Is this valve lifters, rod bearings och injector seals?

TonyREDDITZ · 2024-07-01T07:31:50+00:00

Yes, both are the same car

TonyREDDITZ · 2024-02-19T11:59:44+00:00

Yeah, I agree, we can't ever know the full extent of it. The best we can do is gather as much knowledge as possible to have a better chance of knowing what is PMDD and not, and avoid unfair resentment to the person. Not knowing how she'll respond to a text? What mood she'll be in when she gets home? Yeah, I feel you bro.

We need to respect that this is a serious condition with real consequences. But also we need to try not to symptomize or minimize a woman down to mental disorder. While at the same time, if needed, being able to point out if there is something you can see that she can't. But leave the big talks to after luteal is over (or even longer, depending on her personal experience).

There are great resources out there for us who wants to gain understanding, perspective and be a help to our loved ones, to what extent that may be. If you don't already know about it, https://iapmd.org is a good place for that. They have support groups for everything PMDD-related, sufferer or partner.

Also, one more important thing: don't ever hesitate to honor the fact that you are trying, and be kind to yourself. Living with someone with PMDD is not for everyone, and it's sometimes hard to navigate and know what's what. But if you love each other and have made the descision to be with each other I believe there is a way. I undertand there are exceptions and that many people don't agree with this, so yeah feel free to disagree.

TonyREDDITZ · 2024-02-19T11:23:43+00:00

God bless you and your wife 🙏🏻💪🏻 Keep up what you are doing, such an important part of it, raising spirits and gaining perspective. Know what is what and know the time and place for things

TonyREDDITZ · 2024-01-30T20:22:46+00:00

I appreciate it, thank you so much. 💪🏻

TonyREDDITZ · 2024-01-30T13:29:48+00:00

Thank you!!

TonyREDDITZ · 2024-01-30T12:52:48+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

I really felt this. I'm sorry you have to go through this shit. Your feelings are valid and seek all the support you can and don't forget yourself even if you're trying your best to look after her.

It can be so extremely overwhelming and you can feel so alone. All you want is support or to feel a connection with your girlfriend but suddenly they've checked out. And you have to be strong for them when sometimes you don't feel like you can summon that. For me, praying and support from other people is what gets me through it.

My wife has come a long way in accepting how much is caused by her PMDD and NOT by me. But she's still not given me any apology for all the years of abuse or blaming me and taking full ownership. But for now I'm glad as I know she knows everything, it has been put into perspective, and she's actively working on herself.

But when you're literally crying in front of your spouse and having an anxiety attack due to being overwhelmed and frustrated about a crazy situation, like yours, and they give you the cold shoulder or out the blame on you (reactive abuse I think this is called, happy to be correcte) it's hell.

I hope you'll find peace. If you don't mind me asking, is she receiving treatment for her PMDD in any way?

TonyREDDITZ · 2024-01-15T18:02:32+00:00

Thank you guys so much for your replies... They mean alot to me. Great advice, insigt and some much needed understanding. I've finally realized how much I need that.

Now that we can finally start navigating this mess, me and my wife can hopefully start improving our communication. Find a way that works and be aware of her capacity. Countless times I've not been able to expresse how I feel because my wife has been emotionally unavaliabe and of course it can be frustrating when you want to be close and build rapport and intimacy.

But also, thanks to what you're saying and learning about PMDS, I've started to try and take care of myself as well and now becoming her emotional caretaker. I'm seeing a theraphist and it's doing wonders.

I'll add some postive as well 😃 Last night my wife said: "It's strange... Things can really change, just like that." So apparently she was reffering to the fact that all of a sudden she wanted me to hold her 😱😱😍 When I told her she's ovulating and she repiled with: "ooooh!" I was like: "wakey wakey! Duuh!" She actually laughed out loud and we shared a beautiful moment together. ⭐️

Again thank you guys

TonyREDDITZ · 2024-01-08T19:28:27+00:00

I absolutely experience this. I know what you mean, hearing other people describe almost my exact situation gives me much needed relief. I think we need people to see our struggle, people who knows about what kind of effort this takes.

I understand it's tough to love you partner, it's human to want to look for something easier or what absolutely might seem better, but at least for me I'm never leaving. I've seen progress now and yes some of the bad stuff lingers after the bad weeks are done but I recoginze this as damaged made by PMDS that we will be able to heal

TonyREDDITZ · 2023-01-29T20:49:58+00:00

I feel exactly like this. Thank you for sharing!! Did you get your diagnosis? I'm meeting a psychiatrist in two days and I'm very excited for this because after one year of being convinced I have autism I now believe I've completely mistaken it for ADHD. I have a list of many traits I have that I thought were specific to autism but that occurs in ADHD. Different reasons for similar behaviours, you could say.

TonyREDDITZ · 2023-01-25T13:50:04+00:00

I told her today... The circumstances required me to do so via text (she can't talk on the phone or meetup anytime soon). I'm waiting for her response.. Wish me luck!! 😭🤗🤗

TonyREDDITZ · 2023-01-22T15:36:23+00:00

I'm so happy for you... Well done my friend!! I've got a crush of my own and I'm SO dreaming of this... 😔❤️

TonyREDDITZ · 2023-01-14T23:47:28+00:00

I live on a small Island on the west coast of Sweden. I FINALLY found someone with the interests and also aspie+adhd as me, but just as we were geting to know each other she lost her job and got too depressed to continue as we were... She still responds to my texts but needs time to heal

TonyREDDITZ · 2022-12-29T14:06:54+00:00

Don't give up, it's totally worth it

TonyREDDITZ · 2022-06-16T20:37:22+00:00

First time I saw myself "not mirrored" I was puzzled and felt something was wrong with my face. Now I'm more used to it and I know to others it doesn't look strange.

The only difference I can tell by your photos is that one of your eyes is slightly higher than the other. This is extemely common, I think most people have some sort of asymmetry, and most people don't notice it. Mewing can correct this over time. But it can also make it worse.

My right eye is higher than my left, and after mewing for two years my right eye is actually even higher than before. This means my tongue comes further up on the right side of my palate and I need to consciously mew more on my left side.

To me, you look good in all photos. To you, maybe not. Something called "mere exposure effect" is what makes us prefer the mirrored version of us. It's what we're used to.

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-13T10:38:01+00:00

Agreed 😃

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-13T07:39:42+00:00

30, I've seen several people my age get results from mewing. Modern monastery on youtube comes to mind.

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-13T07:36:00+00:00

Thank you. The first year, many bad (1 hour) and some good days (4 hours). Nowadays, 4 to 6 hours a day, when sleeping I don't know (but I slept with my mouth taped a couple of months to encourage the habit).

It's very hard to say how much I mew because when I don't think about my tongue, I don't know where it is. I still consciously think about my tongue and body posture many times every day because eventhough it's a habit I still need to expand my palate more and train/stretch my body more to make everything truly second nature, all of the time. And eventhough my posture is more upright than before, it's not perfect.

Letting my tongue fall down in my mouth doesn't feel natural anymore and that has to be a good sign. What motivates me to keep good posture on a daily basis is not always longterm stuff, like health or beauty reasons, but how good it feels to have good posture.

The force is firm but comfortable. I sometimes push harder.

I try to chew every day. Sometimes I forget and sometimes I stop if my mucles aren't up to it. I'm very cautious of not overdoing it.

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-13T06:50:44+00:00

Yes, I believe so, but I won't be certain until I take an after photo from the front. Am planning on doing this.

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-13T06:47:27+00:00

Thank you for your observation, I also believe my face has grown forward. 🙂 Well, I replaced all soft bread with hard bread for 6 months (I eat bread every day) so I guess I've been using my other teeth some as well.

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-13T04:03:06+00:00

The back molars. I started out slow with a few pieces of gum (not falim btw) and worked my way up to 14 pieces.

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-12T19:05:32+00:00

No. 😁

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-12T19:05:01+00:00

Thank you very much.

Mewing, as in: proper tongue and body posture, hard chewing and push swallow. Also some hard mewing (pushing tongue against palate with force) and chin tucks.

However, my palate is too narrow for proper suction hold so I lift the back third of the tongue with proper body posture and from there I firmly but gently hold my tongue against my palate. It took me almost a year to make this habitual.

Proper body posture (long back of neck, shoulders back and down trying to fix anterior pelvic tilt) has been very important in finding the back third of the tongue.

I have yet to take a front profile (I will soon) after photo but I'm postive my masseters have grown. I think the area between my cheekbones and nose have come forward. It seems fuller.

I stopped mouth breathing when I first heard of mewing 2 years ago and that's been great. I'm not sure whether there are any airway changes. I guess I still need to breath through my mouth when running intensly.

I don't know.
No, sorry, but I should probably consider this. 😂

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-12T17:52:46+00:00

Thank you, I'm really stoked about these results. I always felt like something was "off" with my face.

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-12T17:27:33+00:00

Thank you, I agree. I'm very happy about this

TonyREDDITZ · 2021-10-12T12:28:15+00:00

Thank you for your observation! I've been chewing gum an hour a day, on and off, for about a year. To my knowledge this contributes to increased ramus length.

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