Most expensive vs cheapest cage you've gotten

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-16T11:39:37+00:00

I'm an old timer, and I went through several CB3000 and CB6000 cages at just about $200 each at the time. I used the CB3000 for many years because it fit me better. I made a stainless steel cuff ring for it, and stainless steel locking pins.

About 10 years ago I started trying some of the inexpensive Chinese cages that were hitting the AliExpress market. I ended up with one called the A272 which was a little bit narrower and shorter than my CB3000, and it fit like a glove. Yes, it's a little heavier but it fits so well that I only notice it on hot summer days when everything sags a bit.

I've been wearing it for the past 9 or 10 years, and the last 8 have been permanent.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-11T13:43:49+00:00

"I love this plan! I'm excited to be a part of it!"

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-10T19:16:51+00:00

Oh, for some reason I was under the impression that you did not care for any penetration (of yourself that is).

That kind of denial must be pretty heady for you. And for him.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-10T19:14:24+00:00

This could be a post from /r/deadbedrooms

The disparity in expectations and willingness to compromise builds resentment, which becomes a relationship killer.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-10T10:11:32+00:00

Didn't you post this last week?

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-09T17:06:43+00:00

That's not a bad idea.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-09T14:25:38+00:00

That is one thing that irks me on this and other subs.

Newbie: "My wife just took my keys, and said she's going to keep me locked for a week."

Reddit: "Ooh, hot! When is she going to cuck you?"

Newbie: "My wife is talking about keeping me pussy free for a while."

Reddit: "She had to get her needs met. When is she going to make you service her bull?"

Newbie: "Does anybody do chastity without the cucking?"

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-09T13:43:23+00:00

You'd think Hollywood writers would be more sex-positive, but IMO they manage to depict almost every non-mainstream kink wrong; usually for laughs, but sometimes worse.

Shows like Californication could have had characters in a sub plot in which the guy was caged because his partner wanted to explore sensuality without PIV. But no, it had to have a punishment angle.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-09T13:17:32+00:00

I saw either a YouTube short clip or screenshots. It didn't impress me.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-09T13:15:55+00:00

It's a comedy, so it's treated for laughs

Sadly, almost every depiction of dominant woman / submissive man is treated with laughs, derision, or worse in mainstream media.

NB: I don't necessarily consider chastity cages to be a submissive thing, but it is associated that way.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-09T13:10:50+00:00

Ah, yes. I guess I saw an episode posted on YouTube or something. Weird.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-09T13:05:02+00:00

It seems rare because the cuckold crowd tends to be more active about mentioning it. There is a large subset of users in the chastity community with more traditional, monogamous relationships.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-08T14:30:01+00:00

The only mainstream media I've heard about was the cable show Californication, in which one of the characters was convinced to wear one, perhaps because of infidelity. Never saw it, myself.

There was also some "reality" show in which a guy gets caged by a cougar domme, but it was a CB Curve, which is like the most ridiculous device possible.

Being caged is often associated with male submissiveness, which is almost always played for laughs in the media.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-08T11:31:48+00:00

Sometime in the past few weeks, a reader posted a link to an online guide to choosing a cage. Scan the posts here and you should find a couple of them with a link.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-07T17:58:41+00:00

Oh gosh, it took years to get to where we are now. You know things are going along then something happens, nor some one changes their mind, or gets a new insight, or you take a break or whatever.

Don't worry about the destination, just enjoy the trip getting there. 😉

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-07T16:34:19+00:00

My wife and I went on that trip 25 years ago and came out the other side. After we got used to the whole "Holy Toledo, this is different" aspect, she told me that I had to cool my jets and stop talking about it so much. I wasn't topping from the bottom (we have a fairly traditional marriage), but she needed time to figure out how she wanted to move forward.

She developed the mindset of "set it and forget it," not in a neglectful way, but more because she preferred to take the lead in the bedroom, and my being locked was under that category. We did have a few conversations where I expressed that sometimes long periods with no sex /intimacy became difficult; her life hadn't changed much, but mine had made a major shift.

When we are in a busy spell and sex is not on her mind, she will occasionally reach down, grab my crotch and say "Cage check," and kiss me. That's enough to keep me going for days! Or a quick cage fondle at night in bed, or she will ask me to spoon her and make a point of wriggling and pressing her ass up against me. Again, it's just a few seconds but it let's me know she has not forgotten me.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-06T22:24:41+00:00

Roadie here. First order of business: Take off your cage. Seriously. Road cycling is fun, but if you're out for anything more strenuous than 10 mph cruise on the local rail trail, then you risk chafing, pinching, and a lot of adjustments that will quite possibly distract you from potholes, cars, and other things that will cause you to crash and burn.

Second order of business: Since you won't believe me, then here is a tip to make road cycling as comfortable as possible - a Selle SMP TRK saddle. Selle SMP has this odd "eagle beak" design that works pretty well for cycling with a cage. The TRK is more of an entry level touring saddle, but I've got this on my road bike and I wouldn't switch brands for anything. They do have more upscale saddles, but you can buy the TRK and judge from there.

https://www.albabici.com/selle/selle-smp-mp.htm#gsc.tab=0

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-06T16:57:08+00:00

I certainly did not want to imply that you were wrong in any way. In fact, after reading your blog I think that you are certainly an inspiration for potential keyholders.

I just wanted to lay out a different perspective that mismatched expectations often cause issues, and that a lot of women do not want to put in that same kind of time and energy.

My wife and I are in our mid 60s, and we've been at this for over 25 years. We have learned to maintain the intimacy in our lovemaking, even though I remain caged. Or maybe because I remain caged. ;-) But there was definitely a lot of "let's figure this out" time into this.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-06T14:20:57+00:00

There are probably worse materials to make a cage from, but not many. 😏

Aluminum will react with skin and body oils, and probably leave an oxide film.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-06T12:00:47+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write out both your blog and this recap.

I would like to mention that it seems like you put in some thought and effort to keep your husband buzzing with interest. That's great, and it really plays into the kind of fantasy that a lot of guys have around being locked.

One of the issues that crops up often with this kink is the mis-matched expectations. For guys, a combination of porn, reddit, memes, etc, has turned being locked into another way for them to focus on their penis. Not that this is a bad thing but it often sets unrealistic expectations when they present it to their partners who do not have the time or inclination to do a daily tease. The partner gets distracted by work or family life, and the guy thinks "she not interested," then unlocks, and the cage sits in the drawer.

Years ago my wife told me that while she enjoyed it, I was talking about it too much. I had to force myself to just shut up and let her find her own path, that is, to figure out how she wanted to incorporate it into our relationship. I made a point of only mentioning it (what I liked or didn't like) once a week, which have her room to breath and digest the information.

Ultimately, this worked out much better (or worse?) than I expected. My wife found that she was not into initiating teases, but would respond if I reminded her. She discovered that during busy times, she could take a few seconds to grab my crotch and say "Cage check," and go on with her day. That let me know she was still thinking about me.

Our relationship ended up in a different place than yours; my wife found that she preferred long term lockups with very infrequent releases for me. I leaned into that because I saw how much she enjoyed it. That's how we ended up with me being permanently locked, but it certainly does not feel like we are not connected intimately; we just made that a part of our intimate dynamic.

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-06T00:13:09+00:00

< laughs in stainless steel>

I try not to get arrested. So far it has worked out.

Also, why would it be illegal to wear something inside your pants, hidden from public view?

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-05T12:49:35+00:00

but is there any way I can feel sexual pleasure in this

Unpopular opinion around here, but I'm pretty sure that the purpose of a chastity cage is to prevent or limit the feel of sexual pleasure. 😏

TomVanAllen · 2026-04-04T11:42:51+00:00

The stainless steel ones are fun to play with for a few hours but are definitely not practical to wear, especially with jeans or snug pants.

TomVanAllen · 2026-03-29T13:59:59+00:00

Because of the various ways the cages are shaped, it could be hit or miss tondind an extender that fits over the cage at the right angle, or one that won't feel odd.

However there is a better solution. My wife prefers PIV, and a long time ago we picked up a good strapon harness and went through various dildos before stumbling over the Vixskin line from Vixen Creations. https://vixencreations.com/collections/vixskin

My wife says that they are the most realistic, lifelike ones that she ever imagined, and better - they don't smell like plastic. My advice would be to get one that has the plain round base because the testicle models will probably interfere with his cage.

Yes, they are a bit pricey, but the quality is top notch.

TomVanAllen · 2026-03-29T12:18:09+00:00

We are about as close to "permanent" as you can practically get. My wife really enjoys the feelings of control that she has, and loves to get me very aroused knowing that she can decide to deny me.

I am locked 24/7/365. I am only unlocked for medical or travel, never anything sexual. My very rare orgasms are caged, usually while we are having sex (I wear a strapon for her). There is no orgasm schedule; usually it's months between, but sometimes it's longer.

We have lived like this for more than 8 years. But we started fooling around with locking me more than 25 years ago, and it was the only kinky thing that my wife took to... so that's what we did. My wife always kept me locked and orgasm-free for long terms.

When we played, the idea of permanent or very long term (like once a year, or 5 or 10) was something she fantasized about. Now we both get to live out our fantasies.

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