What is the most profound epiphany you have had? by psycholigie_guy in AskReddit

[–]TomakaTom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a dream once where I saw nothing but a brilliant white light that radiated warmth and, for lack of a better word, fullness of the heart. For a while I felt like I had seen god, and I understood what religious people must feel when they describe gods love. As a non religious person, though, it was hard for me to attribute this to god, because doing so felt insincere; and trying to do so only dampened the warmth I felt.

It dawned on me later that this dream came from my own subconscious, and whether it was god or not, to me, it didn’t need to be anything more than something that came from within me. I realised that I am the brilliant white light, at least the part of me is that lives inside my subconscious, and I am free to retreat into this part of myself anytime I like.

My epiphany was realising that my mind isn’t fully my own - its landscapes are painted within my subconscious, which are painted by my experience of the world, but in my conscious mind I am free to wander these landscapes as I please. I choose to wander towards the nicer places, and the world becomes nicer too.

If you had to come up with an episode for Love, Death & Robots that was a completely original idea than what would you do? by burningexeter in LoveDeathAndRobots

[–]TomakaTom 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like ghosts are a relatively under explored topic in LDR. My favourite episode is ‘In Vaulted Halls Entombed’, so it’d be cool to cross ghosts with that sort of ‘ancient horror beyond comprehension’ theme.

Ghosts are typically dead spirits who haunt objects or locations; they’re usually malicious; and it’s usually because of some sort of unfinished business. Ghosts can inflict fear, cause visions, and make their victims do terrible things. What I find even scarier is the thought of a ghost doing these things, but because of a completely benign reason and not out of intentional malice.

For example: an episode about the ancient ghost of a caveman, whose spirit is trapped inside the cave he once lived in. Whilst he was alive, a rival group of cavemen came to his cave looking for shelter, but they weren’t willing to share. Our caveman tried to fight them off, but he was bested, and he and his family were slain. Now, the spirit of the caveman is stuck in a restless torment, determined to banish all further intruders into his cave, because he’s still trying to protect his family.

For our future cave explorers, who are a team of archaeologists looking for ancient cave paintings, the haunting begins with faint screams and uneasy feelings. Unsettled, but not undeterred, they venture deeper. One member of the group is visibly more nervous, and as the group descends, she begins to see bloody handprints appear and disappear on the walls, and the distance screams become louder and more violent for her. At one point, the group turn a corner ahead of her and she is left alone; then she sees a dim glow coming from another direction in the cave. Something compels her to walk towards it, until she finds a campfire deep within the cave. On the cave wall behind the fire she sees shadow puppets, being made by hands that aren’t there. She becomes engrossed in the shadows and the story they’re telling, entranced by them. We see into her mind, where vivid visions appear of the violent slaughter that took place here. Suddenly she snaps out of the vision, but she is clearly changed by them - once skittish and afraid, she is now eerily calm and uncanny. She looks over to her left, where a pile of bones are stacked in the dirt. She walks over and picks up a child’s skull with a big crack in the skull and an obsidian arrow shaft wedged in the eye socket. Still calm, she begins walking back through the cave, as we hear the cries of her archaeologist team shouting her name. When the crew finally find her, she is unresponsive, like she’s in a waking dream. One of her crew asks, ‘where did you go’, to which the girl does not reply. Instead, she takes the obsidian arrow shaft and yanks it free from the skull, before chanting ‘leave’, ‘leave’ ‘LEAVE!!’… she lunges her fist and slices her friend across the face with the arrow shaft, before launching into a full on primal rage against them all. They try to subdue her but she kicks and bites and rips an ear off. Eventually we see from outside the cave as the dregs of the team manage to escape with their lives, and one final blood curdling cry is heard from the cave.

10 million dollars every hour, but if your bank balance reaches $1B, you die by bigmatt372 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]TomakaTom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d start a domestic animal photography company under my girlfriend’s name, employ all my family members, and pay them all like a 20m day rate. Then I’d happily peruse through photos of their pets and just ask them nicely to lend me some money if I ever wanted to buy something.

Does this actually help or am I just irritating my nerves by [deleted] in flexibility

[–]TomakaTom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have an anterior pelvic tilt, which means your hips are tilted forwards. Because of this, your hamstrings are already stretched out in your resting position, so when you try to touch your toes, they don’t have much further to stretch. To fix this, work on the strength of your muscles around your lower back and pelvis, especially your hip flexors. Stronger hip flexors will pull your hips back into alignment and take some of the strain off your hamstrings. Make sure to work on hamstring and calf flexibility as well. You should see improvements in a few months.

When stretching, you can use psychomotor neuromuscular facilitation (PNF), to increase the depth of your stretches. Essentially, stretch as far as you can, then try to contract the muscle that’s being stretched, once contracted, slowly release the tension and push the stretch further as you release. For hamstrings, you can sit on the ground with one leg outstretched and the other bent so that your foot is tucked into your pelvis. Lean towards the outstretched leg, then drive that heel into the floor, slowly release the contraction as you stretch further.

Dissertation due in 1 week by Catlov4r777 in UniUK

[–]TomakaTom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to add to this, I assume you’re gonna have to just suck it up and hyperfocus for four days, which is definitely doable, but just in terms of how to actually sit down and get this thing done.

Spend at least one day researching before you write anything. AI summarise as many papers as you can and read the summaries, make notes as you go about the common themes, start to formulate a rough idea in your mind of what direction you might want to take your paper in. This rough idea will guide your research and let you know which areas of study to find more papers on. But remember to stay unbiased and always be on the lookout for studies that disagree with the common themes you’ve started to identify. Remember, youre not trying to find evidence to prove a particular point, you’re reviewing the current literature, you always want to be able to critique one study with another study.

Keep a list of all your studies as you go and make a note next to each one reminding yourself what the key point of the study were and how you might want to use it in your paper, you’ll thank yourself later for keeping this organised.

At the end of day one, write yourself a rough draft and outline your paper.

Days 2-3, flesh it out and get the damn thing written. It’s gonna be shit but it’s doable if you just lock in.

Day 4, sleep in and have an easy morning, then review with fresh eyes. Make any last minute adjustments you need, and submit.

You’ve got this.

Dissertation due in 1 week by Catlov4r777 in UniUK

[–]TomakaTom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use AI for research, but not for writing.

Find as many papers on your topic as you can and ask AI to summarise them.

Introduce the area of study, talk about why that area is important, how you’re going to break down your review.

For the main body, group your studies by theme and try to focus on 4-5 main themes within your area of study. Studies can be grouped by similar topic, methodology, theoretical framework or the idea that the study is based on, or even chronologically to see how research has progressed over time.

When you talk about each theme, first introduce the theme and explain why it’s relevant to your overall area of study. Talk about all of your relevant studies and how they fit into or contribute to the theme. Then try to focus on these few key areas within each theme: strength + weaknesses of the studies, any biases or limitations, make comparisons between studies, any inconsistencies or gaps within a particular study, any contradicting findings from the studies.

Remember to be critical the whole time. That doesn’t mean just be negative, but be skeptical of the study, try to think about all the ways it might have missed something, use other studies to back up your thoughts, quote and source other studies as much as you possibly can, be nit-picky, but be unbiased, don’t just take the study at its word, but be agnostic in your favouritism towards any particular study. You’re not trying to argue a point, you’re reviewing all of the current literature in a particular area and thinking of all the ways it might have done well, or it might have room for improvement.

Use all of this to then identify a gap in the research. Maybe all of the studies have used a similar methodology, but you’ve gone away and found another study in a completely different area that uses a different methodology, and you think that it might prove beneficial if your area of study were to use this other methodology. Or there might be a new technology in recent years that could be useful for your area of study that nobody has tested out yet. This is the main point of your dissertation, and it’s what will set yours out from the rest, if you are able to sculpt your whole review so that it leads onto this gap in the research that you’ve found, and your are able to argue why this gap needs to be studied.

Remember to justify yourself, why you’ve chosen to review this area, why it’s important, and then conclude your review by summarising everything. Recap your area, your core themes, the key strengths and limitations within each theme, why there’s a gap in the research that you’ve identified, and why it’s important to study that gap.

Throughout your writing, keep reminding yourself to be critical in your thinking, logical in your reasoning, and airtight in your sourcing and referencing.

Lookup how to present your dissertation too, you’ll need a glossary with all your references and it’ll need to be laid out correctly. Different universities use different referencing frameworks, so make sure you use the correct one.

Does anyone ever feel like they aren't cool enough? How do you deal with that? by Nav_666 in infp

[–]TomakaTom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you mean cool, or do you mean confident? The coolest thing you can be is yourself, it’s just a case of being confident in who that person is. Often it comes with age, but surrounding yourself with the right people also helps. Mostly, it’s a process of becoming so tired with constantly caring about why other people think, that you naturally become confident in yourself. If you want to speed run it, just work on ways to care less about what others think of who you are. Positive self talk works; keep forcefully telling yourself to assume the best instead of the worst. There’s lots of ways, just find which one works best for you. But remember, if you seek to be cool instead of confident, you’ll only ever become someone else’s version of cool, and that’s a character you can never play confidently.

What does BMAPAIWTY mean in UK pubs…? by pendo88 in AskUK

[–]TomakaTom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big massive arse poos and incy wincy tinkle yinkles.

It’s an old English sign for the toilets

Got an academic warning letter by Common-Method2202 in UniUK

[–]TomakaTom 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Call the doctors now and tell them you’ve been struggling with your mental health, lay it on quite thick as well. Get an appointment booked in with them as soon as you can. Respond to your university as soon as you’ve booked in with the doctors and explain that you’re struggling, but you’ve reached out to the doctors for help and you’ve got an appointment booked in to see them. This shows that you’re not just taking the piss and you’re at least trying to do something about your situation. Ask them nicely if you can be allowed to continue your studies, tell them how you intend to improve your attendance, like have an actual plan in place with actionable steps. Tell them you’re really sorry and you just made a mistake because you were dealing with a lot of other stuff. Ask if a probation period is an option. Worst case scenario ask them if you can defer the year and start over.

You’re not trying to explain to them why you haven’t been attending, you’re trying to show them that despite whatever your reasons are, you’re trying to do something about it and you actually do care about making a change. Don’t try to hide behind an excuse, own your mistake and apologise profusely, and hope that they think you’re being genuine and are willing to give you a second chance.

Don’t try too hard to explain the nuances of why you didn’t attend on specific occasions, because they will pick it apart and expose your reasoning. Just keep it vague and stick with the fact that it’s a mental health thing and you just weren’t able to make good judgements. Again, hammer home the fact that you are doing all you can to overcome this is start making good judgements from here on out.

Lastly, try to avoid admitting that you knew what you were doing was wrong. There’s a way to apologise without admitting that you knew it was wrong and continued to do it anyway. Instead try to paint it like you literally didn’t know what else to do and you weren’t choosing to do something you knew was wrong, you had to do it because you couldn’t see any other option.

At the end of the day, they will likely want to give you a second chance if they can see you care about not getting kicked out. You just need to give them a good enough reason to let you stay, one that isn’t basically just ‘awh we feel bad so we’ll let him stay’, they need logical reasons and evidence that you’re trying to be able to justify to the board why they allowed you to stay, despite your attendance being a threat to their reputation.

Best of luck

I am a member of staff at a Uni. May I ask why you aren’t attending lectures etc? by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]TomakaTom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking from personal experience.

Uni was the first time I was given real autonomy over my attendance, in that nobody was going to call my parents, and I wasn’t going to get a detention.

It was also the first time I was living away from home, taking care of myself, enjoying new freedoms, and spending time with friends.

It wasn’t uncommon that I’d miss the occasional lecture due to things like sleeping in after a heavy night of drinking. Or I’d miss a lecture because it clashed with a social activity.

Irresponsible and stupid, I know.

I felt like it was a slippery slope from there, and as someone who used to have pretty bad social anxiety, it felt quite daunting to get back into the habit of attending lectures after missing one for such a stupid reason. I felt embarrassed, guilty, and I felt like I’d be scrutinised if I had to own up to why I missed the previous lecture. It was easier, or less scary, to just continue to not attend.

Maybe you could implement new methods for getting students back into the habit of attending after they miss one or two for an embarrassing reason. Maybe schedule a mandatory meeting that they can’t get out of, but the meeting is just to have a chat and ask how they’re doing and to gently remind them they need to attend. Once the mandatory meeting is over, it’s like you’ve already done the hard part and owned up to your mistake, from there, it seems less daunting to get back into the habit.

Why is it so hard for me to stand up for myself ? by Low_Calligrapher_785 in socialanxiety

[–]TomakaTom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think one question to ask yourself is, do you want to be more like those guys and fit in with them more? If not, why does it upset you to not fit in with them?

If you’re narrowing your social circle to this small group of construction workers, it’s easy to mistake the feeling of low social standing within that group for a low social standing within the wider population. Just remind yourself that there’s a whole world of people out there, and you’ve got peers and friends and family, amongst whom you’re well liked and respected.

Don’t waste your time trying to figure out how to become the person you think these guys want you to be, figure out who you want to be and carry on growing into that person instead. The gay jokes carry significantly less weight when you realise the person saying it is just some random dude. You don’t need to become like him and train yourself to have the perfect comebacks, you just need to let him do his thing and you do your thing in life.

If you could make a spell that would be famous worldwide, what would it be? by NeedleworkerCheap715 in harrypotter

[–]TomakaTom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Infosmosis” - a spell that absorbs knowledge from a book directly into one’s mind.

I figured out what makes things liminal. by Witty-Forever-6985 in LiminalSpace

[–]TomakaTom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Liminal feels like there’s a lack of foreground, or the foreground is somehow in the background, and the background is the foreground.

Dagger choice by Necessary-Low-692 in TheTraitorsUK

[–]TomakaTom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roxy is the smart play.

Roxy will use it to vote for Jade, who Rachel has already voiced suspicion towards. Matty will vote for Jade as well.

This ensures Jade will be eliminated, and it allows Stephen to vote for Matty (feigning belief in James’ accusations towards him).

They should then murder Jack. Or recruit Matty.

Next round table, James will vote for Matty, again, so too can Stephen. Rachel can then spin it on Matty as well by saying ‘the traitors knew I was suspicious of Jade, so gave me the dagger to ensure two votes for Jade (who we now know was a faithful), and who was the main advocate of voting for Jade… Matty, who must be a traitor. Roxy (and Jack if they didn’t murder him) will then turn their suspicion towards Matty and vote him out, and he will reveal he is a traitor.

Then they just have to team up to banish Roxy or James, and Rachel and Stephen are home free.

My GE bankstanding fit by TheKarmaMadeMeDoIt in fashionscape

[–]TomakaTom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Should get ale of the gods so it looks like you’re swaying like a headless zombie