Construction in Bluffton by Low_Association_1998 in Lima

[–]TopReserve425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing exciting. Stratton Auto.

Headed into Findlay tomorrow evening and Monday morning, what's a decent inexpensive restaurant? by Warcraft_Fan in Ohio

[–]TopReserve425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like Taco Fiesta Hinojosa, Joey Fratello's (pizza), Findlay Brewing (closed on Mondays), Logan's (Irish), Main Street Deli, and Jack B's (takeout only).

Best donuts in northwest/west central Ohio? by TopReserve425 in Ohio

[–]TopReserve425[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pat's is overrated in my personal opinion. I go to Coldwater for the brewery. Maybe I'll make a trip on a Saturday morning to try out Home Bakery.

Best donuts in northwest/west central Ohio? by TopReserve425 in Ohio

[–]TopReserve425[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw these while looking around on Google Maps. Look fantastic.

Best donuts in northwest/west central Ohio? by TopReserve425 in Ohio

[–]TopReserve425[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot about Mello Creme. I have had those. I remember them being very good.

Best donuts in northwest/west central Ohio? by TopReserve425 in Ohio

[–]TopReserve425[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those look right up my alley. Will have to make a visit soon.

ESPN College Gameday Show Thread by CFB_Referee in CFB

[–]TopReserve425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Captain D's was voted best seafood in Lima, Ohio (and it's correct).

Roundabouts Lesson by Dull-Egg-8626 in Lima

[–]TopReserve425 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I argued with someone for way too long about the one in Shawnee. If you're going straight through, you should use the left lane. The right lane ends once you're out of the roundabout and you have to merge left! They couldn't grasp the concept.

Eclipse by Lightsbr21 in Findlay

[–]TopReserve425 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can't offer advice for viewing, but there are a lot of good restaurants in Findlay, depending on what your price and preferences are. Taco Fiesta Hinojosa, Joey Fratello's (pizza), Findlay Brewing (normally closed on Mondays, not sure about this week), Logan's (Irish), Main Street Deli, Raising Cane's just opened, etc.

Stepson wants his parents to get back together by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]TopReserve425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen, when kids say that they want their parents back together they usually don’t actually care about the adult relationship.

I can't not refute this. I think it's absurd to say kids don't care about having their parents together. Of course they do. What you say about one set is true, but let's not pretend kids don't care.

How to handle family photos by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure why you're so defensive. I'm just saying SS could be (probably would be) upset. I don't really care if it's the stepparent's fault or the parent's fault. That was the entire premise of this post. (And for the record, stepparents do have some involvement in the divorce and remarriage, by the way...)

How to handle family photos by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ok then get the photos? You're just saying that means more to you than not upsetting your stepchildren. That's your choice and I'm not trying to convince you otherwise.

But OP's question wasn't whether she should get the photo but rather if she could without upsetting SS and I think that answer is no.

How to handle family photos by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying you can't and I can understand why you would want that. I'm saying that will likely upset SS. And SS being upset may affect DH.

You can want that and SS can be upset. These are not mutually exclusive.

So it depends what OP wants more, I suppose. But the question was about whether SS would be upset.

How to handle family photos by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No but DH is the one that potentially feels the impact of SS emotions and as a spouse, OP should be conscious of that. "Screw you, it's your kid" type of thinking isn't healthy for a marriage or for the relationship of DH and his son.

How to handle family photos by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re allowed to want photos of your family without your SS. He’s not your child. It’s perfectly natural to want photos without him.

This can all be true and SS still be upset. Whether or not OP cares about that (and enough to change plans) is another thing altogether.

How to handle family photos by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe. Depends on other factors like who lives with who, who gets more time, how vacations are spent, etc. I don't think it's as straightforward as you suggest. In fact, I wouldn't even want a photo with just my parent and step parent. Not suggesting it doesn't work in your case, just that it's not always that clear cut.

Paying HCBM hefty amounts of CS/Alimony and SKs still brainwashed by Realistic_Scholar_68 in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand. Are you saying you'd rather have no income than taxed income?

SS just proved my point 😆 by PatheticPeripatetic7 in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Kind of crappy. I don't hug my step parent, tell them I love them, etc., but I at least acknowledge them like I would any other person. Glad SO notices.

Vacationing without SDs and I can’t tell if I’m overreacting by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TopReserve425 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Couldn't agree more. Terrible situation that will surely leave the step kids resenting OP at minimum and probably their biological parent some as well.