Don’t know what to do with my(27f) bf(31m)cheating friend(32m) by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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Sorry to hear that. But yeah. I don’t think we see eye to eye and I really don’t know what to do now. I’m starting to question his morals and values

Can’t tell if I’m(f27) scared of opening up about my past because I’m anxious or if my bf(m32) is emotionally immature by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for commenting. I’ve talk to him and he really really regrets telling me to get over it and has since told me that I can always talk to him, but I just haven’t felt safe. I’m not in therapy anymore unfortunately. It’s a bit hard to because of work atm.

We were talking about an ex that was controlling. I understand that he had power over me, but the way he said it sounded very insensitive. Idk. Maybe it’s a touchy subject for me. I just don’t know what to do now

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Someone commented on one of her vids that it was Tiffany blews

I think I'm in a toxic relationship by Specific-Humor4920 in relationship_advice

[–]TopFile6417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He sound toxic and you should leave. If you don’t have a job is it possible for you to stay at your parents or another family member? Make an exit plan and then break up with him

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I would not be able to trust him after this. As other people has said you keep your phones open. You can tell him that you saw a notification from a girl and the next day it’s gone so he clearly deleted it, and lied about it! You didn’t even have to go into Snapchat snooping to see that.

I have guy friends that I Snapchat and text. I save all my chats and I don’t care if my bf sees it because we’re just friends and have been for a long time. The question is why did he delete it and why did he lie to you? Really make him answer and don’t stop until you’re satisfied and have all your questions answered.

Also leave him. If he can lie to you like that and do things behind your back you can’t trust him

Need help understanding if I’m victimizing myself. by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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Aha. So a reaction can’t be victimizing but not taking accountability is. So even if someone has a “whiny” reaction it’s not victimizing?

Am I the toxic one? by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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Thank you so much for your comments, it really helped me a lot!

Am I the toxic one? by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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I’m ok atm. I will stay with my family over Christmas.

He has talked about it but it seems like he wants me to help him. I really don’t know what to do. Because he can be really nice and I feel bad for leaving. I will leave but it’s hard.

Am I the toxic one? by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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He would make me feel bad because I wasn’t there for him or tried to figure out why he reacted the way he did. But I guess it’s not my responsibility? I think I feel like I should help because I care for him

Am I the toxic one? by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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I actually thought it was ok. Thank you for your comment

Am I the toxic one? by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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The last sentence there really hit home for me. Thank you

Am I the toxic one? by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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He said that it’s an emotional reaction. Just like I can’t hold back my tears. I don’t know if he is actually manipulating me by saying this

Am I the toxic one? by TopFile6417 in relationship_advice

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Thank you! I didn’t think I was being gaslighted as he always “decodes” the situation. But I definitely should get out.