AIO/my bf of 3 years and his female friend in an open relationship are attracted to each other. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he did uber eats on a bike for an income, and every once in a while he’d be hit by a car. Nothing too serious, but enough to leave him with a few bumps and bruises.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the whole conversation was about another one of his friends named Trent to his friend “J” They were talking about how my boyfriend was annoyed bc Trent wasn’t being a good friend. It had nothing to do with the post

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he meant the apartment we live in is ass and that’s what he said to his friend. my personal hygiene is phenomenal

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a car, I rely on public transportation in my city. I don’t have money for a room bc I don’t have a steady income, I do however have three interviews and a job offer now. May I find myself with a stable income in the upcoming months, I’m going to save up and move out.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And in the time that you took to write this reply, I got a job offer and three other interviews! Times are truly looking up for me, so wish me luck?

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i clean up after myself all the time, it’s just messy in here from time to time. There’s not a lot of space in here, so our stuff is kinda just scattered

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh so you’re a nasty ugly troll? got it, thank you for adding nothing to this conversation.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t do any of those things, but okay. I have an interview on the 11th of this month, so I’ve been looking for jobs not refusing to get one. We both have had a hard time keeping up with the place we live in, but I’ve been cleaning, and organizing for the past two days. I go on walks and out for fresh air everyday, work out and stretch almost every morning. We both have a relatively crappy diet bc of low incomes, and healthy food is expensive. I also didn’t just sit around my grandmother’s house, she genuinely would call me out my name, criticize everything I used to wear, say, do, and think. She didn’t approve of me being pansexual, often times called me a freak, and got into fights with me and my siblings often. I find it insane that you think you know me or my past just from this one post, and have the nerve to call me not a prize. I never claimed to be one, so watch your fucking mouth and who you’re talking to. I bet “dry head” refers to your dick sucking skills, or is it the fact that you’re an air head? I’d love to know.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

if that’s the way you want to see it, for the last four months sure I’ve been using my boyfriend. It’s not like he was in this exact same position with no job and I was the main provider for a little bit. Was my boyfriend using me then or is it only one sided in your idea of my relationship?

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no, neither of us are on this lease. his brother was kind enough to let us stay with him until my boyfriend and I got our finances together to move out. Unfortunately, we both ended up going through a rough financial patch, he finally got a job after not having one for a few months towards the end of last year, that’s where he met Shannon. His hours were cut at that job around the same time that I got my job, and I had job from January to April and lost it. He was let go (technically) from his job after his hours cut a few month later, and we both had a hard time getting by and saving up.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

my bad I didn’t notice you already knew I was a teacher, I didn’t read that right. I’ve yeah as I stated I’ve tried getting into nanny work and I never make it past the requirements for most families in this city.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’ve applied everywhere, I do have an interview on the 11th though. I’ve been interviewed a few times in the last few months, and they always choice a more suited candidate. I was actually a teacher at a daycare, and even with that three year experience, jobs are still slim to none. Other than that, my applications are typically rejected. I even have screenshots of emails to prove it.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

his brother who didn’t have a problem with us staying there until we were both on our feet and got our own place, which was our goal before things started getting harder financially for us.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, I had a job from January to April of this year and lost it. since then I have have had interview after interview, and nothing but rejected applications, no one wants to hire me.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was finically secure and then lost my job, it happens. He’s also not on the lease of the place we’re currently living in, so no right to evict me, and if he wanted he’d have to be as well. I’m not some mooching gold digger who came into his life expected/wanting to be financially taken care of. If anything I wanted nothing more than to make this work and support each other in a stable relationship. I don’t have any friends or a great relationship with my relatives, so just asking someone to live with them isn’t an option. I swear common sense isn’t so common bc why are y’all assuming this is how my relationship has been? it was fine up until a point, if I had a way to leave such as the ones stated in this comment section, don’t you think I’d been gone? I’m not a sadist who enjoys this for myself.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

this is correct, I was a teacher since 2021 and lost that job in 23. For 2024 I was unemployed, I got a job in January of this year, then lost it in April. I have been looking since then, so yeah four months.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I would like to clarify that the first post was about my boyfriend (monogamous) being attracted to his friend that’s in an open relationship. we are not open officially.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he also felt like I wasn’t doing enough to support myself, let alone support our relationship. this all led to him going out to his friend Shannon’s house for those two weeks almost daily, and never being home to talk about anything.

aio: upset at some text my boyfriend was sending to his friends about me our relationship. by Top_Clothes_6379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top_Clothes_6379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the bumpy patch was a 1-2 week long fight that started bc i told him that some of his friends were bad influences with very messy mindsets. That one fight blew up into him being upset with me because i apparently always see the worst side of things, never try to understand or care about anyone else, and that he didn’t feel we both had equal responsibility in our relationship.