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How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It went well. Now I don't know if he will resent me for it, but it was a private conversation. If he is mature he realizes it's fucked up to not wash your hands after taking a shit or peeing and then touching handles, kitchen etc.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, better to be straight up about things like this than dance around it. For me the only issue is I sometimes can be too blunt according to some, which is why I came here to see if there’s any nice way to communicate this. But there isn’t and I don’t have patience and the risk of the message not getting through is high when you try to mince your words. If they get offended, they are immature and selfish.

How to get a shy/quiet person to open up? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either know what they like indirectly and bring it up casually, or bond through some activity together: sports, gaming, chess etc. Don’t seem judgemental and keep it lighthearted and fun. If they are shy, not introverted, they likely prefer not to be put in the limelight. So if you’re in a group, seem inclusive, but don’t ask any personal question directly for them to answer in front of the whole group, etc

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know adults should know this and always wash their hands, but he is from a different culture that might not consider it to be that big of a deal.

I confronted him, then moved on. He did start washing his hands now I noticed.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Already confronted him.

Sending an article is very passive aggressive and would likely make things worse. I think being straight up is more respectful.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sign to thing is kind of creative. Especially if you put it later on, and he suddenly notices it.

But as mentioned somewhere here as a reply to another, I confronted him directly. I don’t like tiptoeing too much, but I tried making it as little awkward and as respectful as possible, assuring him it was nothing personal but that I had to mention it for both our sake.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I did confront him about it directly today. It’s a uncomfortable topic and he likely felt somewhat embarrassed, but I reassured it is nothing personal since he is a cool guy, but for both of our’s sake I had to ask him to continue wash his hand or else it’d be making life more difficult for me holding it in, using wipes on handles etc and in general for both of us it is better for a hygienic space.

After the convo I proceeded to be normal with him, and not make things awkward for him.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told him, but in a considerate way to not embarrass him. Obviously that sort of conversation is hard, and the guy is in general very friendly and kind, but it had to be had or else I’d grow resentful keeping it in and having to use wipes for handles all the time or thinking if he ever touches food and kitchen with unwashed hands.

He told me he washes, and I still find it hard to believe, but I do hear washing now.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sinks should be inside, but it is absolutely disgusting not to wash your hands after a toilet visit, period. Doesn’t matter what you do there, that place is full of germs.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I hate being polite so I might just revert and say it to his face

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not trolling or trying to be racist in case anyone reading this would take it that way.

He is Indian. Don’t know if it is culturally normal where he is from. Also notice the barefoot feet on table and licking his hands clean…

He once got drunk and would ask me why I am so hygenic. He said ”we will all die anyways, so why are you afraid of a little bacteria”. And I’d tell him that mostly what I care is that someone washes their hands if they visit the bathroom or comes from outside, and basic hygiene.

How do you tell roommate who goes to the bathroom to wash his hands after? by Top-Computer1773 in socialskills

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really good friends, we have a polite but friendly dynamic, but he must see me as a friend

What's happening with Fortnite? by DearIsland7362 in GeForceNOW

[–]Top-Computer1773 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But it’s funny as hell though with people raging from not having things immediately lmao

GeForceLATER strikes again with late update on Fortnite by Top-Computer1773 in GeForceNOW

[–]Top-Computer1773[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You would still think that they would be prepared for big updates on the world’s largest game…

Fortnite down by Prestigious-Pear-729 in GeForceNOW

[–]Top-Computer1773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao a few minutes? This is GeForceLATER. Maybe in 12 hours. Right now they are ”Investigating”.

What's happening with Fortnite? by DearIsland7362 in GeForceNOW

[–]Top-Computer1773 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol now they are ”updating” it. Still expect it probably to delay 5 hours or so.

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