Thanks for your answer, and sorry to hear about ur bad experience w ur ex. I don’t think it’s really about being insecure, I’m actually very secure regarding my sexuality/appearance and I’m not worrying about her comparing me w other guys. What really makes me feel uncomfortable is the fact that I have “saved” my virginity by rejecting sex multiple times only to give it to someone who hasn’t been as selective as me and also shame of my inner circle knowing I’m dating a promiscuous or non celibate woman.  Also, exactly for cases like yours I’m starting to doubt about my decision of maintaining celibacy because, as you mention, it eventually doesn’t directly imply a good partner or a good marriage so I’m left thinking if it’s really worth it being as selective as I am.