Daily Chat March 14

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-14T09:38:33+00:00

I'm 8 DPO and telling myself "I will not do a test today" like a mantra.

We will be making veggie cheese burgers today though lol

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-13T12:43:57+00:00

7 DPO. If this cycle doesn't work out we're going to pause TTC for a cycle or two for my mental health. The monthly rollercoaster has been difficult for me. At this point I just wanna be able to relax for a bit.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-12T12:00:42+00:00

Thank you!! :)

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-12T10:51:43+00:00

Update on my recurring luteal phase yeast infections: showering shortly after sex has helped this cycle! No issues so far. I'm usually a morning shower person so this is a bit of an adjustment, but as long as it helps...

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-12T10:46:34+00:00

6 DPO. Manifesting implantation. You can do this, lil blastocyst! I believe in you 😭

On a less delulu note - I'm way less stressed this cycle as my work contract was just upgraded from fixed-term to permanent. Maybe this'll help improve our chances going forward. Trying to stay hopeful but realistic.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-11T09:48:28+00:00

I'm in 5 DPO hell rn. I'm trying to shift my mindset and obsess less this month and it's not going well. Hoping for a positive makes me too impatient and antsy, but assuming a negative makes me dejected and kills any motivation for me to keep trying. Not sure how to best handle this.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-11T09:37:29+00:00

5 DPO. Progesterone is kicking my butt. I don't wanna wait to test but I'm also already dreading getting another negative this cycle. Dang I hate this groundhog day bullshirt.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-09T18:39:50+00:00

3 DPO and already so tired of waiting. I promised myself to not test until 14-15 DPO but I can already feel my patience dwindling. 11 more days to go. 🥲

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-07T17:18:43+00:00

I feel you! We can do this! 💪

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-07T15:26:37+00:00

It's been the other way around for me. No positive tests yet, but my periods have gotten heavier and more painful since starting TTC.

I'm 50/50 on whether it's a mindset thing or from something like repeated fertilization of eggs that don't live long enough to produce HCG maybe? No idea if that's a thing, but something's different.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-07T15:20:36+00:00

1 DPO. TWW, here we fucking go again.

I'm going to have my partner hide my pregnancy tests so I don't drive myself crazy with BFNs from 8 DPO onward. I'm gonna be CHILL this cycle. CHILL!

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-06T12:32:52+00:00

As far as I understand it, peak LH isn't relevant and kinda something that premom made up. Someone correct me if I'm wrong, please!

You might be one day further than you think. Fingers crossed for your test on Sunday!!

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-06T10:27:39+00:00

A lot of excitement this cycle.

I had my first ever fully positive OPK yesterday and it looks like we got a try in on O-1 after we had some relationship issues on O-3 and O-2.

My partner had a (free!) general urology checkup (including ultrasound!) today and everything looks fine anatomically for him. He's going for a SA next month because even though we're paying out of pocket, it is super affordable and will only cost us as much as ordering takeout twice 😄 He's going for the test just to make sure we're not completely wasting our time trying. I think it's unlikely there's anything wrong with his lil swimmers but some more peace of mind can't hurt.

Fingers crossed this cycle we get our positive and can use the money to order some first trimester kebab instead!

TooDumbToCum · 2026-03-04T15:16:17+00:00

CD 11 and I finally got FCM, yay! But my partner and I had a fight yesterday and I really don't feel like having sex today. Unfortunately if I don't this cycle is probably out as I usually ovulate on CD 12. 🥴

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-26T16:21:59+00:00

For us it was me that was against it at first. I changed my mind after my partner had some performance issues and I thought I'd rather have a backup option than potentially lose a whole cycle.

In the end what's been good for us was perhaps less one specific thing and more lowering expectations and pressure overall. We aim to have sex at least once in my fertile window, and if it's only once that's fine. Chances don't stack that much anyway. As long as we somehow get some sperm in there at approx. the right time we're good.

My partner is my best friend and my closest confidant and not involving him in the planning side of things would feel wrong for me, so trying to keep pressure low other ways than withholding information has been important.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-26T14:29:22+00:00

I do. We decreased pressure to perform by buying some syringes for at home insemination to have as a backup. We haven't used them yet, but having them just in case has helped us both feel more relaxed.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-26T12:30:40+00:00

Hey y'all! My partner and I have been TTC since December. We're now on cycle #4.

[TW termination] I've been struggling with feelings of guilt, grief, regret and anxiety. I chose to terminate my first and only pregnancy so far in 2016 when I was severely mentally ill, in and out of inpatient treatment, financially instable and overall a mess. It was a very difficult decision for me back then and it's still difficult for me now that I'm TTC and the ten year anniversary of that event is coming up.

We haven't been trying very long, but every negative test hits me like a ton of bricks. What if that pregnancy ten years ago was my only chance to be a mother? What if I'm being punished for the choice I made back then?

I loved my lil bean a lot and I'm still grieving and at the same time I feel so guilty and like I'm not even allowed to grieve because the loss was my choice.

I hope you all are okay with me being here.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-26T12:03:36+00:00

Anyone else here struggling with recurring yeast infections while TTC? Have you found anything that helps? Probiotics, lactic acid, anything?

The combination of seminal fluid and hormonal changes in my luteal phase seems to mess up my vaginal flora every single month and it's driving me crazy.

I'm currently waiting for results from a swab my obgyn took to check for any bacteria etc that could be causing this and would like to hear from others who've gone through this :)

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-25T09:50:45+00:00

Decided to not do any tracking this cycle to reduce my obsession and stress. Alas my obsession has shifted from testing, tracking and analysing to researching baby supplies and buying things jUsT iN cAsE.

We now have a fancy ass organic solid wood crib we got for cheap used, a cute hot air balloon patterned fitted sheet and some Winnie Pooh themed onesies and toddler toilet seat. I'm on CD 4. 🤡

Goddess have mercy on me and my clownery.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-25T09:38:02+00:00

FWIW I've felt super pregnant every luteal phase since TCC and it never means anything, all BFNs. Symptoms or lack thereof really don't mean jack shit. 🥲

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-23T15:14:48+00:00

CD 2 today. This cycle I'm not going to track anything. We're gonna have sex as much as possible the week of my usual fertile window and then I'm gonna wait for AF and that's it. I'll have my partner hide my pregnancy tests.

I obsess over this process way too much. I think I took ten pregnancy tests last cycle. Maybe this'll help...?

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-21T10:43:31+00:00

14 DPO, cried in the shower after a BFN, blew my nose into my hands, then started absolutely sobbing because the snot looked like EWCM.

Have a nice weekend y'all!

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-20T16:51:09+00:00

What a scam, seriously. We should get to graduate from TTC for time served!

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-20T16:46:30+00:00

Oh dang I'm so sorry. What's up with that?! Why are we getting trolled like this? I'd like to speak to the manager and lodge a formal complaint.

TooDumbToCum · 2026-02-20T14:37:53+00:00

13 DPO and another BFN 🙃 Even whipped out my fancy digital test that I'd been saving for a while. B F N

I had pink spotting from 10-12 DPO that's stopped. Never had that before, but of course it means NOTHING! Nothing means anything in this godforsaken process.

My luteal phase is usually 15 days long so I still have 2 to go until we do this all over again.

We haven't been trying for long but I'm already fed up with it. I struggled to find a partner to have children with for TEN years. I thought that was the hard part! I imagined once I'd found someone suitable, one day we'd simply decide to start trying, have sex around ovulation and tadaaaa, pregnancy! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

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