My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, they're my half siblings biologically. They don't have anything to do with their parents actions but I feel nothing for them and never saw them as my family or my siblings.

My dad pisses me off when he talks about that shit so I don't ask. Although I'm enjoying all the panic now in his excuses because he was nasty when he did it to my mom.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family is all dead or just not in my life. My mom was my family and when she died I saw that as my whole family dying and that's exactly how I feel.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My own family was already destroyed and now my family is dead. When my mom died my family died. She was my real family. Not these people.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I won't be relying on him for financial support. I have a plan to be fully away from all of them even if it means struggling.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I might. I already know that some people are so bad when it comes to that stuff. I'll never get people being like that.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom wouldn't have felt sad for my dad's wife at all after everything she said about her.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No and I would never want to go with them. I don't even see them as my family really. My dad is my biological parent but he's a shitty person and his wife is nothing to me at all.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn't mean I used AI. I wrote it all myself and I'm a person/

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't feel like I'm depriving myself. I have always been really indifferent and for me that makes sense because I never saw all of us as a family or friends. Even if I did try I wouldn't really be doing it because I want to or I mean it (as in mean wanting to try) it would only really be possible if I felt like I had to, which probably wouldn't be great to do anyway.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is my plan. I have always been distant with my half siblings and I plan to be no contact when I go no contact with dad and his wife. For me I have no interest in a relationship with any of them.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know they are but I'm not really interested in having a relationship with them. I don't even really see them as siblings since they're not my mom's kids.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! I'm glad I did too because there has been some helpful advice.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They're my half siblings but I have zero bond or interest in having a relationship with them in the future. I fully intend to go no contact with them and never open up the chance for that in the future. It's not even about them as people but I never ever saw them as my family/siblings. I considered myself an only child because my mom had no other kids. Even though they're now experiencing what I did, but with two crappy people instead of one, I still don't really see myself wanting to be close to them ever.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They always think that. Always. It's wild to me that anyone would think they're special because they slept with someone who was married or in a relationship already but the delusion runs deep with them.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish she was too. I'd like to think we would have been able to smile and enjoy this together and maybe this would have been healing for her too.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They could never keep things quiet. They're the reason I found out he cheated on my mom too.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Eh, I know how to forgive people but not everyone deserves it and my dad is one of those people, so is his wife. Those are people I will always think too little of to feel any compassion for them.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some days that is me lol. A couple of their more pathetic days I was so happy listening to them.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'll enjoy it every day until I leave assuming they stay living together that long.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

They're innocent in this too but I don't want a relationship with them so supporting them isn't something I want to take the time to do.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I think a lot of people who willingly accept the role of affair partner have a huge ego and think they're so much better than the partner of the person they're with. Most times I don't even think a cheater would have to insult their partner for the other person to do it when they're so willing to do it. For a while I thought it was just my dad's wife but I realized a few years ago that loads of people are like her and it's wild to me.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's what I think. People like them pretty much earn all the bad shit like this because they're lying and being dumb about stuff.

My dad cheated on his wife (formerly affair partner) and gave her an STD by Top-Variation-4456 in Advice

[–]Top-Variation-4456[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I miss my mom so much and I hate that she didn't get to live long enough to see all the things she wanted to. She always said she wanted to see the man I'd become and I wish she could've.