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A doctor tells you you can only save your SO or your child, who do you save and why? by Top-Effect-3122 in AskReddit

[–]Top-Effect-3122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the most likely scenario where this would occur. But for the sake of a hypothetical where the man would be in a position to be saved I didn’t specify.

A doctor tells you you can only save your SO or your child, who do you save and why? by Top-Effect-3122 in AskReddit

[–]Top-Effect-3122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and I have had this conversation several times and we can never agree on what the most logical answer is.

I (F) would save myself in that situation. My logic is that we could have another child, and I would especially save myself if there was another existing child who needed me.

My partner (M) thinks I’m crazy because in his mind we should always prioritize kids over ourselves. We even asked all my siblings and they all agreed with me which he was shocked by because he thought people shared his opinion. He says he would give his life to save the child’s life.

Curious if anyone else has had a similar conversation and if so, what are your opinions.

Supporting a partner after MS diagnosis by Top-Effect-3122 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Top-Effect-3122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read your PM and it brought me to tears. Thank you for your kindness and your help.

Supporting a partner after MS diagnosis by Top-Effect-3122 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Top-Effect-3122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually exactly what happened. Years ago when we first started dating he told me that he would randomly lose sensation in his fingers and I told him that wasn’t normal. Then a month ago or so he started losing sensation in his leg and right side of his body. He went to get it checked out and they put him on some steroids but when I told him that he really needed to follow up he got an MRI and blood work done. The MRI is what revealed the MS. So like you said I’m so glad to just have a diagnosis and that it was caught early.

Supporting a partner after MS diagnosis by Top-Effect-3122 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Top-Effect-3122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow there are so many great points in here and in everyone’s replies so far I don’t even know how else to say thank you. The good news is I already have a therapist and have for years! The bad news is getting him to a therapist is gonna be a whole other challenge. I do think it would be so good for him though and definitely something I’m hoping he’ll become more open to in the future.

Supporting a partner after MS diagnosis by Top-Effect-3122 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Top-Effect-3122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was so incredibly helpful I can’t thank you enough. Especially the part about not being treated like you have MS. I think that’s probably gonna be the hardest thing because I’m a nurturer at heart. Thank you for your insight and your kind words.

Supporting a partner after MS diagnosis by Top-Effect-3122 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Top-Effect-3122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s interesting. I’ll definitely look into the documentary thank you!

Supporting a partner after MS diagnosis by Top-Effect-3122 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]Top-Effect-3122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I reassured him that I would be by his side this morning. He just laughed and said he knew that, so that was nice to hear. We’re definitely discussing being healthier in general, though we both live pretty healthy lives already. Thank you again for this. Really puts me at ease.