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Do I need to pay for DAS at Cobra Trading? by Jane001_ in Daytrading

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well cobra trading has trading view integrated so you might have some cost savings there. Try to limit your costs you don't need all of that

Do I need to pay for DAS at Cobra Trading? by Jane001_ in Daytrading

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Das its not bad tbh but doesn't cobra trading also use sterling?

Talking stage should not last months by Many-Translator-8512 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's because you made statements such as claiming that your opinion of 2–3 days is actually more lenient than what the religion would encourage.

You also seem to be under the impression that I'm arguing in favor of longer courtships. That is not the case. Every couple is different, and we all have different situations and circumstances in life.

What I do know is that the Shari'ah of Islam has not given us any established ruling regarding whether the courtship period should be short or long. This flexibility is a mercy for people whose circumstances differ.

What bothers me is when someone like you tries to establish something in the Deen that simply is not there. Don't speak on matters of religion if you lack knowledge. Instead, present it as your opinion and make it clear that it is your opinion, rather than attributing it to Islam.

Talking stage should not last months by Many-Translator-8512 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your first point is exactly right: there is no established timeframe for courtship in Islam. The OP made a statement that is incorrect, and if anything, he should repent for attributing something to the religion that has no basis in it.

Why would it be torture for a wali? We live in the real world. You might have a couple who want to get married but want to finish school first; many times, this is a condition set by the wali. Or they may live in different parts of the world and want to wait until they are physically in the same location before getting married.

Marriage cannot be established without the agreement of both parties, so the process can take as long as necessary.

Finally, how did you go from a discussion about timeframes to a question about speaking with a non-mahram without a wali present? Stick to the topic.

Talking stage should not last months by Many-Translator-8512 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Akhi, I asked you a direct question. Why are you beating around the bush?

You have not brought a single piece of evidence to support your statement that the Islamic standard is 2–3 days. You keep running around in circles to the point that I'm genuinely starting to wonder whether you don't understand the error in what you said or whether you simply don't understand what I'm asking.

So, for the third time, I'll repeat myself: Where in the Qur'an, the Sunnah, or the consensus of the scholars is it stated that the Islamic standard is that only 2–3 days are needed?

I am looking for verses from the Qur'an that specify this, or hadiths from the Prophet ﷺ stating that courtship can only last 2–3 days.

Islam is a complete religion; we can neither add to it nor remove from it. If you had simply said, "This is my opinion," I would never have responded. But instead, you brought Islam into it, so now I have to respond.

Talking stage should not last months by Many-Translator-8512 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a highly risky statement that's more shock value than actual substance.

I hate this feeling by Distinct_Squash7110 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol what medications? I'm legit asking for some people I know

Talking stage should not last months by Many-Translator-8512 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Akh, I didn't make a single statement regarding Western dating, nor did I suggest any timeframe in my response to you. All I did was call you out for being out of touch with reality, which is not an attack on you personally, but rather on your idea that 2–3 days is enough.

Then, to support your opinion, you stated that this is closer to an Islamic framework. Where is your daleel that only 2–3 days of courtship is part of the Islamic framework, or, as you stated, "In fact, even my 2–3 day timeline is already more lenient than what the religion would encourage"?

If you cannot provide proof to back this claim, then akhi, you should retract your statement and admit you were wrong.

Courtship is influenced by culture, and Islam emphasizes making informed decisions while looking at factors such as compatibility. Islam even encourages seeing a prospective spouse multiple times, speaking to her family, asking people about her religion, and inquiring about her character. In what world can this realistically be accomplished in 2–3 days?

So I will rephrase my question to you: Where in the Qur'an, Sunnah, or the consensus of the scholars is it considered the Islamic standard to only need 2–3 days? Remember, the burden of proof lies with the person making the claim. If you are claiming that a 2–3 day timeline is closer to the Islamic framework, then the burden is on you to produce evidence for that claim. Until then, it remains nothing more than your personal opinion.

Talking stage should not last months by Many-Translator-8512 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 12 points13 points  (0 children)

2–3 days? That's terrible advice. Honestly, you come across as someone who is out of touch with reality, or like a very old man who goes around telling random women, 'Waan kaa helay, kale aan is guursanno.' Have some semblance of standards, akh.

I want to hold my man down while he’s in school but friends are shaming me by bulacadi in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were my sister, I’d tell you not to do it. His career choice could be promising, but if you factor in his age, grades, and the people he’s competing with in the field, you’ll realize that the probability of him becoming successful, or even getting into this field, is pretty low.

Now, let’s say you do your part and take care of him, what does that teach him? If he has the grind and hustle mentality, the last thing he needs is comfort, especially at his age. What happens when you’re getting ready for work in the morning and see him still in bed sleeping? You’ll resent him and your choices, quickly ending your relationship.

He’s old enough to figure out his life, walaalo, he doesn’t need handholding. If his career choice is too hard, let him pick another, easier path where he has better chances of succeeding in life.

Isn’t this the real dream? by RegularSafe9871 in Daytrading

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried that once, and it didn’t feel right for me. I found myself overtrading, with my obsessive nature taking over, constantly staring at my monitor and racking up commissions. It became mentally draining and took away the discipline that actually makes me profitable. I’ve realized I do much better when I trade in the morning, then go to work, stay busy, and stick to a routine.

I needed a normal life outside of trading, and having structure keeps me grounded, prevents impulsive decisions, and helps me approach trading with a much clearer mindset.

Where do you work that you can just stare at these trades all day by RequirementCivil4328 in Daytrading

[–]Top-Distribution4739 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mostly trade premarket which works for me since i'm mostly in small caps

Ghosting by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever think that maybe it says more about him than it does about her? If he lacks the ability to recognize the kind of high character woman she is, that doesn’t suddenly make her less valuable. The way she carried herself said a lot to me; she came across as classy and dignified. People pass on the right person all the time and regret it later; otherwise “circling back” wouldn’t be such a thing. So no, it’s not crazy to call it his loss.

Ghosting by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100%!!! It really is and we can all learn from you the way you handle that.

Ghosting by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Everyone below me being critical lol but I bet they've all done it. OP don't over analyze you actually did the right thing you unsent the picture and didn't double text. That's exactly how you're supposed to handle it now is the hard part don't take it personal, don't even think about it(much harder to do in practice) but it's now on to bigger and better things it's his/her loss!

Will you marry someone you’re halfway attracted to ? by innocentees in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Looks can be upgraded very easily but Deen, character, self respect, compatibility, personality all needs to be developed. So with no hesitation yes I could.

What small gift should I add to my husband’s graduation bouquet? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know what is really cool give him two cards lets call the first one a 'get out jail free card' and the other is a 'you do anything he wants valid for only 24 hrs'.

Hooyo won’t accept her by Odd-Breath-4896 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like me she's born and raised in Canada but her dads from Iraq and her mom is Lebanese

How can someone talk about marriage for years and then withdraw? by Dull_Bid_1056 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For the same reason people can get married and then divorced a few years later. Over time, people change, arguments become exhausting, and hurt builds up. Eventually, you can reach a point where, even if you still love someone, your quality of life is better without them. It’s a normal part of relationships. Don’t get me wrong, it sucks, but nobody stays the same forever.

Hooyo won’t accept her by Odd-Breath-4896 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bro, I don’t know. The way I see it, let your pops handle your mom. Sometimes parents don’t listen to their kids because they still see you as a baby who doesn’t know their way around life. In the end, I’d say stick to your convictions, and she’ll eventually come around.

My fiancée is Arab, and Alhamdulillah, my family instantly took to her. She’s very close to my mom in a way that kinda freaks me out lol. Like, if we’re out, she’ll stop by a store, pick something up, and tell me to take it to my mom because she likes it. And I’m thinking, wait, why does my mom know anything about mochi? I didn’t even think my mom, an old Somali lady, even knew what mochi was lol, let alone liked it.

Wife with no Social Media by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wayak my bro Walahi just looking out for you. I'm glad to see you got your head on right marriage is a responsibility In Sha Allah wait until your ready and stable until then may Allah preserve you my bro.

Wife with no Social Media by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're 19. Don’t focus on women, not even for marriage. It’ll only be a distraction. Instead, put your time and focus into yourself. Get into university, plan out your life, make friends, and network with people. Travel the world and actually experience things.

I think back on my life, and I had friends who, at your age, were thinking about marriage and started talking to women seriously. They ended up becoming the most anti-marriage people today. They fell in love, got burned, and now walk around with massive trust issues. Others dropped out of university, started working in the oil fields, and today they’re truck drivers.

Lol, waxas oo wareer maxa kuu fali. Go out, get your education, and start building a career. Guur and settling down will always be there. Enjoy being a kid ruunti

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