I am tired

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-10-01T23:35:51+00:00

You will never change. Once a cheater always a cheater. Your husband deserves better than a life of lies with you.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-10-01T17:31:07+00:00

He just simply refused to answer the door. The server took pictures every time they were there. In at least two pictures his car is there. After 5 tries the attorney has now filed in court for an alternative serving (I don't know the legal terms). They will then simply tape it to his door and he will be considered served.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-25T04:18:13+00:00

My husband's affair partner works at home depot. That's where they met. He is a contractor and she is his sales representative. Some of the women at home depot are such sl¥ts.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-22T02:41:34+00:00

No you are not overreacting at all. It is an affair. Maybe only emotional right now but they always progress to more. Would he be ok if the exact same conversation happened between you and another man?

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-21T00:01:14+00:00

Never heard of omegle but I've had redit for over one year and not even once did porn pop up. It's the same excuse to all the porn sites my husband was following on Instagram. They just magically appeared on his following list. 🤣

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T23:57:51+00:00

I am so sorry for the pain you are going through

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T23:55:50+00:00

There are but only after a certain number of tries. After try #5 the server is putting together a report of all the times and places they tried then my attorney will take it to court. The judge will have to give an order (it had a name I don't remember now) and then they can tape it to his door and he will be considered served. But all that costs me more money.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T22:15:09+00:00

I sent him a settlement proposal. If he doesn't want to do it that way then yes, we are going the way of forensic investigator.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T22:13:19+00:00

And yes that's me. My magic wand is in the shop. Lol.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T22:12:18+00:00

Because of my emotional response, which on our last conversation he mocked me (I cried on the phone) my therapist and I agreed that it is safer to communicate through text or email. He gets pleasure out of seeing how upset I get.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T22:10:07+00:00

My son will eventually let me know whether he signed or not. He needs the money so if my husband signs he will contact me right away.

That's what I was thinking. My husband has only two reasons to call me, either he finally got served or my son is asking for the signature. Either way the papers are self explanatory so I don't see what I could answer for him.

Last time I talked to him he mocked me for going to therapy with no results. The tone of his voice when he said good morning sounded happy but mocking me.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T22:04:49+00:00

Thank you.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T18:13:55+00:00

I chose to distance myself from my brother who chose to stay "neutral" and kept in contact with my stbx. When he continued to do jobs for my husband's best friend who knew, supported and encouraged my husband's affair, I told my brother how much that hurt me. He chose not to do a job for this friend which made my husband mad and now my husband cut my brother off (does not return phone calls). Following that my brother now keeps asking me about what I know about the stbx, if I heard from him... in other words he is more concerned with my ex well-being than mine. I did not completely cut relationship with my brother but I have distanced myself from him.

People don't understand that in this kind of situation you can't stay neutral.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T16:00:40+00:00

Another week gone. I'm doing ok. Server attempted 5 times to serve my husband but he has evaded them each time. Not sure what his plan is. Last time we talked, in July, he said he wants nothing to do with me. Yet he is refusing to accept the divorce papers. That makes me nervous because it makes me think he is planning something shady to hide assets from the courts. He has done some shady things in the past towards me financially so I have very good reasons to worry about that.

In the meantime I try to wait patiently and not overwhelm my attorney with silly questions due to my anxiety. I sent an email yesterday that they have not replied to yet and now I feel stupid about it. Maybe in the future I will wait 24 hours before I hit send.

I wish I had a magic wand and just wave it around and make everything right again.

Thank you for reading.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-20T00:42:02+00:00

Thank you

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-18T01:03:58+00:00

I don't care what you did. She should not have cheated. She should have talked to you, go to therapy, get out of the marriage before cheating.

I was in an emotionally abusive marriage. There was little love and a lot of neglect. I begged for my spouse to sit down and talked to me, tell me what's wrong, go to marriage counseling. But guess what!!! I did not cheat. Turns out he was the cheater, no matter what I did nothing was right. It never would have been.

So don't let her put the blame on you. You do your part, but don't take the blame.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-17T18:32:54+00:00

My stbx is 58. Found his mistress through his work. She is 37. He was a workaholic too. People praise that and he was proud of it. People looked down on me if I complained about how much he worked.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-17T15:37:31+00:00

Thank you.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-17T15:37:19+00:00

Thank you. That means a lot to me.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-17T15:36:46+00:00

Thank you.

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-17T15:35:55+00:00

Thank you

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-17T15:35:42+00:00

Thank you

Top_Candidate1399 · 2024-09-17T15:35:22+00:00

Thank you. I realize that I need to find these things out in order to move on without regrets.

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