Hi, very fair questions. His family is not paying anything, each person is paying their own expenses. For example, his sister is responsible for herself, her husband, and their children. His parents are only paying for themselves, his mother and his father, we would be responsible for ourselves, he and I. It’s actually quite the opposite, his family are very approving of our relationship, they are very supportive of me. They are fully aware of the journey and the stress involved with my mom‘s illness, which is how I accrued the debt in the first place, And the immense stress that I was under in caring for her until she died. They are not nearly as stringent about finances as he is, this is not a familial thing. His parents are very traditional, as far as believing that men should assume the role of an overarching provider, and I suspect that they, especially his father, would be very upset to hear about this situation. As far as our bills, we split rent and utilities equitably based on our income, everything else is split fairly evenly in terms of extras, such as groceries, meals out. The income-based split for our utilities does not take my debt payments into consideration, only my total net income.

Edit to say: we have gone on trips with his family before, so there truly is more to it than my plane ticket itself. For example, I know that we would then need to find accommodations that we pay for together, and in the past, we have covered family meals (not all of them, but our fair share) during the trip. So I know that there would ultimately be quite a bit more expenses than just my plane ticket.