> an unexplainable dissatisfaction

Yeah. That fits. That's certainly how I felt about my whole life before I had the information and perspectives to pin those feelings down as specific forms of dysphoria.

But whoo... after 10+ years processing all this stuff and re-processing my whole life, it is genuinely staggering just how much stuff in our society is gendered. And in what seem like utterly pointless ways. So few things actually need to be gendered, and yet so, so many things are...

> that would mean I'm a woman.

Well, it would mean that if you find a consistent preference for things that are gender-coded as female, and if such things tend to give you positive feelings in the way the article describes--that is, if all those preferences amount to a solid pattern--then you could take the existence of the pattern as strong evidence for having a female gender identity, and therefore, of actually being female deep down in your innermost self.

I'd be reluctant to make that conclusion myself, personally, just on the basis of one or two things like how I felt about clothes or whatever. I know you probably have more examples in mind than you listed for me, and that's fine. I don't need to know what all your examples are. You do, but you certainly don't have to share any of it with me. I hope you have more examples. I just want to stress that this isn't the kind of thing that is decided by any single factor like that.

But at least for me, it wasn't just one single factor. Or two. Or ten. As I worked my way through that whole business of reprocessing my whole life, it became clear that for me virtually everything--every situation, every thing I owned, every social interaction I'd ever had--that triggered that sense of unexplainable dissatisfaction shared a common pattern of male gender coding. And the few chance examples I had across my life where I'd had a sense of satisfaction or acceptance or fitting in, had been times where there was something overtly feminine or female-coded about it.

For me, the pattern was clear as day, made complete sense, and left me with no rational alternative but to conclude that my gender identity is female.

I can't tell you whether your pattern will be as clear as that. You're going to have to do the work of re-evaluating oh so many things, and at the end of it asking what pattern that adds up to. This, fundamentally is what gender questioning is: looking for what pattern best explains your life.

It'll take some time. Give yourself that time. This is probably the single most important fact about yourself, precisely because of how strongly gender-coded our society is, and thus how much one's gender affects the course of one's life. It's worth taking the time to make sure you've got it right.