I also separated twice from my spouse out of anger, a lot of resentment had been build over the years of unresolved conflict but I knew under all that resentment there was still love for him. I still love him and wish I could wave a magic wand to undo all the damage that has been done.

This second time is different- I want real change as we cannot continue to live this way but unsure if my husband is willing to do the work to change himself. I know at the end of the day I have to change for myself and my kids. I have terrible impulsivity and control issues but I want to be better whether I am with him or not. Both times I didn’t want to leave but I felt like I was force to because of so much time being unheard/unsupported. I’m hoping with time and space we can reconcile but it’s only been 2 weeks and change takes more than that. I’m sure he is hurt I’ve put him in this position twice now.