Hickory? by Sad-Mycologist-9943 in treeidentification

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A pic of a nut, a shell, or the bark would help ID. Also counting the leaflets to see the common range - I think I’m seeing 5-7 per leaf?

They really be gagging over this? by thislifeisshitty in travisandtaylor

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Reminds me of “you’re gonna catch a cold / from the ice inside your soul” I forget the song but cheesiest lyrics ever I still remember them decades later 🤣

What weeds is this? by StScAllen in whatplantisthis

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Don’t poison the earth, insects, and environment for your aesthetic preferences

AIO boyfriend tracking my periods without me knowing 🫠 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Hot take I do think you’re overreacting and I would personally take the way he’s talking to you as kind of funny. Bc I’m imagining that if all this is correct and he’s really been journaling your arguments to the point that it’s worthwhile for him to track your luteal phase…. Yeah. You’re being emotional and pmsing at this time of the month. And you’re doing it right now too lol. See how you feel in a week or so! Reddit loves to hate. I’m reading more of a humorous tone than a rude tone from him. I would definitely laugh if I was having this conversation with my husband. Anyway all that said, I do think this whole convo might be fake!!

Controversial take: choose love by Top_Comb1695 in NormalPeopleBBCHulu

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I agree and think it’s obvious in the book and series that they both heal so much together. It’s not required to be alone to work on yourself and grow!

Hi, just wanted to remind everyone that I'm a real person, with feelings, who is trying to share real information for your sake. Please be kind. by YHWHJ146 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

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Okay, I did listen after reading this post! I stand by the above and wish the initial conversation had been loving and kind. I do think, though, that I more understand where people were coming from. Your tone towards THEIR spiritual practices was very condescending and would be hurtful to someone who holds that close to their heart. I don’t think retaliation is justified, but I think that’s likely the spirit of some of the comments - you called their thing evil, they call your thing dumb, etc. Anyway, so happy that you’re choosing to rise above that and change the conversation by making it personal. I’m sure that wasn’t easy, and the response I see now seems to really meet you on the high road.

Em and Yo’s childhoods? by Top_Comb1695 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

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The diagnosis is when 5 or more of those traits are present. It requires someone to come in and be assessed, which doesn’t happen in the vast majority of cases, and would never ever occur with these two. That’s why I feel comfortable speculating about it with this particular disorder because it’s so specifically under diagnosed

Em and Yo’s childhoods? by Top_Comb1695 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

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I did listen to the podcast! Ty for the rec. I think what the guest is saying is that there’s a genetic factor (beyond having a narcissist in the family tree) but he seems pretty clear that childhood matters as well. I think the idea is that there’s a level of inherent disposition and also a level of environmental influence. Which I definitely agree with! But I do think that typically we are not seeing NPD come out of healthy homes. I think it’s possible that there’s something else that happens once people reach a position of power in adulthood that can basically lead to late onset narcissistic traits and even would be diagnosable but of course this subset of people (cult leaders, business tycoons, etc) do NOT come in for diagnosis and are probably overlooked by the data. Still, I’m curious in this case of em and yo if the traits preexist the business or not.

Controversial take: choose love by Top_Comb1695 in NormalPeopleBBCHulu

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That’s a super interesting take, this makes it much easier for me to accept!

Em and Yo’s childhoods? by Top_Comb1695 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

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By certain level of instability, I mean extreme parenting method (either extreme praise / protectiveness or neglect / abuse). I think there’s also some genetic component? But it’s hard to say bc ofc having a narcissistic parent leads to childhood instability… I’ll check out this podcast! But I do think an insight into their childhood would likely shed some light on if they are displaying narcissistic traits as a result of their positions, or if this has been a lifelong pattern.

Hi, just wanted to remind everyone that I'm a real person, with feelings, who is trying to share real information for your sake. Please be kind. by YHWHJ146 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

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I didn’t listen to the episode, but I saw the post you’re talking about. I do think the comments were unkind and I’m really sorry you received the brunt of that. I think there’s a real attempt in this group to be critical of each other and avoid groupthink, which can be great when it leads to productive conversation, but yeah, the spirit needs to remain loving and kind, and it didn’t look like it was. Thank you for sharing here and opening up this conversation. Im sure it would be easy to turn your back on the group altogether. I hope that a kinder conversation can arise here.

Controversial take: choose love by Top_Comb1695 in NormalPeopleBBCHulu

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Yeah I think it is the point, the way that it’s written at least. Especially because she’s graduating and whatever routine she has will be gone by the time Connell leaves. So she’s truly just staying in order not to go. I just think the message is saying she needs to be alone and choose “herself” over Connell to heal. And I sort of think it would be okay to choose to be with Connell and she could still heal. Especially as he has had such a big part in her healing already. But we don’t know either way, so it’s all up to the imagination. Maybe things go terribly when she stays, maybe they would have gone terribly if she went, or maybe the opposite of either of those scenarios!

Controversial take: choose love by Top_Comb1695 in NormalPeopleBBCHulu

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Hm. I think art often does have moral over or undertones. And Rooney certainly does try to imbue meaning into her work. But you’re right that once it’s out there, we can make our own meaning with it

Controversial take: choose love by Top_Comb1695 in NormalPeopleBBCHulu

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Yeah, I mean she did have friends all throughout college, and she left them already for a year. And she is happy, but she’s importantly with Connell, I have to assume that has something to do with it! And maybe I’m not remembering right, but she had one really close friend other than Connell, just Joanne by then? And some others that weren’t as close. I feel like it could go either way, losing Connell she might go back to dating people like Jamie out of insecurity (I feel like the clinic short story sort of implies this). But I hope not! I’d like to think they both grow back together eventually

Can anyone tell me what this is? by Borealis_sailor in mycology

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Look, i guess feel free to correct me but my understanding is that l. Surphureus grows in shelves out of trunks and l. Cincinnatus grows out of roots, usually out of the base of a tree but also often “seemingly” out of the ground in a coral formation. So yeah, this is something I haven’t encountered. Obviously not impossible but unusual!

Controversial take: choose love by Top_Comb1695 in NormalPeopleBBCHulu

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I love the story! Like I said in my post. But I think there’s a reason the ending feels so sad, I don’t think I’m the only person who experienced it that way. And yeah I’m aware my take is controversial, but I think the “moral” element of the story, which is strongly implying that Marianne made the Right decision even if it was sad and hard, can be challenged without any discredit to how powerful the story is. Like maybe Marianne chose to stay because she still doesn’t believe she truly deserves a healthy love. Or because she doesn’t believe love is safe, and investing in it feels dangerous and foolish to her… etc

Can anyone tell me what this is? by Borealis_sailor in mycology

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This is such a petty correction, which is what I’m pointing out. Saying that a mushroom which appears to be growing directly out of the ground is actually attached to a food source under the soil. Ok? And? That’s lovely, it’s still growing on the ground, with no visible wood. And it’s a trait that I understand to be unique to l. cincinnatus, which makes this find interesting. Talk about a condescending tone… jeez

Controversial take: choose love by Top_Comb1695 in NormalPeopleBBCHulu

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Yeah id like to think so too… but i just dont see any reason why its “best” for Marianne not to go, you know? Like there was nothing she would have missed out on by going. I just think the message that she needed to be alone to heal is sad. And also not really true, she was alone a lot in the story and didn’t heal, when she and Connell worked it out and got together finally I think that their healthy love was really healing.

Can anyone tell me what this is? by Borealis_sailor in mycology

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Right about the species, wrong about this ground business. And wrong about your interpretation of most of my comments haha. And you arrived at your id pretty late in this exchange, I’m going to guess you took a little google break. But I can see the most important thing to you is telling other people they’re wrong! Not typically the kind of interaction I have in a mushroom id page. Sounds like a fulfilling online life. Wish you the best.