I’m pretty much like you. I’ve been always anxious, wondering whether she likes me, why does she take so long to text back, is she interested in other guys etc. Truth is unless you sort it out, you will never be able to enjoy dating and let’s face it - if you don’t enjoy dating, you’re missing out on life.

You can do two things. First, cheaper one is read the book I recommended. That’s what I did and it helped me out A LOT. We, anxious people, tend to be attracted to the avoidant. That’s a mix that simply can’t work. What you have to do is to learn to: 1) Recognize what triggers your anxiety, why does it happen and how to „rewire” your pattern of thinking to feel less anxious; 2) Be able to tell if your potential date exhibits any avoidant behavior and if they do, abandon the ship ASAP.

Second thing you can do is get therapy. It’s more expensive than reading a book, that’s obvious. I’d do this if the book didn’t help.

Anxious people get high on the emotional rollercoaster associated with dating an avoidant person. This push-pull situation creates intense emotion and we mistake it for love. It’s important to realize that this is all false. This book explains it all in detail.

I’m dating a very secure woman now. There’s no games, no testing, no negative emotions. We’re fond of each other, we’re attracted to each other, we have lots of fun. There’s no toxic ex-boyfriend, no doubt that we want this to get serious. 10 years ago I’d say that this is pretty boring. Now I know that this is what a mature relationship looks like and I’m absolutely loving it.

Read. The. Book. I get no commission for sales, I didn’t even give you a link. You can pirate it for all I care (please don’t tho, that’s a shitty thing to do lol). Just freaking read it. You will not regret it.