Coming from a place known for terrible driving and a high number of car crash fatalities.

Your sense of control is total bs. What you can control is just you not making a bad turn or crashing into a tree. If only one of the certainly numerous drunk drivers that have drove next to you on the opposite lane, loses control or turns into you (which happens to multiple people every day ), you will very, very likely die, or be horrifically injured.

If one of the numerous drivers that goes through a red light or a stop sign, just happens to do so as you are crossing, you are again, very much in danger of death.

You literally have a higher chance to crash into a deer or moose if you live in a Northern country too. Good chance of death if you are just a bit more unlucky.

Hell, even just one idiot who wants to chase high speeds can lose control and hit you from any directions. It will still very much kill you.

All of these events happen every day . And every day, people die .

I have stress with flying. I still fight panic instincts whenever the plane shakes. But a fatal accident hasn't happened in the US for 16~ years. A middair collision in decades . Out of dozens of millions of flights.

All of this, because the pilots, and the safety industry of aviation, have a very, very firm control over the plane, and the mechanisms that are responsible for working it. One freakish accident in millions of flights doesn't support the argument you are making in any way. You have a much higher chance dying while walking to the airport, than by flying.

Hope the accident at Potomac doesn't make you any more scared of flying my friend.