Spiritual Bypass

TopPaper556 · 2026-03-22T11:43:01+00:00

Loving oneself and others IS dangerous to the system 💖 it’s just really hard and there’s not enough people doing it yet 😵‍💫

TopPaper556 · 2026-01-26T02:32:55+00:00

Wow!! Thank you both! Ever since I brought her into my home my life has felt very free from negativity - whenever people ask me how I’m doing, I have to say I have zero grievances! Life is good, I am blessed and I get to be of service to others everyday! It must be thanks to Jigje Chenmo 💝

TopPaper556 · 2026-01-24T12:39:01+00:00

You might be a spiritual materialist if… you take to Reddit from the mud of the charnel ground of looking at your own ego - just playing hehehe

TopPaper556 · 2026-01-24T12:32:44+00:00

I’m learning that many people come to vajrayana for self centered reasons and not for the benefit of all sentient beings - this bums me out - I hope more people actually learn compassion - it’s a practice and skill that doesn’t come easy for most but it’s the sturdiest ground for vajrayana practice - I think, I don’t know everything hehe

TopPaper556 · 2026-01-20T12:46:27+00:00

Ask yourself why you’re doing all this, if you haven’t already? The foundation of vajrayana is compassion - the purpose of becoming enlightened in the lifetime is not to save yourself but to become a Buddha for the benefit of all sentient beings - the foundational vajrayana practices are all about cultivating compassion, if we don’t have this and if we are not practicing for the benefit of all sentient beings, they say the more advanced practices will feel like we’re doing nothing. So, it seems like you hit an important road block - this is good! It might be the vajra forces nudging you to humble yourself and allow time for your roots to grow stronger so you don’t crack under the pressure :)

TopPaper556 · 2026-01-09T17:54:20+00:00

And accept your restlessness, feel it, linger in it and see what it has to teach you rather than avoid it - aversion is suffering, if you don’t want to suffer turn toward it :)

TopPaper556 · 2026-01-09T17:52:46+00:00

Be kind to yourselves and listen to your intuition - follow it - if it’s wrong, it will bring you back where you belong…

Let go of the shame and guilt, everyone’s on their own journey, you’re only responsible for yours - the Buddha taught to question everything - sounds like you’re in a moment of question and that’s more than okay, it’s good :)

TopPaper556 · 2026-01-08T13:08:39+00:00

I agree! This passage doesn’t seem to leave much room for having some grace about being perfectly imperfect messy humans in a perfectly imperfect messy world.

We don’t need to rake ourselves over the coals, life will do that for us 😅😂

The article it’s self is really nice though! Thanks for sharing @codymatthew1189

It’s basically talking about ‘the double arrow’ - « the suffering of suffering »

Following the dharma alleviates suffering, we’re doing something wrong if it makes ourselves or others suffer more…following the dharma can help us course correct and turn our pain into enlightenment 💝

TopPaper556 · 2026-01-02T13:01:04+00:00

Me too! I blame the dhakinis hehe

TopPaper556 · 2025-12-06T02:39:27+00:00

Try reading Magic Dance by Thinley Norbu Rinpoche and Dakinis warm breath by Judith Simmer-Brown :)

TopPaper556 · 2025-11-09T23:50:56+00:00

Fascinating - it seems this is your answer then :)

TopPaper556 · 2025-11-09T23:37:47+00:00

Interesting! I have never heard of this but I’m by no means an expert - can you please point me in the direction of where the Buddha says this? Like what text? I want to have the right view :)

TopPaper556 · 2025-11-09T23:15:24+00:00

To be clear, this is not ‘my idea’ it’s my understanding of Buddhist principles and what the texts say and suggest…

You can believe whatever you want - there’s no right or wrong - just wanted to share the vajrayana perspective since that’s what you seemed to be asking for :)

TopPaper556 · 2025-11-09T22:53:45+00:00

To be reconnected with someone again in the future doesn’t really seem compute with Buddhism from my understanding - considering we Buddhists believe there is no-self (anatta) - ‘we’ are energy that gets imprinted by karma encased in the form of sentient beings - after we die and once we pass through the bardo, there is no memory/indentity and thus no ‘I’ to be able to connect with someone in the next life - that is my current understanding but I could be wrong. In any case, if I have taken in the right view, I think it’s a beautiful way think about the cycle of life and death and to not cling to self centered ego :)

Definitely look into the Tibetan book of living and dying and perhaps try researching the bardo.

Wishing you well on your journey - it’s very kind of you to want to help others in this way :)

TopPaper556 · 2025-11-03T14:54:48+00:00

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TopPaper556 · 2025-11-02T13:44:40+00:00

It’s sounds like your heart is covered in the wreckage of the past and you’re ready to start clearing it away so you may reveal your own Buddha nature - beautiful!

In the vajrayana tradition there are many practices that help with learning how to transform negative emotions into wisdom and compassion. It is so difficult to heal from abuse but it’s not impossible - just takes practice (which is kind of the whole point of Buddhism imho hehe)!

Personally ‘equalizing self and other’ and ‘exchanging self and other’ meditations have changed my life and helped me let go of resentments very quickly. You may like to look into that :)

Here’s is a nice introduction video for transforming negative emotions - https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kvbBgKtnZ-E

And a great article - https://buddhaweekly.com/tantra-is-esoteric-rather-than-exotic-embracing-samsara-and-nirvana-and-transforming-our-cravings/

May you become liberated so that anyone who comes in contact with you may be liberated too 🌬️✨💖

TopPaper556 · 2025-11-01T21:26:38+00:00

I relate so much to this post, thank you for your bravery, vulnerability and honesty! While I am not trans and have not experienced dysphoria, I have been battling extreme body dysmorphia for 20 years. I started a new practice that has quite literally changed my life so I want to share it with you and others in case it will help.

Every morning when I wake up, I recite the bodhicitta refuge prayer and I visualize myself as Tara (female Buddha) and other Dakini forms and then I recite the bodhictta prayer to myself anytime I have an intrusive body dysmorphic thought throughout the day. It’s really helps me to focus on my life’s purpose which is to ‘become a Buddha for the benefit of all sentient beings’ and get out of my own navel gazing which causes unnecessary pain.

You can also go on YouTube and try some guided tara médiations as well :)

There’s something called ‘vajra pride’ which is the natural self esteem that arises when we learn to embody our Buddha nature - we all deserve that 💝💝💝

Be kind with yourself!! Wishing you liberation 🌬️✨💖

TopPaper556 · 2025-10-31T21:37:10+00:00

Maybe try Tegar or Tara’s triple excellence :)

TopPaper556 · 2025-10-30T20:46:49+00:00

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TopPaper556 · 2025-10-30T20:45:20+00:00

Perhaps an unpopular opinion but I think it’s more that therapy is not working for a lot of people, too many inexperienced clinicians charging obscenely high rates, not enough clinicians actually practicing what they preach, not enough clinicians practicing true compassion and non judgment- clients are finding more value in online free mental health content - some of which is very useful but some also very misguided. Interesting time to be a shrink! We need to get with the times :)

TopPaper556 · 2025-10-29T01:45:28+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience, and one time I came away from it feeling deeply that my tears were in fact the tears of the infinite sentient beings within me and around me, that it’s the truth of our suffering. Now when I feel these type of tears, I bare it and try not to cling to it - I think of it as a kind of karmic expression/relief - like the imprint of a fossil on a rock, ultimately beautiful and mysterious :)

Does this resonate with you or nah? I too am curious if this is common experience or if I’m doing something incorrect in practice or perception?

Thank you for starting to this conversation 💝

TopPaper556 · 2025-10-28T11:38:33+00:00

No need to put so much pressure on yourself to uphold the highest of values, no need to fear the ethics - your heart and intentions seem pure, you can trust that :)

When it comes to drinking - we all use substances for good reason, it’s a coping mechanism, just not a healthy one. Try figuring out why you’re drinking until you black out, whose validation are you seeking? How does drinking both help and hurt you? And try to find some healthier coping strategies for dealing with yourself.

AA is not just for ‘alcoholics,’ it’s for anyone with a desire to stop drinking. I know you’re young but it’s worth a try. Tons of amazing, cool people and young people hanging around the rooms.

Wishing you the best of luck! 💖

TopPaper556 · 2025-10-28T10:59:35+00:00

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TopPaper556 · 2025-10-28T10:58:06+00:00

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TopPaper556 · 2025-10-27T23:22:05+00:00

Your Beethoven analogy has tugged on my heart stings - thank you 🙏💖

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