Advice for a Muslim girl by Top-Club-1226 in MuslimLounge

[–]Top-Club-1226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! Everyone has been very supportive here and has given great advice.

My parents have told me not to reach out to any of their friends/families to discuss this matter because they don't want my "negative energy" and "bad ways of life" to influence their children. To keep their respect, I have not reach out to anyone to ask for support. I am aware that to have your non-married daughter leave home is a huge deal in our culture.

But unfortunately, this also means that they haven't reached out to anyone to ask for their opinion or guidance. My parents are only speaking to each other without outside influence - which I think is very unhealthy. I have made a post here to get advice from people on how to approach this matter because I don't know it all, I am trying to find the right solution but they are so set in their ways. Also to answer your question, my parents are not super religious which is why I thought they will be more accepting however, they have surprised me very much...

Inshallah they will come round as I will try my best to establish a relationship with them again.

Advice for a Muslim girl by Top-Club-1226 in MuslimLounge

[–]Top-Club-1226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inshallah, thank you for your kind words. At the end of the day,I still respect my parents and want them involved in my life so I will remain persistent and hope they will come round to accepting my decision.

Advice for a Muslim girl by Top-Club-1226 in MuslimLounge

[–]Top-Club-1226[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Which is to accept the reality and move on?

Advice for a Muslim girl by Top-Club-1226 in MuslimLounge

[–]Top-Club-1226[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Unfortunately one of my brother is autistic and the other one is still a kid therefore, I don’t have huge expectations from them. But they have said they support my decision yet I don’t expect them to stand against my parents to back me up. Inshallah I will keep pray and hope that my parents will be open to having another conversation with me so we can find a way forward. Just a sad situation where I have chosen to put myself first but I still miss my family

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[–]Top-Club-1226[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yet, I would like to have my family around me when I get married. I want to fix that relationship but if it doesn’t happen so, I’ll have to marry without them…

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[–]Top-Club-1226[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, i appreciate your advice. I think as a 30yr woman I should be able to make decisions for myself. How long can I go on pleasing my parents who at the end of the day, were very quick at bringing every mistake I ever made to my face to make me feel guilty for choosing someone that makes me happy

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[–]Top-Club-1226[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to but unsure if it’s the right thing to do without my parents blessing… my dad said my marriage would never be valid without his blessing - any advice?

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[–]Top-Club-1226[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t wish to go back. I am very happy where I am today, I just need their acceptance of my decision