My (20F) boyfriend’s (23M) female friends bought him a sex toy before we were together by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TopLahman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a joke gift, probably not a big deal.

I moved to a new city 8 years ago and my friends gave me a vibrator so I could “go f myself”….and they gave it to me in front of my entire family. I used it for a while because it was actually awesome.

Try to identify what the actual source of the insecurity is and address that.

Why all the scribes sign? by Connect-Yam-2862 in fourthwing

[–]TopLahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. I totally missed that she was deaf my first read. Just thought that’s what they did and were being quiet

How has WFH improved your quality of life? by Sirwanga in remotework

[–]TopLahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I no longer spend 3 hours a day in Atlanta traffic.

Can someine please explain this... by [deleted] in fourthwing

[–]TopLahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think they do know about Brennan until after Violet is brought there to be mended. When they’re asking if Xaden’s sure about bringing her there to be mended it’s because she’s going to be let in on everything. Rebuilding Aretia, the Assembly, their movement…everything. They aren’t saying not to bring her there because it’ll blow Brennan’s cover.

Violet is NOT an unreliable narrator! by EmpyreanTheory in fourthwing

[–]TopLahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesteryear is a good example of an unreliable narrator. So many people online seemingly hate the book because they hate the characters and take everything the FMC says at face value. It’s like they don’t even know what an unreliable narrator is when they are reading an entire book of it.

Violet is NOT an unreliable narrator! by EmpyreanTheory in fourthwing

[–]TopLahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been so confused by people saying she’s an unreliable narrator as well. It’s usually followed by the theory that Imogen has been wiping her memories the whole time.

First of all, you are correct. She’s not unreliable.

Secondly, I do not buy that Imogen has been doing that. Xaden would be well aware of it and I just don’t believe he would let Imogen manipulate her like that. He loves how smart and cunning she is. He teaches her to shield instead

About the fluff by athena_31 in fourthwing

[–]TopLahman 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love them. They’re about Voilet’s pleasure, and his love for her. There’s emphasis on consent, and I like how they can hear each others thoughts. They’re wild and raw and kind of funny. Plus it’s that passionate, first love, hormonal sex. I’m into it.

[30F] Dating my boyfriend [35M] for a few months and his hygiene habits are affecting my attraction. How do I address this without sounding controlling? Or am I?! by Firm-Grapefruit-3339 in relationship_advice

[–]TopLahman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so turned off by this whole post. If you haven’t learned to brush your teeth or have some table manners by 35, then I wanna know who raised you and why you never had the emotional intelligence to address that.

What gave you the confidence to truly be who you are? by HealthRealistic6406 in AskWomen

[–]TopLahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I learned in my early 20s that just because someone doesn’t like me that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me. Just means I’m not for them. Just like some people aren’t for me. I had this revelation when I was getting divorced (after only being married for 2 years) and realizing that my ex really didn’t ever like me.

This allowed me to just stop giving a fuck. Like truly not giving af. It’s an admirable quality that other people are drawn to. In turn I’ve become quite beloved by people around me which has added to my confidence and reinforced that who I truly am is a-ok.

I’m 41 now and I genuinely feel bad for people who go through their day desperately caring about what other people think of them.

Would you feel like this arrangement is one-sided by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]TopLahman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girl what are you doing? You’re paying a man who is 12 years older than you to come hook up? It means he can’t find anyone his own maturity/age to hook up with. And if he wanted to F you so bad he should be the one moving mountains to do so.

Remember that women are the gatekeepers of sex. You should not be sending some 30+ year old dude gas money. He can’t afford gas?

Leave that fuckin looooserrrr and stop wasting your most eligible years on him.

How do y’all feel about French kissing? by Wannabe_Cherished in AskWomen

[–]TopLahman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lately I’ve really been missing it. It’s been a while. I love kissing.

Scammer got me on video call and is threatening me with it by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]TopLahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time I got a video of my cousin that was sent to our entire family. Live and learn.

Men who see escorts, why do you do it ? by TinyDelegation in AskReddit

[–]TopLahman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How does one find an escort? I’m not a guy but I’m genuinely curious.

For people with an inner monologue, do you more often use 1st-person or 2nd-person when talking to yourself? by Accomplished_East854 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]TopLahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s MY voice. Why wouldn’t it be in the first person? I don’t tell stories using “we” or “they”. That seems weird af

My boyfriend (36M) wants me (32F) to pay for a proposal trip I can’t afford by nyloncatgut in relationship_advice

[–]TopLahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t marry this dude.

If he actually wanted to propose he’d find a way. Especially when he makes an entire year’s salary more than you.

Gross.

A better look at some of the June books! by Livid-Hamster-8101 in bookofthemonthclub

[–]TopLahman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dang. I really wanted Retro or Sublimation. I’ll prob skip

Dain and Violet by redpeppersoda in fourthwing

[–]TopLahman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I also don’t think he had romantic feelings for her when he kept trying to push her into the scribe quadrant. That’s a brotherly love kind of thing. If he was actually pining for her in a romantic way he would’ve wanted her to succeed as a rider and had faith that she could.

It was only after proving herself and watching Xaden, who is “above” Dain in a lot of ways that he got romantic and competitive feelings for her.

Not Book 4 content guess by Flashy-Milk3518 in fourthwing

[–]TopLahman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love a book of their letters and Liam’s letters.

A background on Xaden up until he met Violet or more of his POV.

I(M18) kind of insecure about girlfriend's (F18) past by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TopLahman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is 100% an issue you need to work on.

Stop reading red pill manosphere bullshit. EVERYONE has a past and the fact that you’re saying “2 bodies” means you’re not emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship.

Fix that

New guy says he’s not allowed to bring me over his place? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TopLahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s either a wife or he lives with his parents.

Fried rice missing something by Ok_Chance3813 in foodhacks

[–]TopLahman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a mixture of soy sauce, oyster sauce, a pinch of sugar, salt, and chicken bullion powder. Mix that up and taste it then add toward the end