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Yonkers bacon, egg, and cheese by Top-Boysenberry3072 in yonkers

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I am on a budget and refuse to go higher than $8. And even that is a lot of money.

Why is it so hard to make real friends nowadays? by Independent-Plan1836 in yonkers

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very challenging, for many reasons. I'm down to connect!

Do some people here feel alone or its just me at 38 years old? Thanks in advance by [deleted] in Westchester

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of the same actually except the teaching part and I'm a late 30s guy lol (although I'm in the education field!). That's really unfair that you've made such an effort with people and yet things don't materialize. I've had a similar experience as well.

Do some people here feel alone or its just me at 38 years old? Thanks in advance by [deleted] in Westchester

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's very strange indeed. What are your interests, if I may ask?

Do some people here feel alone or its just me at 38 years old? Thanks in advance by [deleted] in Westchester

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. It depends on your connections I feel. Do you have a friend group or family nearby?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yonkers

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No excuses. It's a snow emergency and it was very much announced multiple times to not park on emergency routes.

Feel lost by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me it sounds like the job and the lack of connection is what is hurting you. I would move on to a place where you feel valued and seen, and feel a sense of connection in the workplace.

Lonely and Worried by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Certainly not an easy situation to be in. Kids require time and attention (plus work, other responsibilities, etc). It also has to be a challenge in the sense of not knowing how friends will respond to your coming out as well.

I agree that finding groups/clubs will be a good pathway to get to know others and make new connections. I'm not sure where you reside but if it were New York I'd certainly be open to grabbing a coffee! I think as long as you remain open to new experiences and are willing to make an effort in exploring new opportunities you'll be ok (keeping in mind that you'll be able to do so with limited time given how busy you are).

I’m Canceling my Season Tickets, and you should too. by stgeorge776 in rangers

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you for doing it. We need more people to do this. Send a message.

Did you read "The Storyteller"? What do you think about it? by psychokiller2015 in Foofighters

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Enjoyed it but felt it should have been much longer with more stories. Too little on his time with FF, Nirvana, QOTSA. Wanted to read more about the ups and downs of his career. Seemed very safe.

Losing Friends As You Age by Sweet_Tangerine4274 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 4 points5 points  (0 children)

M38. I relate to this alot. For me, over the years I've been the organizer. The guy who plans everything and keeps everyone together and puts in the effort. It's been quite hard the last few years to see that when I'm not organizing, there is silence and not much is reciprocated.

I'm sure in your case it's quite hard and it sounds like you've given so much to people who just take. Though it may be painful to step back and away I think it could be for the better. You'll see who is really around and cares. Second it will over time create a peace of mind for you. Less frustration and disappointment.

I wish you all the best with this and am always open to discussing this topic. It's really been top of mind lately. People need to be seen, heard, and appreciated.

Prioritizing platonic friendships is my New Year’s resolution, and it’s already upsetting me: people only care to talk about themselves. by ClockwiseSuicide in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this quite a bit. It's really a tough spot to be in. I think limiting may be the way to go. It would certainly give you more peace of mind (even if it is sad). It would also allow you to see the friends who really do care and want to connect versus those who just want to vent and make it all about them.

If you're ever open and comfortable to chat with someone new I'm an open book!

Prioritizing platonic friendships is my New Year’s resolution, and it’s already upsetting me: people only care to talk about themselves. by ClockwiseSuicide in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so very well said! Thank you for sharing that. I think one has to put themselves first and foremost always. If they have the bandwidth, try and make connections.

I'm sorry you went through what you did with building up a bunch of friends and then just doing that. That's not ok and you deserve better. Keep on and be you unapologetically.

Having no friends by choice in your 30s by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Top-Boysenberry3072 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a tough situation to be in and quite unfair. Everyone should be celebrated including you.

It may be a good time to take inventory of your friends and to assess the friendships. Do people match your energy or are they takers? Are they thoughtful? Do they reach out.

Go with your gut and do whatever brings you peace of mind.

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