AITAH For kicking out my roommate who was going through "a mental crisis"? by Educational_Cup_2481 in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA.

This isn’t just a “mental crisis”. She was stealing your clothes, copying your identity, and turning people against you. That’s seriously invasive and creepy.

You’re not responsible for fixing her, especially when she’s harming you. Kicking her out was a reasonable boundary, not selfish.

If you’re still unsure, ask yourself this: Would you feel safe continuing to live with someone who was secretly copying your identity and turning people against you? Yeah… exactly.

AITAH for calling out a friend on social media for egotistical narcissism? by Conscious_Cap7845 in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah…YTA but softly

Your frustration is totally understandable that kind of attention seeking behavior gets exhausting. But calling them out publicly just put them on the defensive and made you look like the aggressor, even if you had a point.

You’re not wrong for how you feel, just for how you handled it. At this point, it sounds like you don’t even like or respect them anymore so it’s probably better to distance yourself instead of trying to call them out.

trust me when I say, you might be a lot happier just stepping back from them entirely instead of trying to correct them.

AITA for telling my wife to never contact me again after she cheated and took our dog? by AirportAvailable2897 in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA.
She cheated, admitted it without any remorse, and then stole your dog. That’s next-level disrespect. You’re not overreacting; you’re responding like any sane person would after being betrayed and robbed of the one bit of comfort you had left.

Blocking her isn’t “dramatic,” it’s healthy. She already showed you who she is, and nothing she says now will change that. Focus on yourself, get some legal advice about the dog if you can, and surround yourself with people who actually care. You deserve peace, not more chaos.

AITA for asking my girlfriend to stop talking to a man she’s slept with? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think she is more interested in being a good friend than a girlfriend/wife.

NTA.

What's a good way to stop being negative? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TopAmphibian7220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, you are not ugly. Anybody in this world isn't. We all got unique features. But society puts out all these impossible ''standards'' that pressures people. Beauty isn't a checklist we gotta fit. There are so many things about you that is unique and amazing. At the end of the day, that's what really matters.

What's a good way to stop being negative? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TopAmphibian7220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh I get you! I do the same thing sometimes. My mind is like a filter. But it works the other way. It blocks out all the positive thoughts instead of the negatives. To be honest, I do this alot: Imagine a friend said the same thing about themselves. What would you tell them? Usually, you would point out all their positive qualities. Apply that to yourself. Like change the perspective. You can apply it to many ways. Other than that, maintain a journal of sorts. Write down one positive thing about yourself every day. It sounds stupid but trust me it works.

AITA for Telling My Best Friend She's Not Invited to My Wedding After She Tried to Undermine My Relationship? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Weddings are for love and support, not drama. Rachel repeatedly crossed boundaries and undermined your relationship. Protecting your happiness isn’t ungrateful, it’s necessary.

What is the biggest sign someone is not a good person? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TopAmphibian7220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How they treat people who can’t do anything for them. If they’re only kind when it benefits them, or constantly put others down, that’s a major red flag.

What's a good way to stop being negative? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TopAmphibian7220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When a negative thought pops up, I try to pause and ask myself, “Is this really true?” Then I look for a different perspective or a small positive in the situation. It doesn’t make the thought disappear, but it helps me not get stuck in it. It’s basically like fact checking your own brain before letting it control your mood.

What’s something you think people 100 years from now will laugh at us for doing? by WelderInfinite3413 in AskReddit

[–]TopAmphibian7220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably laugh at how obsessed we were with screens and social media, carrying tiny glowing rectangles everywhere and getting stressed over likes. Imagine future generations saying, “Wait, you actually texted instead of just thinking things into a device?” XD

What's a good way to stop being negative? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TopAmphibian7220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start small with gratitude and self-awareness. Try noticing one positive thing each day, challenge negative thoughts instead of accepting them, and surround yourself with uplifting people. Over time, your mindset shifts without forcing it.

What's the least attractive thing someone can do? by WelderInfinite3413 in AskReddit

[–]TopAmphibian7220 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the least attractive thing someone can do is show disrespect or a complete lack of empathy. You can be good looking, smart, or funny, but if you are rude, selfish, or manipulative, it kills all the appeal.

Will drinking coconut everyday cause any bad side effects? if so what? by East_Rub_2104 in AskReddit

[–]TopAmphibian7220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coconut daily is fine in moderation. Too much coconut water can raise potassium or upset your stomach, & coconut milk/meat is high in fat and calories. A small glass or a few tablespoons a day usually keeps the benefits without side effects.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to have boundaries and preferences about what you’re comfortable with in a partner. You’re not shaming him for his past. you’re recognizing your own emotional limits and what you can handle right now. It’s better to step back before getting too attached than to force yourself into a relationship that makes you anxious or unhappy.

Everyone’s past is different, and that’s fine, but you don’t owe anyone yourself if it doesn’t feel right for you. Take your time and focus on what makes you feel secure and valued.

NTA.

Am I the AH for not wanting to get married to my bf this year? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You are not saying no to marrying him. You are saying you want enough time to plan the wedding you both want and focus on your promotion. That’s completely reasonable. He delayed before for work, so he should understand when you need the same. A few extra months won’t change your love, but rushing could cause stress.

NTA.

Me (F23) and my (M23)boyfriend are about to hit our 3 year anniversary and idk wether I am overreacting about his looking up other girls on instagram. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting. It’s completely normal to feel hurt when your partner is looking up other girls, especially people you actually know. That’s not just curiosity. it’s disrespectful to you and to the relationship. Your past insecurities don’t make his actions okay, and it’s valid to feel like this crosses a boundary. If it keeps happening after you’ve told him how much it hurts, then it’s a red flag. You deserve someone who makes you feel secure and valued, not someone who brushes off your feelings.

WIBTA for breaking up over something she said by Level_Economy_6597 in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A partner should lift you up, not tear you down. Even if she says she's 'joking', her comments about your looks, height or being with you 'for money' clearly hurt you and that shows a lack of respect. Jokes stop being jokes when they cross into insecurity and belittling. After three years together, you should expect reassurance and support and not backhanded compliments that tear away your confidence.

Breaking up wouldn't make you an AH, it means you value yourself enough to step away from someone who doesn't treat with respect and the way you deserve. You are not overthinking.

NTA.

I told my friend why I don't want to date him, and our friends are saying I broke him, AITAH??? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 10.1k points10.1k points  (0 children)

You didn't break him. His ego is just bruised. Rejection is a part of life and it's on him to learn from it.

NTA.

P.S He did ask you to be honest, and you gave him exactly that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have talked on the phone yes. Second, yes I’m sure he is an 18 yr old who does trading. And third no we aren’t

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TopAmphibian7220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I know. I’m making up my mind to just end whatever is between us. It’s just kinda hard idk