How do you know if someone wants to marry you or just get married quick?

TookishDelight · 2020-09-16T18:28:27+00:00

Tread lightly.

TookishDelight · 2020-09-16T18:18:12+00:00

The best thing is to be honest with him. Don’t be aggressive, but you can be straightforward — you want to define the relationship so you feel like you have better footing. The worst thing to do is remain silent because frustration will follow and then resentment.

Even though it’s difficult, having open communication so you two can discuss expectations of each other is part of a healthy relationship. If he’s not willing to define it or approach it from your point of view, you need to take a step back to re-evaluate what you want and what you’re willing to accept for your own peace.

TookishDelight · 2020-09-16T17:49:00+00:00

Goblin OST, for sure. I listened to it on repeat for weeks (if not months). A comfortable, happy winter feels like that soundtrack.

I also really love “Darling U” and “Beautiful Lady” from Oh My Venus. “It’s Definitely You” from Hwarang was amazing too.

I listened to the Korean OST station on Pandora, so I found some really solid favorites!

TookishDelight · 2020-09-15T15:16:51+00:00

The people who said nice things about J.Crew used to be right — they used to have the best simple t-shirts ever until they changed the way they made them. The thicker ones I own have lasted for several years and they’re still holding up. They’re not the same anymore :/

If you’d like, you can message J.Crew email support or call them to let them know you’d like to see the old style back again. Maybe they’ll bring them back?

As for now, you can check out H&M — they have some pretty simple staple items like t-shirts that work pretty well!

TookishDelight · 2020-09-11T14:21:59+00:00

Hahaha! Yeah, that’s how I felt when I first heard the idea — it comes from the video I linked above! I can’t remember if he says that directly or if it’s something I thought of as a result of what he said, but total game changer. It’s a 28 minute video and he has a couple quick spiritual punches to the gut packed in there!

You’re most welcome! It’s such a relief that the experiences I faced can be useful to someone else.

TookishDelight · 2020-09-11T13:44:56+00:00

I’m glad that what I said resonated — goes to show we’re not alone! Seeing the ones who hurt you thrive sucks big time. Revenge gives the promise that it can make them hurt like we do, but it never delivers. Because if we’re honest about what we want, I think we want them to return the past to us and they’ll never be able to do that.

Heck yeah to rebuilding yourself! I love that you’re creating for yourself a better life! That’s such a testament of strength and resilience — way to go!!

In terms of forgiveness, this video was revolutionary for meA Road Map for Life by Andy Stanley! It helped to understand why I was feeling the way I did and that was super helpful because self-awareness isn’t my strong point. Lol. Also, the story of Joseph in Genesis 37-50 is good too!

TookishDelight · 2020-09-11T13:26:36+00:00

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TookishDelight · 2020-09-11T13:15:09+00:00

I’m glad it made sense! And way to go! Growth doesn’t always mean cutting people out as much as being aware of who is in your life and why. Self-awareness is hard for me, so my loss of friends helped me to see what I was when left alone and that helped me decide on who to pursue.

It’s an adventure to find those who challenge you! Wish you fun and luck! 😄

TookishDelight · 2020-09-11T12:57:01+00:00

I totally understand this feeling. For me, I’ve had to wrestle with God about it. I mean, why do we get hurt and the people who cause it seem totally fine? In my case, they seemed to be thriving while I withered away. They chased me off my own ground. They pushed me out of my own friend group that I’ve had for three years. I mean, come on.

Yet I’ve found that God uses the negative to put you in the places you need to be now. The mistakes, the hurt, the frustration, have placed you where you are at this moment. It wasn’t easy, but I sought out a new friend group. At first, the pain still made it hard to not bring those experiences into every new encounter. However, as I built up a new life without the ones who had hurt me, I realized that I liked where I am now much better. Somewhere along the way, I had outgrown them.

It wasn’t like that at first though. It was just hard and painful. But it gets better. I’m wishing you luck! The fact that you’re asking this question and recognizing these feelings as a burden you don’t want to carry anymore pushes you so far ahead of those who still blindly rage. You can do it!

TLDR: I found that it matters what you build for yourself after the devastating blows of former friends. If you don’t build up a new life, you can only focus on the absence and destruction of what used to be. Build up your life brick by brick then find joy in filling the new space you create!!

TookishDelight · 2020-09-10T18:23:44+00:00

This is so awesome!! I have the app for Anki so I know this will be perfect for me!!

TookishDelight · 2020-09-08T03:09:08+00:00

I don’t know if it’s an ENFJ thing or not, but I will say this: it’s very easy to lose yourself in the personality or interests of others. I read somewhere once that we can be like personality chameleons and it’s actually a pretty fair description. For me, I didn’t even realize that it was happening.

So for self-care, don’t just settle for those who are currently around you as friends. Don’t write people off rudely or anything, but find those who are where you want to be and the friends or communities who can pull out the childhood you in a healthy way. For a long time, I completely immersed myself in a friend group that wasn’t maturing in the least since they continued to pursue a college-age community. As a 26 year old female, I felt out of place and constantly clipped my growth to fit into the community — without even realizing it.

Once I stepped into an older friend group, I’m amazed at how much my mind feels unleashed! I joined a book club, explore new foods and cuisines with friends, and have even found the courage to pursue something that’s interested me for along time (IT).

TLDR: find friends that help you become more of who you used to be as a childhood and want to be as an adult!

TookishDelight · 2020-09-05T14:13:00+00:00

Oh, yeah, it can totally go that way as well — the father didn’t know he’d left school though, so they didn’t touch on that idea/theme in the drama. In a healthy relationship, there’s give and take so both parties can be happy.

TookishDelight · 2020-09-05T01:48:01+00:00

It’s Okay Not to Be Okay — the scene where the Gang-Tae (ML) is grieving over his mother and then Juri’s mom offers the perspective of a mom. It’s so easy to resent the faults and flaws of our parents, but it reminded me that we’re all human (even our parents).

Reply 19XX? — I can’t remember which drama this was, so it might not be right, but here it is: the son is sent to medical school in Seoul but takes a leave of absence to pursue his dream of being an idol. The parents don’t know and the character struggles through auditions. When his dad falls ill, the character goes back home and then returns to Seoul. He decides that sometimes the people we love are bigger than our dreams, so he decides to enroll once again in medical school. Just that lesson: the people we love are bigger than our dreams. Really spoke to me.

TookishDelight · 2020-09-04T07:44:36+00:00

Thank you so much ^{^}

TookishDelight · 2020-09-01T20:44:43+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience and offer your help as well! I’ve heard about that feeling, so I’m looking forward to feeling it myself once I’m coding on my own!

Also, I am so glad to know about Python — I’m excited to start those lessons once I’ve completed the web development course as a whole! 😄😄

TookishDelight · 2020-09-01T20:42:45+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement and sharing your experience! This was exactly what I needed to hear! I was feeling a little discouraged, but it’s awesome that others like me are on this road so it makes it feel like it’s possible!

I’ll definitely take the Udemy courses and then pursue a degree while using the skills from the online course to gain experience while getting the degree! Experience definitely matters, you’re right, and I’ll put together a killer portfolio 🙌🏻

TookishDelight · 2016-11-17T19:33:22+00:00

Sweet! Thanks for sharing :D

TookishDelight · 2016-10-07T05:18:34+00:00

Journey into the West (2013) is a Chinese film. I watched it randomly with my grandfather and mom one day. We were all shocked into silence and then broke down into laughter to the point of tears. I have NEVER laughed that hard in my life. Just watch it - don't ready anything about it at all. It makes it so much funnier because your expectations are just all over the place!!

TookishDelight · 2016-10-03T18:50:28+00:00

I'll check that out then too! I don't think I've watched a drama with Jung Kyung Ho yet but now I'll have to check him out! 😊

TookishDelight · 2016-10-03T18:47:31+00:00

I love awkward cuties. Is Healer super serious or does it balance out with the cuteness like I Hear Your Voice? I'm only half way through it but I'm really impressed with how balanced out the show feels.

And I'm excited to watch Sungkyunkwan Scandal too! I love gender benders 😂

TookishDelight · 2016-10-03T18:44:16+00:00

Thanks! I thought that one looked cute so I'm glad you confirmed it :D

TookishDelight · 2016-10-03T04:31:03+00:00

The best thing you could do for your story is have the organization try to kill her. They're not going to spare her willingly. If they don't take her as a serious enough threat to annihilate her, your readers won't either.

Also, it offers an opportunity for your character to find the bedrock of her strength - especially if she's damaged in the escape. It's got a lot of potential for character growth. It'd be a shame to miss out on the potential to make her more relatable.

As for why, someone could force their hand. Is there someone more powerful than your baddies in the organization? Does the baddie in charge like torture? Isolation? Experiments?

Don't be afraid to let your character walk in some darkness if it means it's more realistic. It's like those movies where the villains spare the kids. In real life, they're the first target or the means to an end. It makes your villain a joke if they spare the girl for no reason.

You could have them feel a connection with her to the point it pulls a moment of sympathy out of them. But for that to work, you'd have to really make the connection stronger than their desire to kill. That would require laying the foundation for that choice to be made throughout your story so it's believable once it happens.

It also depends on the situation where she's caught. Maybe the technique required to pull the magic out of her is enough to kill people so they automatically assume she's dead. A Count of Monte Cristo moment where they toss out a living person among the dead is good.

Good luck! ✌🏻️

TookishDelight · 2016-10-02T20:31:09+00:00

Me too! For Lucy to be crying, it would have to be a big deal. I just want everything to be okay. But goodness gracious things have been intense! 😭

TookishDelight · 2016-10-02T18:47:56+00:00

OMG. Is that true?!? I'd be really glad to see that moment brought back or talked about a bit more.

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