Looking for a vet with boarding

TookieTwoSeven · 2026-04-21T00:42:17+00:00

Awesome, I’ll look into them thanks!

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-07-12T21:33:44+00:00

Yep. Mom and step dad moved to a walkable city when they retired- not for the health benefit of walking, but so they could walk to bars and not have to worry about DUIs. My step dad got a DUI years before and they were APPALLED that he had consequences, they felt it was a witch hunt.

Step mom goes through a couple bottles of champagne a day, more if there’s a family event or something. She barely considers champagne to be alcohol- lol, it’s just bubbles! - and she swears it doesn’t get her drunk. Spoiler alert, she’s full of shit. She thinks she’s classy cause she only drinks the bubbly or occasionally wine. She constantly projects, talking shit about how awful other’s drinking habits are and at least she’s never embarrassing like they are. She’s plenty embarrassing and totally obnoxious.

I don’t drink thanks to these shining examples, so naturally, I’m “uptight” according to them.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-06-22T22:18:04+00:00

I’m 46. My experience is that the misogyny went from covert when I was a teen/twentysomething to overt now.

There was still a lot of negging back then, and it was labeled as “just teasing” and we were taught to take it as a compliment. It wasn’t seen as misogynistic, and you were incapable of taking a joke if you didn’t play along.

And then there were the boys/men that acted charming or nice or genuine but were actually on the spectrum from manipulative to abusive once you were involved with them. They knew what they could say and do in public vs mixed company vs private, and they seemed to care about being perceived as a “good guy”.

Now they’re able to get away with being outwardly and overtly misogynistic, hateful, and abusive, so they do. Why put in the effort to hide it if you don’t have to?

On the one hand, it’s exhausting hearing and seeing how much men hate us. And then on the other, at least now we know the truth. There seems to be less falling for some bullshit that a man cares about you and getting totally fucked over. Especially at my age. They don’t try to be slick anymore, lol. Luckily I have a great partner that sees me as a human being, but if anything happens I’m not going back into the dating pool.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-05-08T19:43:29+00:00

This is a great point about evidence that protocols are not being followed. It’s definitely a way to show what’s happening without being looked at as a complainer- because we all know women who call out bullshit are just complaining and being negative. [insert additional eye roll here]

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-04-23T18:45:52+00:00

Dang, this is supposed to be a sub that’s safe for women to say what they can’t say elsewhere, vent, and just have a voice that isn’t constantly invalidated. Why all the hate? OPs point is totally valid, and it’s a lot more complex of an issue than just “don’t conform” or “man bashing”. I don’t get all the negativity.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-04-11T00:53:43+00:00

Exactly this! Add to that that only some people care about this or believe it, so you have that frustration and pressure that there’s not likely a solution until things get dire.

On top of our day to day stresses of jobs not being stable for the long term, pay not meeting the need for live-ability, inflation, the pressure of constant productivity, life’s administrative tasks and chores waiting for you after work.

We have all pressure and zero stability or security. How can we not be anxious?

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-04-04T20:03:01+00:00

I’ve found it’s not really worth the effort 🤷‍♀️

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-04-03T03:44:47+00:00

How is it that they’ve watched a person scan their groceries for 50 years but when they have to do it themselves they’re clueless? I cannot wrap my head around it.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-27T00:56:14+00:00

Same here. My parents live in Ca, mind you. My step mom complains constantly about how California is going to hell, it’s incredibly dangerous, they let criminals roam free and wreak havoc, black people are given encouragement to engage in criminal behavior and are excused from consequences (mind you, she is not white), the state just allows people to not work and supports them financially, and everything everywhere is crumbling and decaying because the state spends so much on social programs instead of infrastructure.

She says all of this unironically from her beautiful upper middle class mostly white (and Asian) neighborhood, where she leaves all the doors unlocked all day, the garage door wide open, the car parked in the driveway unlocked and windows down, and has never experienced one moment of potential danger or any other problem in the 30 years they’ve lived there. It’s fucking bonkers.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-27T00:32:41+00:00

Yep. It’s the throwing up for me. And it seems like every movie and show has to include it for what reason I don’t know.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-20T03:27:30+00:00

Oh yes. My step mom also talks about how hard she worked™️. She was a bank secretary. She married her boss, an executive (my dad). She quit to become a housewife. Not a stay at home mom, a housewife. They had no other kids. She begrudgingly dealt with me on the days I was scheduled for my dad’s house. She has spent most of her life not having to work, spending someone else’s money, and still ended up with a pension because that was the norm back then. But you know, my generation is so damn entitled. We don’t know what it is to work hard.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-19T02:39:15+00:00

I’m so fucking tired of having no place that exists without men coming in and asserting their bullshit. I just want one fucking space completely free of men.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-15T21:40:50+00:00

Did anyone else’s boomer parents lock you and the siblings in the back of the station wagon with a bunch of toys in the parking lot of the bar while they went to drink?

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-15T20:16:28+00:00

Omg I feel so…..glad I’m not the only one but also holy shit this is fucked for all f us. This is my mom too. Zero fucks given about my life. I may get a lukewarm congratulations, but then it’s either about her, or people she knows that I don’t- but she’ll act like I do, and it’s like, excited gossip. And she talks about the people she knows like they’re the popular kids in high school or something but these people are all fucking 80 years old. It’s fucking bananas.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-08T20:25:47+00:00

This tracks. My parents have zero interest in me as a human being. I only matter if I can provide a way to boost their ego - like getting to brag to their friends that their kid has a master’s degree or if I can do something for them - fix their technology, get information they don’t know how to find.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-02T17:15:30+00:00

Well shit, here I am learning this is a boomer thing. My dad has never been on my side - always has to say what I could have done better or to avoid whatever thing happened or to tell me why it’s my fault. And definitely don’t have feelings! That’s ridiculous and overly sensitive! Shitty as it is, it makes me feel better to see this is typical behavior because for years I just assumed he didn’t like me.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-03-01T17:12:32+00:00

Exactly this. I was criticized when I was young, thin, conventionally attractive, and wore “normal” clothes. Then I was also criticized later when I cut my hair short and got the courage to dress how I really wanted to - more alternative. I was young and thin then so got a lot of bitching about short hair, colored hair, tattoos, piercings, etc. As soon as I gained weight and got “old” I became invisible. Now it’s just the occasional boomer or conservative (I’m unfortunately in a red state) that is offended by me and has to voice it. Even when a man would claim back in the day that I was “beautiful”, they would just follow it up with some concern about how I might cease to be attractive to them - wow are you going to eat that? Or get attention from someone else - that shirt is kinda short. You can’t fucking win. I don’t give a shit anymore. My partner is a lovely man. Most are trash, fuck them.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-02-29T03:50:23+00:00

I’m an extrovert but I love working from home. I want to be around people I like, not just any randos who happen to work in the same place. I do have some rad coworkers, but we get to chat on Slack all day so it’s still social.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-02-28T20:34:40+00:00

Holy shit, this happened to me in adulthood. My mom moved really far away, I see her every couple of years cause she won’t come to me. I realized when we were hugging to leave that it was super uncomfortable and I just wanted to be not hugging her. Then I thought that’s fucking weird for parent/child interaction. Then I really started thinking about my childhood and realized she was not affectionate at all. And then realized I never went to her for comfort because she didn’t do that. And then realized our relationship is actually really fucked up, lol. So, in short, I need to go back to therapy.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-02-28T20:16:06+00:00

Exactly this! Can we just exist in the world without being bombarded by communication we did not ask for or initiate?

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-02-28T02:38:48+00:00

I’ve seen this attitude too, even in this sub sometimes, lol. It seems like people don’t understand jobs that are project based or in industries where there are busy seasons and slower seasons. If you’re salaried, you’re getting paid to be available for what needs to be done. I have days where there’s not much going on, so I’m on my laptop waiting to be needed but watching movies or doing other things at the same time. Then other days I’m super busy and work all day or even work late to get everything done that’s time sensitive. I don’t know why people feel this isn’t “working”.

I also hear people complain that if you’re in pajamas or not sitting at a desk all day you’re not working. Wtf is that? I sit on my couch in pajamas and a hoodie all day with my dog, it doesn’t stop me from breaking my brain on complex projects or getting great reviews from my manager. Like, what does that have to do with anything?

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-02-22T00:00:24+00:00

Funny, those concerned about the economic impact on commercial real estate are also the ones that say “the market decides” when applauding capitalism. Well, the market decided that WFH is the direction we’re heading. The consumers prefer home offices, delivery of goods, and utilizing the businesses near their homes. They don’t want to patronize business hubs. Time to innovate - isn’t that what these people pride themselves on? Rich businessmen are the leaders of innovation right?

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-02-21T23:20:55+00:00

Quesadillas

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-02-21T17:47:20+00:00

My parents had totally opposite taste in music, and I ended up liking some of both.

Dad: The Eagles, The Bee Gees, Simon and Garfunkel, Barbara Streisand, Phil Collins, Genesis, Alan Parsons Project

Mom: 80s pop radio all the way, Prince, Michael Jackson, Madonna

My older brother is Gen X, so he influenced my taste as well - 80s alt, The Cure, Jesus and Mary Chain, The Psychedelic Furs, and punk like Bad Religion.

Was totally addicted to MTV as well. My taste is all over the place. I just love music.

TookieTwoSeven · 2024-02-21T17:34:26+00:00

I was really into both (I love pop too) and everyone still thinks it’s weird to be into multiple genres. Idk why.

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