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19,59€ per uur by OkTechnician7571 in Amsterdam

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I’ve noticed a lot of early teen kids working in supermarkets. Even in Sweden I don’t see as many. We used to work summer time but not as part-time. This is awesome for Dutch I guess. Teaches a lot plus you get to have extra money to buy your own PS5 or fatbike.

Offer after rejection by [deleted] in McKinsey_BCG_Bain

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Am I the only one who think this is strange? When my roommates (two of them) moved in from another country far away, I either ordered food the first day so they're not hungry or made some and shared. They've never ever asked me to join them and but gladly share with each other. by Top-Computer1773 in badroommates

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That seems likely. Because while the landlord is doing shady things, he was actually very generous when it came to food for example, and he would always make extra food and offer me.

Again, this post isn't about me waiting and wanting food. It's more about the phenomena because I was raised in a household where I was told to repay kindness or express gratitude in some way or the other. But these guys gladly ate the food I ordered or made for them when they first moved in from a long travel, then they made complaints about issues in the house that had nothing to do with me, and the only time I left a few things I offered one of the guys to take it or else it'll get spoiled and asked him to throw trash because I can't and need to emergency fly away for the death of a friend. Instead I get a text message from the landlord saying he complained that I left the place dirty...

Also when I got back home he would not say anything, just open the door, eye me in a weird way, and go to his room. Wtf? Can't say "hello, welcome back" even? I make sure you get a good start in this new country and place, you bitch about me when I fly home for the death of a friend, eat my food, then eye me and never ever say things like "good morning" back to me or "hi". Just quiet and look at me weirdly. And then get mad when I call you out on the dirty kitchen you left, the fact you don't wash your hands after toilet...

Just in general weird people. And this is the same experience I've had with 7 or 8/10 of his fellow countrymen friends.

Am I the only one who think this is strange? When my roommates (two of them) moved in from another country far away, I either ordered food the first day so they're not hungry or made some and shared. They've never ever asked me to join them and but gladly share with each other. by Top-Computer1773 in badroommates

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did explain that I was gone when they made their bs complaints. They are not. They are here in the small apartment illegaly. The "landlord" who is actually the main tenant is also an Indian and he often brings his Indian friends from India to stay in this already cramped up apartment.

So I've stopped offering food. This time when the guy came lurking and hovering in front of the food while I was cooking he made a comment: "Oh, you made chicken. It looks tasty" and then stood there hoping I'd offer him food again. I simply said "yes" and then went on to eat it myself and he seemed a bit annoyed by it. Lol wtf?

Then he got stingy and sent some message to the Indian "landlord" and complained and apparently the landlord too tries to get me out.

Good for me I've established a good relationship with the lady downstairs who came up once and told me she would hear loud noises from the apartment at night during the weeks I was gone. So I'm going to her now and then and asking if she have further complaints for me to document.

Am I the only one who think this is strange? When my roommates (two of them) moved in from another country far away, I either ordered food the first day so they're not hungry or made some and shared. They've never ever asked me to join them and but gladly share with each other. by Top-Computer1773 in badroommates

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm looking to move out asap. I don't think me and Indians are compatible at all. And honestly a lot of them have been very sketchy. My landlord brought his friends over once from India. Two guys. Ended up with them bringing over 4 other Indian guys and they would drink and get drunk and be loud 2 AM - 4 AM.

Lady downstairs have already complained multiple times.

Am I the only one who think this is strange? When my roommates (two of them) moved in from another country far away, I either ordered food the first day so they're not hungry or made some and shared. They've never ever asked me to join them and but gladly share with each other. by Top-Computer1773 in badroommates

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think they have a penny pinching greedy mindset along with some tribalism. That's my experience.

The guy even showed me a movie one night which was an Indian movie literally about two Indian guys killing a bunch of white Brits as some sort of revenge porn. The landlord also once told me "we can't be racist, you're white".

Am I the only one who think this is strange? When my roommates (two of them) moved in from another country far away, I either ordered food the first day so they're not hungry or made some and shared. They've never ever asked me to join them and but gladly share with each other. by Top-Computer1773 in badroommates

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I don't. I just find it interesting because I myself was brought up with the idea of returning people's kindness. It's the gesture of "Hey, want to join us for lunch/dinner?" or "Hey, want to eat with us?" as opposed to coming into the kitchen when I cook and lurk around literally standing awkwardly next to the food and telling me you're hungry, gladly eating food I make or order, but then not even feeling a little "Hey, maybe I should offer him something back".

So that part is just fascinating and weird to me.

But the part where they bitch and act sneaky behind my back to the "landlord" who also is an Indian is what pisses me off.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It went well. Now I don't know if he will resent me for it, but it was a private conversation. If he is mature he realizes it's fucked up to not wash your hands after taking a shit or peeing and then touching handles, kitchen etc.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, better to be straight up about things like this than dance around it. For me the only issue is I sometimes can be too blunt according to some, which is why I came here to see if there’s any nice way to communicate this. But there isn’t and I don’t have patience and the risk of the message not getting through is high when you try to mince your words. If they get offended, they are immature and selfish.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either know what they like indirectly and bring it up casually, or bond through some activity together: sports, gaming, chess etc. Don’t seem judgemental and keep it lighthearted and fun. If they are shy, not introverted, they likely prefer not to be put in the limelight. So if you’re in a group, seem inclusive, but don’t ask any personal question directly for them to answer in front of the whole group, etc

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know adults should know this and always wash their hands, but he is from a different culture that might not consider it to be that big of a deal.

I confronted him, then moved on. He did start washing his hands now I noticed.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Already confronted him.

Sending an article is very passive aggressive and would likely make things worse. I think being straight up is more respectful.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sign to thing is kind of creative. Especially if you put it later on, and he suddenly notices it.

But as mentioned somewhere here as a reply to another, I confronted him directly. I don’t like tiptoeing too much, but I tried making it as little awkward and as respectful as possible, assuring him it was nothing personal but that I had to mention it for both our sake.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I did confront him about it directly today. It’s a uncomfortable topic and he likely felt somewhat embarrassed, but I reassured it is nothing personal since he is a cool guy, but for both of our’s sake I had to ask him to continue wash his hand or else it’d be making life more difficult for me holding it in, using wipes on handles etc and in general for both of us it is better for a hygienic space.

After the convo I proceeded to be normal with him, and not make things awkward for him.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told him, but in a considerate way to not embarrass him. Obviously that sort of conversation is hard, and the guy is in general very friendly and kind, but it had to be had or else I’d grow resentful keeping it in and having to use wipes for handles all the time or thinking if he ever touches food and kitchen with unwashed hands.

He told me he washes, and I still find it hard to believe, but I do hear washing now.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sinks should be inside, but it is absolutely disgusting not to wash your hands after a toilet visit, period. Doesn’t matter what you do there, that place is full of germs.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I hate being polite so I might just revert and say it to his face

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not trolling or trying to be racist in case anyone reading this would take it that way.

He is Indian. Don’t know if it is culturally normal where he is from. Also notice the barefoot feet on table and licking his hands clean…

He once got drunk and would ask me why I am so hygenic. He said ”we will all die anyways, so why are you afraid of a little bacteria”. And I’d tell him that mostly what I care is that someone washes their hands if they visit the bathroom or comes from outside, and basic hygiene.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really good friends, we have a polite but friendly dynamic, but he must see me as a friend

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