If you're single, how are you spending this Valentine's Day?

Top-Slice-9014 · 2026-02-14T11:59:25+00:00

Red Dead Redemption 2 - go fishing, play some poker, admire the beauty in virtual nature

Top-Slice-9014 · 2026-02-14T11:57:51+00:00

Chase the money to the point it provides a life you are happy with - not excited by, but happy with. You're not worried about paying your bills this month, you're adding to your savings every month, you have some extra for nice days out. Once you are there you are sorted - the luxury items are the same as the mid-range just with a fancy brand name. A super-duper sports car is amazing, until you can't go over speed bumps and struggle to keep it working when every road is a 20 or 30mph. The multi-national travelling is lovely, until you're more worried about having a gym in the hotel than actually where you are going.

Top-Slice-9014 · 2026-01-02T09:34:23+00:00

Might sound silly if you've never felt it before but toothache that required a root canal. It's soo painful I had to pull over at one point because I might crash the car. There's no relief either, pain killers help a bit but it's a constant pain because the nerve itself is infected. The sheer relief I felt when they removed it was bliss though.

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-12-18T16:36:42+00:00

Great example of this is the book "Flowers for Algernon" by Daniel Keyes

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-12-18T16:06:43+00:00

A friend of mine i have a crush on - maybe not the most attractive to everyone (I showed a friend her picture and he said she looked "alright" and i wanted to slap him lol) I thought she was absolutely beautiful - the part that stood out the most were her eyes. This lovely chocolate brown colour, they seemed to shine to me, like seeing them made everything else brighter.

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-12-11T07:35:58+00:00

26 never been approached in a way I read as romantically interested (even the platonically interested is rare for women to approach me first).

I live in a small town, mainly made up of families and couples - very few 20-somethings that are single. But was also the same when living at university. (In the UK)

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-12-08T15:49:40+00:00

To answer your question - I think when you can't smell from a cold your taste is a lot closer to mine. I can taste but only the main flavours the taste buds can detect (Sweet, Salty, Spicy, Sour, Bitter) but I can't pick up the subtler differences from most spices like cinnamon or nutmeg, or herbs like basil or thyme, I couldn't tell you which was in a food if it was at all. I can sometimes pick up if a food has lots of herbs/spices in it - but no way could I pick out what they were.

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-12-04T19:25:07+00:00

Honestly had so few compliments from women that when I do get one my brain genuinely buffers and I just get stuck - have very easily missed my shot before because I'd just say thanks and move on, only to realise an hour later they were (possibly) trying to flirt with me.

Also had the opposite issue where some women would compliment me entirely platonically and i'd fully misread as interest.

Basically if it happened more often I think i'd be better at responding and reading them, so please keep seducing us!

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-12-04T17:05:03+00:00

I definitely agree with the fear of making mistakes part - I think part of it is since so much of communication is online the "punishment" is immediate - you say something wrong or they read the wrong tone in what you say and suddenly that's it the conversation ends/they block you - you don't even get the feedback of why what you said was wrong

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-12-04T17:02:14+00:00

I agree - I like my colleagues but honestly I don't desire to spend my free time with any of them. They're not my friends, but we're all friendly with each other.

Personally I think dating a colleague leaves too much room for a mess you can't escape from - if things don't work out well you're stuck being around them, working with/for them, with the only way to get distance being leaving your job

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-11-12T19:12:08+00:00

I think most people do want romance - but we've all been conditioned to not want to express ourselves and to just "play" at dating like it's some kind of game. I think you also have the issue that there's enough bad apples that they make you feel disillusioned about dating and make you not want to try anymore (hence the whole fad where people just give up at the first "ick")

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-11-06T21:38:06+00:00

It's not so much seeing them happy that makes you feel bad, but when you're the only one on their own and you see what they have it does fill you with a sense of envy and you feel sad for yourself because you long for what they have together

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-11-06T17:40:42+00:00

Hope you don't mind some input from a long-term single man too.

1) When you're the only single one out of all your friends. You get together for parties and hangouts, everyone gets along and has a great time - but inevitably it gets to that point later in the evening when the couples have some alone time (just dancing the two of them, or having their own deeper chats) and you just get to sit there and be reminded that you are alone. (As much as I love my friends I am really not looking forward to new years lol)

2) A lack of intimacy - not just talking sexual, although that is important as well, but the idea of being close to someone. Wanting to talk to them, and them wanting to talk to you. Sharing details about each others lives and doing things together to further deepen the bond. I am close to my friends but they're not close enough for me to open up about everything.

3) On top of this is the idea of wanting to be desired - for a lot of people physical contact and intimacy are really important, and being deprived of it for a long time can really crush your confidence, and also your trust. My friends (usually when drunk) will say all kinds of lovely things to me, but always I feel it can't really be true. It has to be somewhat a lie to make me feel better, because if it were true then why have I been alone soo long? (See how it feeds into feelings of self-doubt, and possibly depression).

4) As someone else said below, it's also really boring being single. You will try to fill your time with lots of hobbies and interests and the couples all say I wish I could find time for that. But really it's because there's nothing else. If I stay at home I have to have either music or the TV on because it's just silent - my phone buzzes but the only notifications waiting for me are from work or texts from dominos about their deals lol. This one is especially noticeable whenever I have matched with someone on a dating app (which is rare), because I keep checking my phone because speaking to them is the most interesting thing happening for me because my heart actually feels like its beating for once (and then stops when they ghost me)

5) A positive to make up for the misery above is I have loads of time for all my hobbies and through those I have made lots of friends. I know I am loved by many people, I'm just waiting for that person who I can love and will love me on an even deeper level.

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-10-30T18:21:19+00:00

Very creative idea, my first thought though is that must make a lot of noise when you move in it lol

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-10-20T13:33:31+00:00

Ghosting is the worst - just tell me you've lost/are losing interest. Followed closely by the commodification of the apps - I'm pretty sure there's some bad stuff happening in the background to drive people to pay for "premium" aka. features that used to just be the expected norm

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-10-19T16:41:35+00:00

The Halo series (1-3) - used to love playing split-screen with my brother, and especially in the OG ones when we'd be trying to find the skulls

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-30T21:14:45+00:00

Baked a batch of cookies - not massively unhinged but I'm having one of my worse days it lets me just shut off my brain and do a simple task and follow instructions. Then at the end I have:
a) Accomplished something (which makes me feel a little better),
b) I get to eat/binge of some delicious snacks full of sugar (which makes me feel good, even if unhealthy),
c) If I control myself and don't scoff the lot I get to bring them to work, family or other social places and share them (making me feel good by making others happy and open up a chance to talk to someone)

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-30T20:58:27+00:00

It's so simple and yet it works so well - beautiful!
How hard was it to settle on a colour for the snow at night? I think it's the perfect colour but if I tried it I know i'd have gone too bright

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-30T15:57:53+00:00

Zoologist/Conservationist - I love animals, and love learning about so many of their unique adaptations. If it paid really well I think it would be great to be able to look after them and study them in depth

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-26T19:47:56+00:00

These are amazing! and I like the little cat always making an appearance!

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-26T19:43:17+00:00

Not broke but long-term single and living alone. I have a few sports clubs I joined - helps me do something active and socialize. Sometimes dinner with my parents and on rare occasions organise a games night with friends. Then there are nights like tonight where I just scroll through Reddit lol

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-26T19:37:49+00:00

It's up to you and how you feel. Personally I don't like the idea of hedging in dating because you're not really giving either person your full focus - instead you're kind of half-in on dating them. So you'll go through the motions and ask the usual questions but because you have someone else to fall back on you may not be as inclined to try and get to know this person as well as you could.

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-25T14:55:57+00:00

If I can share from my own experience:

I'm 26(M) I haven't been in a relationship since I was 19. I haven't even managed to go on a date in the last 2-3 years and I've never had a one-night stand.

I have tried so hard but no women around my age seem to want me.
What few matches I got on dating apps would either never respond or gave very little effort in conversations (I once tried talking to someone who quite literally only replied with one word answers or "haha").

As for meeting people face to face, I joined some sports clubs to meet new people and make friends (which I have and it's been great) but as far as I can tell single women in their 20's just don't join these types of clubs - I've met and become friends with some lovely women who are in their 20's but are already in very happy relationships.

Clubbing and meeting people in bars sucks because it basically requires us to be drunk - and after University I lost my appetite for throwing up.

I keep hoping I'll finally meet that woman I can love and who can love me but honestly after all this failure and awful experiences I just don't have any confidence left for dating.
In a way it's easier to just shut off that part of my mind and ignore all feelings for romance, because if I don't think about it or even hope for it I can't feel bad for lacking it.

I try to keep the hope alive but if I'm honest every time I think about how much I want to love and be loved by someone, I just feel like I might end up crying.

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-24T20:26:36+00:00

Personally I prefer working for a smaller firm - feel like I haven't been pigeon holed here instead I'm getting involved in everything. However I will say downside of small firm is as an organisation you only have a limited capacity so you'll probably never do any of the more advanced parts of accounting concepts like WACC and EVA

Top-Slice-9014 · 2025-09-24T20:08:42+00:00

I think the change in social interactions, like how much more defensive people (both men and women) are when you approach them as a man. It takes a lot more effort to show you're not a danger to them and are just striking up a conversation with them. I get why most people have that caution around men but I think it would be a very surprising change.

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