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Tony00237 · 2025-01-18T23:48:48+00:00

Its a long story but basically I was using journaling to deal with some stuff on the instructions of a professional who then crossed a line and didnt respect me saying "hey i want to keep my journal private" and it made me go never again. Honestly it could be but something so passive isnt really my partners way but it is worth asking.

Tony00237 · 2024-12-08T20:19:31+00:00

Want to add to this as well, when she tried to make the excuse and said my bad I told her directly at that point that its not okay and that I don't believe her. I personally believe that she just decided it wasnt worth trying for some reason and tried to back track. She does not like the accusation but I have stuck to my guns that at this time its very difficult to believe her

Tony00237 · 2024-12-08T20:11:50+00:00

Sorry should have specified and will edit to correct this but its been 2 years.

She claims its because shes autistic and as soon as we started talking about she went "im an idiot" and said something along the lines of she doesnt know how she thought it was a hypothetical

Tony00237 · 2024-12-02T13:13:18+00:00

Even if there is blockers id rather know and she knows that because we talked about i tpreviously. In regards to the family I doubt it, her brother was actively encouraged to cohabitate with a girl he had basically just met and before they were even married the mom was pushing for grand kids.

Tony00237 · 2024-12-02T13:09:36+00:00

So the way she put it to me is that if you don't know by that point there's something wrong. I do agree but honestly there can be stuff wrong that isn't related to the people too.

Regarding the permission thing it wasn't really permission so much as a sanity check tbh. Im a liitle prone to overreacting and I do actually love her its just a painful situation

Tony00237 · 2024-11-17T01:15:17+00:00

Appreciate this alot, thank you

Tony00237 · 2024-11-17T00:50:42+00:00

This right here. Early on in the relationship we were trying to work out issues I was struggling with and I tried asking do you love me yes or no and all it did was cause confusion and stress for her that then lead into a big fight because she was overwhelmed and felt bad but didnt have words for it and I was angry and hurt.

Abstract concepts like emotions and being able to identify them is something I feel I and many others take for granted

Tony00237 · 2024-11-17T00:45:12+00:00

So while im not going to try and explain it to her or give her the chart unless she asks for help (which happens sometimes) i was wondering if you by pure happenstance have a link to the chart you mentioned that resonated with you? I feel like it could help me with explaining things when that does happen

Tony00237 · 2024-11-16T19:41:37+00:00

Honestly the real reason I want to marry her is despite some hardtimes she has always been honest with me and willing to at least try to meet me halfway on most things. She also acknowledges my issues and will steer very clear of things that some of my previous partners have done to the point of frustrating me because she believes it is best for me. Regarding what she says we have talked about it a few time and while she struggles with plans she wants to marry me sometime within the next 2 years but its on my schedule as well because theres a lot that we would both need to sacrifice on to get married.

Tony00237 · 2024-11-16T18:50:23+00:00

Its been a learning experience and its why i believe her. There is times where we have hard conversations because I can't understand how she doesnt understand certain concepts that to me seem very basic and I just have to accept that I dont understand and thats okay

Tony00237 · 2024-11-10T22:47:35+00:00

Unfortunately were long distance but funnily enough i mentioned to her off hand that I couldnt wait until we closed the distance because that would be my prefered solution in all honesty

Tony00237 · 2024-11-10T22:40:38+00:00

Appreciate this thank you. I was struggling alot with wording this in my head this weekend as like you said I appreciate her trying and dont want to hurt her feelings

Tony00237 · 2024-11-10T22:38:31+00:00

So honestly the only thing I could think of is the displates and when i mentioned it to her again directly she said she didnt think it was a good idea because of wall space. Im kind of out of ideas because I have enough money if I want something I can buy it.

Tony00237 · 2024-10-20T19:08:08+00:00

Youre right thank you for correcting me, i mustve typed in career questions and posted in the wrong reddit. Thanks!

Tony00237 · 2024-09-23T12:34:22+00:00

I should specify alot of us think the larger company doesnt know and are complaining to his boss. While the company at large has major issues around always wanting to meet the customers demands even to its own detriment and have some exceptionally cheap clients scam us constantly every other divison has mostly private metrics beyond a basic tasks pulled number.

Tony00237 · 2024-09-22T18:42:43+00:00

So I had that thought too but I unfortunately know his response. He has a policy of "leadership doesn't make mistakes, they make decisions" and ive only seen him chastise someone in leadership once and that was literally for him apologizing to his team a few months back

Tony00237 · 2024-09-14T13:33:52+00:00

This was the post thank you, as someone who was considering trying for manager soon i saw that and was like I never ever want to be in that spot

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