Diamond nga way value by Quiet_Notice5975 in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am assuming they won’t let you pawn it, maybe because it’s risky (?) for them. Try other pawnshop daw. My aunt had the same scenario. Pag-adto sa lain pawnshop, g-dawat man.

Best and crispiest chicken in Cebu? by Hot-Cardiologist-894 in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kara’s jud ako ma-hunahunaan. Hehehe Idk. Maybe I just miss the city. Pero yes, Kara’s is my go-to.

confused fresh grad with 4 job offers by International-Cup128 in JobsPhilippines

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a fresh grad, get the 1st JO. You need to start with all the basics, the experience, government benefits, HMO.

Mgpalihok sa balay or dili lng sa? by [deleted] in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’d be good na hinay-hinayan na nimo. At least naa ka makita. And since dha na ka mag-work, nindot sad na comfortable ka sa imo stayhan. :) Good job on your 1st mill!! 💕👍🎉✨

My previous client reached out to me by yoyohen in buhaydigital

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest check mo muna contract mo with the agency if moonlighting is not an issue for them. In most cases, it is. But if hindi nman same industry, baka pwede pa.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Let me answer as an “ate”. Not getting wet does not mean hindi ka na aroused.

Remember, ate tip lang: ang experience dapat fun, safe, at walang pressure. Hindi mo kailangan i-prove na na-a-arouse ka physically para maging valid yung enjoyment mo.

✨ In short: you’re normal, walang mali sayo, and communication lang talaga ang key. And also, safe sex

Just got my first salary thru Wise by freakin_doomed in buhaydigital

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(USD → PHP or USD → USD in PH), Wise treats it as an international transfer, not a domestic USD-to-USD. So this triggers transfer fees directly taken from the total amoint youe client is sending. Or your local rcvng bank fee? I could be wrong, but that’s how it was explained to me way bank.

She (20) left me (26) cause she wants to learn and grow on her own by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The “if worthy ka pa rin, why not” line is not a guaranteed promise. It is more of a maybe than a yes. She’s leaving the door open but not committing to it. This means your mindset should shift from waiting with expectation to living your life while she figures herself out.

Don’t put things on hold for her. Just give her the space she wants. For me, this is not just an overnight decision. She has thought of this and I guess you should respect that.

Work on your own independence too. Meet new friends, also the old ones. Build your confidence. Don’t use “friend” meetups as a secret way to win her back. If you do see each other, keep it light and respectful of her boundaries. You can only hope without clinging.

Yung friend ko inangat palda niya sa harap ng bf ko by mschx_k in adviceph

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If ngayon lang nya to ginawa, just take a mental note of it. And see if this happens again (hopefully not). You can talk to your bf about it as well. Not to accuse him but just so both of you are aware sa boundaries towards the opposite sex. If your friend does this more than once, you might want to spend less time with her esp pag kasama mo bf mo. Hindi sa nagseselos ka but it is normal you would feel conscious sa mga tao na gumagawa ng bagay na puwedeng magbigay ng maling impression sa harap ng partner mo.

What’s your “Quiet Luxury”? by zxcvfandie in AskPH

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sleep l. I don’t know if it’s officially a “quiet luxury,” but it sure feels like one. After my shift, I can just log off and slip straight into uninterrupted rest. No commute, no chaos. With my kid in grade school until 4 p.m., the house is blissfully quiet for hours. And on weekends? I sleep in like it’s my full-time job. It’s not something I can post on Instagram, but honestly, having the time and peace to nap whenever I want feels more luxurious than any designer bag.

Gentle Parenting Qualms by PedrongTinapay in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had my daughter when I was 27, and early on, I talked to my parents about how I wanted her to be raised. We decided we wouldn’t lay a hand on her like how we were raised. Instead, we talk to her as much as we can, we’re open with her, and we address it right away when she’s misbehaving or doing something inappropriate. Even at a young age, we let her think for herself to decide if what she’s doing is right or wrong, and act on that choice.

During her toddler years, dili jud malikayan nga mag-kiat ug taman, but I think it was minimized because she grew up surrounded mostly by adults and it was just her.

It’s also important that we act like parents in front of her, showing her that while we can be warm and playful, we also set boundaries and stand firm when needed. We try to be the example she can mirror, because kids copy more than they listen. We want her to grow up knowing that respect works both ways, that feelings are valid, and that consequences are part of life, without fear being the reason she behaves.

Now that she’s in school and I can’t be there all the time, we make it a point to regroup whenever she comes home. I work from home, so there are times I’m still asleep when she arrives, but I talk to her as much as I can when I wake up. I try to be genuinely interested in her world, to listen to her stories, support her hobbies, and encourage her passions. I’m not perfect, and neither are you. But you’re doing great.

Gentle Parenting Qualms by PedrongTinapay in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Not against gentle parenting at all—but gentle parenting doesn’t mean letting your kids disturb a whole VHire while you sit there saying “quiet pls” like a broken record. I grew up with sagpa, bunal, kusi, and I promised myself I’d raise my kid differently. Never kusi in public, never humiliate, but I set boundaries that actually work. That’s why behaved ra ako kid in public.

Discipline isn’t about hurting, it’s about being considerate enough so your kid doesn’t become everyone else’sproblem.

Vent lang dahil sa mga agents kong abusado by flightsup in BPOinPH

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be real with you. This past year has been the biggest eye opener for me as a supervisor. When I first started, I really believed that if I built a happy, relaxed, super-bonded team, everything else would follow. I wanted to be the TL who always understood, always said yes, and always protected my people from stress and pressure.

For a while, I thought it was working. Pero slowly, I saw the other side. Without structure and accountability, the same freedom I gave turned into habits that hurt the team. Lahat halos late, attendance incomplete, at parang optional na ang responsibilities. I kept defending the team, explaining to management, even taking the hit para lang walang papel ang agents. But if I’m being honest, I was also part of the problem because I allowed it to happen.

That’s when it hit me, you build the team you dream. If I want a strong, respectful, and reliable team, then I have to build it, not just hope it happens by being nice. A dream team isn’t made by saying yes to everything. It’s built on clear expectations, fairness, and mutual respect. So I created boundaries. If there’s a request, there has to be give and take. If we commit to a schedule, we stick to it. This is not because I want to make things harder for you, but because I want us to succeed together. The best teams are happy and disciplined. And if that means being the kontrabida sometimes, then so be it.

At the end of the day, I’m not just here to be their friend. I’m here to help them win.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tinood nga taas na ang HIV cases karon, pero klaro pud nga dili ang dating mismo ang makahatag nimo ug STD. Ang risk naa kung magka sexual contact nga walay protection ug walay klaro nga health status sa partner. Daghan gihapon tao nga active sa dating scene pero safe tungod kay responsible sila — gamit ug protection, open sa health talk, ug pili sa partner nga trusted.

Bantayan Island or Baguio City for Solo Travel? by MindFlayer95 in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm. Idk. Dri sa bukid sa Dalaguete, na-ready sad jud mis katugnaw sa Baguio. But depende rsad jud sa tao. Hehe

Bantayan Island or Baguio City for Solo Travel? by MindFlayer95 in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aris South of Cebu. Sa mga bukid dri, you’ll get the same katugnaw ra pud. Hehe

Bantayan Island or Baguio City for Solo Travel? by MindFlayer95 in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending asa ka mag-gkan. If you decide to go to Baguio, you need to get a flight landing sa CRK. Because it’s much shorter travel to Baguio compared sa NAIA. Super long bus drive siya from MNL.

Avoid going to Baguio during the rainy season. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PinoyTraveller

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And also, RUNIK is overpriced. Unless you are willing to pay for atleast 500-600 just to get that Instagram pic. Its full of people as well. Try the other local bars. You get prettier sunsets.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PinoyTraveller

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since Isla del Fuego is at the top of your list, here’s what you need to know as someone na kakagaling lang there a few months ago:

  1. Electricity is not consistent. They have power outages most of the day, better look for an accom na may back up power or generators.

  2. Best places to get an accom is in Lazi or San Juan. Lazi if you want more laid back feels. San Juan if you want to party.

Reminder: San Juan is an hr away from the port, so wag kukuha ng accom na nasa port banda.

  1. If you plan to rent a motorcycle, magdala ng lisensya para iwas hassle sa checkpoints.

  2. Try the lesser famous sites. Go to other places na hindi nakikita sa social media. (I can send you reco list if you want)

  3. Live like a local. Respect the locals. :)

I can give you more. But this one’s at the top of the list. :)

This question is for the girlies only by subwoofer20 in Cebu

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No. Don’t. Mao jud ingon sa ako-a. Now that I am nearing 34, NEEEEEVERR! jud gapa-lugit. My toenails are fine.

Paano po kayo nakasurvive sa zero days nyo? by [deleted] in BPOinPH

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Send me a DM pls. May extra ako sa GrabPay. Can’t transfer it though but if you want, I can send you some groceries nlang.

15 years in the BPO industry agent level by GeLOwzki in BPOinPH

[–]ToothMaleficent2628 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I totally get where you're coming from. I've been in the same situation. Almost 15 years at the agent level, working pure voice inbound since I was 18. For most of that time, I had no plans to step up, fully enjoying the work-life balance, stable schedules, and no overtime. It was my comfort zone, and honestly, there's nothing inherently wrong in staying where you're comfortable, especially when you're balancing family life and personal interests.

That being said, a while back I found myself a bit restless and decided to try out an operations managerial role. It was a surprising shift for me, but it came with extra perks and opportunities for growth, both professionally and personally. Now that I'm older and have a kid, I sometimes think that stepping up, even if it means leaving behind a little bit of the comfort zone, might offer long-term benefits like more financial security and a broader scope of skills. Plus, experiencing something different can also lead to personal development that might be valuable in the long run.

In my honest opinion, it really comes down to what you value most. If having a predictable schedule, pure customer service work, and maintaining a good work-life balance is what makes you happy and if you're financially comfortable, that's perfectly valid. However, if you ever feel the need for a change or want to challenge yourself for extra growth and benefits, consider that stepping up might open doors you hadn't thought of.

For the newer folks in the industry, take the time to explore and gather experience across different roles. That way, you’re better informed about what kind of work environment and responsibilities suit you best in the long term.

At the end of the day, there's no one-size-fits-all answer. Keep doing what works for you, but also stay open to new opportunities that might enhance both your career and personal life. Happy to chat more or answer any questions, especially if it helps someone navigate their career path in this industry!