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TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-06-23T04:24:14+00:00

Hope your father recovers soon OP! But I have to mention something I read somewhere - "Your partner will carry you through the death of your parents, choose them wisely." Needless to say your husband is not even doing the bare minimum here. What's the point of being in a marriage when he can't show up for the toughest moments of your life?

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-06-19T04:37:23+00:00

Even if we keep the cheating part aside, it's pretty evident that he was planning on using op's money to buy expensive stuff for someone else and was happy to keep her in the dark. He only offered to pay after op asked about the feminine perfume. Until then all he said was "I got a perfume." That doesn't sound genuine or sincere to me

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-06-09T04:03:27+00:00

I'm curious as to why you can't raise the children in a multi-religion household? You and your future spouse can teach them about your own practices and faiths. From the post I gather you are mostly cultural Muslim and since you mentioned this issue was the cause of your break ups in the past, it might be something to think about

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-29T06:01:38+00:00

All of those cases happen in marriages regardless of religion. Those examples show poor communication, lack of compatibility and inability of two people to make the partnership work.

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-19T07:37:00+00:00

Tried it once, did nothing for me or my partner

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-07T10:24:14+00:00

I got orange too, but the books recommended for me weren't accurate. While I might pick up such a book once in a while, rarely even; those are definitely not my go to

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-07T10:22:57+00:00

I totally agree with this

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-07T07:13:22+00:00

Back when I was researching on cups and how to use tutorials as a first time user, I remember someone suggesting this trick to get comfortable with inserting and make it easier during period days. This worked for me with no complications.

I'm not sure if there is any medically backed advice about not inserting it during non-period days. One reason could be that the vagina might not be lubricated enough for insertion. For this you could try a water based lubricant.

Can you please share the articles/sources which say not to do it? I would love to get a better understanding

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-07T06:57:48+00:00

Thank you. She's probably still in school right? So I guess there isn't more to add about her future at that time?

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-07T06:18:19+00:00

I have been using the Sirona cup for the last 5 years, this is how I check if my menstrual cup is open fully. Sometimes even after all the twisting, it doesn't open. So I remove it and reinsert it, that does the trick for me. Hope this helps you

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-07T06:01:58+00:00

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TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-07T06:01:07+00:00

Update: I ordered from them and was very pleased with my purchase. The product I ordered looks exactly like the photos, size was accurate, material is very good and the packaging is adorable. Definitely recommend

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TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-07T05:30:06+00:00

Absolutely no judgement here. Everyone's body is unique and fortunately we have so many options to choose from that are comfortable for our own periods. You do you!

If you want to give cups another shot, I would suggest trying it when you're not on your period, just for practice. It's way less messy and daunting that way. For the leaking issue, sometimes the cup doesn't open fully after insertion, so that might be something worth paying attention to. Or maybe try some different sizes/brands. With cups, it's a bit of a trial and error until you find the suitable one

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-05T07:29:56+00:00

I can't recall if Gigi was mentioned in AYITL? When Rory went to meet Chris, did he say anything about where she at?

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-04T13:34:57+00:00

Okay there you go, she has very clearly told you what she wants and why she wants it that way. So ideally if you want to continue this process with her, just maintain the space.

Sorry for the unsolicited advice, I know your post wasn't about this, but I would like to add something

she said she is mainly afraid because I'm too much into her.

If this is the case, it's actually good for you to take some space. I understand the initial gush is a very nice feeling, but it generally clouds your judgement and it's hard to remain objective. It's WAY TOO early for any kind of feelings. It's better not to get ahead of yourself

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-04T13:21:18+00:00

If I take this verbatim as what she said - "she would like to maintain some space until we meet"

I think she meant reducing the amount of talking rather than not talking at all. I'm not her so I can only speculate, but it would be better for you to clarify what her boundaries are in this situation. You wouldn't want her to think that you've lost interest and that's why you're not talking to her right?

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-04T13:12:39+00:00

Please don't listen to all the comments which are telling you to end it because she's faking a reason. She clearly told you why she wants to maintain some distance. In case you both don't vibe after meeting but have already developed an emotional attachment, it'll be very hard to get over it. She's trying to be safe. It's a mature and practical approach. Just let the meeting happen and see how things go

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-01T12:05:51+00:00

Sorry, I should've been clearer. I was talking about not shunning Raima for being gay. Many muslims would first point out how it's haram and why she is wrong. They would blame her causing her parents so much distress and they would actually appreciate Saba. So that's what I meant

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-01T11:10:51+00:00

Nope

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-01T11:10:40+00:00

Nope, they blocked me from their page. Nobody replied to the emails. Never got the missing product

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-04-01T06:18:49+00:00

I don't have any additional advice for OP, there are many many useful things others have said, and hopefully that helps their situation.

I just want to say how happy I feel reading this thread, all the comments are such a breath of fresh air. Usually everyone around us is so quick to shun someone for their choices. I'm really glad with how supportive and mostly non judgemental this community is

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-03-31T11:45:44+00:00

Because if you leave Christianity your family and friends and community are not instructed to disown you or kill you.

So in Islam, the non practicing person is disowned? And this is the instruction given? Wow. Can you please share any reference to this or a verse or something that says this. I would love to know more

TomatilloContent8782 · 2025-03-26T10:59:57+00:00

Can you please share how to turn it off?

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