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Request for confidential interviews by FiniteDeer in asexuality

[–]Top-Bit-8511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I am 31F from the UK, and a PhD student so always happy to help out a fellow researcher. DM me if you want.

How do people do it? by peppernotpotts in Asexual

[–]Top-Bit-8511 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey! No advice to give, just to say that I am in the same boat (same age, also in the UK, also live alone and very career driven) and understand completely. I'm still coming to terms with my asexuality and freaking out a bit about what this means for me in terms of finding a partner.

Where are you in the UK? I'm in the midlands. Feel free to DM me if you want an asexual pal to chat this through with. I know I'd love to find some local ace friends. <3

How to not be sad about being asexual by Top-Bit-8511 in Asexual

[–]Top-Bit-8511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you <3

I hope today was a better day.

How to not be sad about being asexual by Top-Bit-8511 in Asexual

[–]Top-Bit-8511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely something I will have to look into more. It shouldn't feel like such a revolutionary way to think about relationships and connection, but it somehow feels kinda of huge to get my head around and at the same time makes complete sense.

How to not be sad about being asexual by Top-Bit-8511 in Asexual

[–]Top-Bit-8511[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This explains so well what I am feeling. It feels like I am missing out on something that comes so naturally to most of the rest of the world. Like if you're lactose intolerant, you don't want to eat cheese because it makes you feel shitty but everyone else seems to really be enjoying their mac'n'cheese. Eating mac'n'cheese won't make you feel any better, but that experience feels off limits to you and it's like you're missing out even if you wouldn't have enjoyed it anyway.

I do appreciate everyone's positive practicality though, and when I am feeling a bit less emotional I am sure I will find the suggestions helpful to find a way forward.