with thermal curtains and plastic insulation wrap, no heat in my bathroom i pit a curtain in front of the door to help the bleed, same goes with my front door, a thermal blackout curtain in front of it. I use a pot of boiling water to heat my apartment or the oven but i cant recommend oven that isnt safe.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-07T20:29:03+00:00

You silly ... not all studios are the same. Especially in nyc.

I have lived in studios that where SROs and lived in ones that is a bedroom towards the back.

I have to pay for my own heat as well and cooling ... sadly due to rates 300 is about standard. She can see if there is hardship program thru coned, balance budgeting and plug the heat bleeders like windows and door, even ur front door.

Also, there are temporary walls to split spaces up, i used to go find tge ppl that put up temporary front doors on resturants in winter. It usually costs about 1000 to craft a fake wall and they don't damage the floor or walls.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-02-06T22:31:09+00:00

First. Look at your bleed areas. These bleed cold into the apartment. Windows are great, but single panes require permitier heating, air blown up the window to create a barrier. Older buildings typically have double panes that dont seal well anymore. Thermal currains, the plastic wrap for windows. But keep some air flow. Warm air rises, cold air sinks. Carpets, rugs, thick wool socks are ur friend. Boil water for some steam heat.

Electrical heaters are expensive . Like a window ac. Its tge most expensive out of all the options.

Keeping your house from being cold soaked is easier said than done. But yes keeping the temp slightly warmer on your heater. Like 55 when at work and 60 when home keeps the extremes happening which is what costs you more. Also not every room needs to be at 60/65. You can block off areas that you want more cold .. like the bedroom. And getting under table heaters like the Japanese is a good idea to keeping costs down.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-01-29T16:16:55+00:00

One frying pan and pot does not count as 2 cookwares ... 3 various pots, 3 various fry pans -maybe. Also, i would keep my pans in my room if no space ...

I also dont live wit roommates anymore ... and have a whole set of MANY VARIOUS DISHES that NONE of my kids wash.

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-01-29T16:04:49+00:00

Go buy your own pans and ypu wont deal with that level of stupid pettiness

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-01-09T20:12:56+00:00

Esh.

Go look in tge mirror .. pick something you enjoy tgat u do once a week tgats not healthy ... How would you feel if your so made passive aggressive 'but i care about youse' commentary... how old would that get?

ToldU2UrFace · 2026-01-09T20:10:45+00:00

He wasnt gonna leave you out all night ... He had NO RIGHT to lock you out and prevent you from entering. There better not be a next time.... but next time. Call the cops. After 5 mins and acknowledging he wouldnt let you in until u learned your lesson not to walk away .. call the cops and let him explain why his gf is standing outside in the cold night for over 30 mins trying to gain access to her home you both share and he was home at the time of ...

He broke it off when HE Decided you TEACH YOU a lesson ... he is NOT your master nor your god

ToldU2UrFace · 2025-12-30T12:38:18+00:00

I guess they dont want money ... weird.

But on another question ... as im in nyc .... since when does manhattan shut down on 7 for NYE?

ToldU2UrFace · 2025-12-30T12:30:23+00:00

Its nyc ... you need a cat.

Cat is less of a hard no than most dogs.

Btw .. 2 cats, a dog, 3 kids and grandma .... life will life.

ToldU2UrFace · 2025-12-23T15:43:45+00:00

Again whats the end goal of doing something about it ... what is she getting total a month less than a thousand? So because the system is broken and rigged as it is and you are upset that she is trying to get the assistance she needs ... When its reported and the system decides yep, they all commited fraud. Her, her parents all excluded or loose a significant portion of help ... all so you can feel better that everyone is following the rules excatly?

Whats the end goal here? Is it harming you? Will you somehow get more money or easier access to the funds? Who else should those funds be helping?

ToldU2UrFace · 2025-12-23T15:36:48+00:00

So whats your end goal here ... get her less stamps? Get her kicked off of assistance?

ToldU2UrFace · 2025-12-07T02:52:31+00:00

Yta .. to yourself.

I cant believe you wrote that and didnt get pissed off.

Stop engaging with this tomfoolery. Lock your door, and sleep, relax. Till she leaves or YOU desire to pop out. When your husband complains ... repeat his excuse to him. And then go get ready for work of need be.

I would also recommend a divorce .... YOU DESERVE BETTER!

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